Have you ever fell in love with someone and they did not feel the same way. If so how long does it take to get over something like that. Because it has happened to me. And it was my first love. We don't see each other now and she is out of my life but I can't get her out of my mind. She is all I think and dream about I even cried about her a few times. I mean we never even went on a date I just felt really close to her is this normal. And how long did it take you to get over someone that did not love you the same way you loved them.
2006-10-27 22:59:00 · 22 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
months to years
2006-10-27 23:00:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don`t say how old you are, so I guess you are quite young. I can remember how awful this feels, the world has stopped spinning, you ache `inside`, you can`t eat or sleep and she is never out of your `mind` you feel devastated .You think that you will always be feeling this way, but you won`t, believe me.One morning soon you will wake up and realise that you do not feel quite so sad, and every morning after that you will feel better and better. In no time at all, you are going to wonder why you felt that way at all.You must make yourself get back into the swing of social life with other friends, that will help. I`ll tell you what, when you are back to feeling your old self again, why don`t you tell us all (In the form of a question of course, because we are not allowed to "chat" on answers)I
2006-10-27 23:17:06 · answer #2 · answered by Social Science Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i totally get what ur going through, cause i just went through this whole ordeal myself. i can't say exactly how long it will take, cuz it really depends on the person him or herself. firstly it depends on whether u even want to get over the person. i know its a bit stupid, but its true. like when u really like or love someone, n u know they are just perfect for u, they bring out the best in u and u just love them oh-so much, u would probably tell urself, whats the point of getting over the person at all? even if u know the person doesnt like u, it happens. you just gta tell urself that u have to move on and once u do that, the whole getting over the person process will become much easier and sjorter than it wouldve been should u decide u DONT wanna get over the person. after that if u take the right steps, like keeping urself ultra busy so u dont think about the person, and try to do other things that u love to do (OTHER than thinking of her) then u may be over her before u know it.
just try understanding why u feel the way u do, and just understanding that u should get over her cuz its the best for u, and it wont take too long.
gdluck :)
2006-10-27 23:21:09 · answer #3 · answered by Meme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had feelings for someone that didn't feel the same, and like you, we never went on a date..... that's probably why I had them :o) or we dont want to accept that they didnt feel the same, so we take it more personally.
Mine doesn't really count, because I never even met the person and I think he wasn't what I first thought anyway.
But when you stop beating yourself up about the fact that they dont have the same feelings, you realise that it's not them that you want at all.......who needs that?! Not me! I deserve better and so do you. After all how great can they be if they dont care like you. And thats what stopped me thinking like that. It passed very soon after we stopped talking and I got a grip!
Good luck!
2006-10-28 01:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi... everyone is different...you are mourning your lost love. You will go on and find other loves...we all do and we all feel that it is not possible when we are in the throws of loss. It could take you ages to get over and absorb this grief. It is quite normal and all part of developing as a more sensitive and rounded guy. Girls who get to know you in the future will be lucky as you will know how to treat them so well! Take your time and get out, mix with lots of different people, get new interests, do lots of busy things and some day you will realise you have not thought of her, wow, life does go on! Good luck!
2006-10-27 23:48:52 · answer #5 · answered by Susie Drew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a girl I have been in that situation. He was living on the otherside of the world and I had never seen him in person ever. We just really hit it off. It took me ages to get over the feelings that I had there and move on. I was about 16 at the time however so i didnt really have a firm grip on what love really was back then. I moved on about 8 months after my 16th birthday and was with the guy till about 3 months ago (I'm now 23) so it was a really long relationship. You need to think possitive. The loss of love, was only to find and gain a better greater love. When I broke up with the guy i was with, it was cause we were in a rough place and it was never doing to work out between us and it had taken us years to realise that. I spent a while thinking that i would never find anything as amazing as what i had with him, but i knew i had to get out of it because he was a really bad boyfriend who emotionally treated me like crap. I have recently moved on to a new man, and he is wonderful, amazing and I couldnt have asked for better in my life. So think of it as the loss of that love is to lead you to a better great love that you never thought possible. i hope that helps, and I have you move on to your great love soon. best of luck
2006-10-27 23:07:20 · answer #6 · answered by preped_up_princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boy, are you so young. I'm not sure as to the time frame but you will get over it ---that's for sure. What you experienced is a normal thing. We have the capacity to love unconditionally like God, our Creator or to love like how our parents begot us. When you are older and you meet somebody even better than her and who loves you back, you might go back asking yourself what is it that ever made you like your first love. Honey, you will still meet a lot of girls and you might chance upon being loved but not loving her in return.
2006-10-27 23:40:31 · answer #7 · answered by onlyme_6000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on Trev, chin up! Just think how many women are out there looking for someone like you! If this person does not love you then (not being harsh) but its time to move on! Go out have fun live life! You will meet your soul mate when you least expect it hun. Honest! Ive been there loved someone and they havent loved me back. Things will work out for you! I bet they always do! xxx
2006-10-27 23:03:27 · answer #8 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did not say how old you are or if you have a real girl friend. go out and meet other people i mean girls the best way to get over one is to find someone else. good luck x
2006-10-27 23:07:06 · answer #9 · answered by debbie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have.
It will take time but you have to surround yourself with friends and family. You will get over her.
Sorry but a timeframe cannot be put on something like this coz it's different for every person.
2006-10-27 23:10:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half, and we lived together. We broke up and I feel like I am going to die. When the pain goes away....I'll let you know.
2006-10-27 23:01:41 · answer #11 · answered by Kbailey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋