My fiancee let me borrow his laptop tonight until I can get a new computer in a few weeks since mine messed up. Well, I found that he had a porno downloaded on here but deleted it. I dont care that he had downloaded one but I went to the site he got it from ( the link to it was on the file ) and its a homemade porno video site and he has a membership there and didnt tell me. Its not a big deal but it sorta hurt he kept something little from me like that. But anyone here is my problem. The site is like myhomemadeporn.com or something, and me and him has made videos on my webcam and they are on his laptop. I didnt think he would show anyone but im scared he might of uploaded it on that site. Im going to confront him in a few hours but im so scared and i got sick to my stomach when i found out. Not just because i could be naked on that site but because i feel betrayed to. Im scared if I ask him he will say no there isnt and could be lying. What should i do? Thanks everyone.
2006-10-27 22:27:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to confront him about it sooner or later. If he's posting the vids on that site, that's an offence... and it's invasion of privacy. He could be sued, if you are up for suing him anyway. The best is to avoid making such vids in future to protect your own dignity. Obviously he'll deny and say that he didn't post any of the vids on that website but who knows? What's done is done, just close one eye and be extra careful... (note: watch out for those hidden cams too... you may never know)
2006-10-27 22:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by pee_bag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol...well you are a fool for making a video. Number one rule is...don't make a video unless you want other people to see it.
Most likely he will lie to you...so I wouldn't even hit him up. Plus sometimes not knowing is the best thing. Usually when you find out...it just bothers you more...and there is nothing you can do about it because it is already to late. So you just have to live with it. On top of that...if you do hit him up...this will make him try to hide things better in the future.
I would also check into the videos that he has been watching. That can give you an idea of the things that he likes. Maybe he just goes on there just to watch other videos.
2006-10-27 22:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god that is a tough situation. First of all confronting him may make the situation worst but you have to do it. He can't love you if he would disrespect you like that. I think he is going to deny it because he knows you would be upset about it. Have you tried logging on to the site and viewing some of this videos? I wish you the best in this mess. I would be really pissed off if it were me and my boyfriend did that. Good luck!
2006-10-27 22:40:15 · answer #3 · answered by mdboomskwad.mc4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st off...he's going to be really embarrassed when you tell him and might even be defensive.."Why were you looking at my computer??" Make sure to tell him that you stumbled on it, and that you are not mad, you just want to know if your own videos are on there. Try to make it just about that and not the porno problem itself. I hope it turns out ok for you.
And if you feel that he’s lying...maybe you can try saying you saw the site and don't say anything else, to see what comes out of his mouth first. It’s a little deceiving but could tell you what you want to know.
2006-10-27 22:35:27 · answer #4 · answered by Kbailey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He plays that video when on business trip and that shows how u two make great love. He don`t need to tell all his fantasies anyway. I suspect he was going to play that video with u on ur next wedding anninversary.
2006-10-27 22:35:52 · answer #5 · answered by Dickson L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're absolutely right. That's completely sick of him. Tell him to give me the link and his membership password. i have to know more about this site before making any further judgements. yeah so send me the link.
what a sick b***ard..............
2006-10-27 22:36:58 · answer #6 · answered by tmdkshaft 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness, I have sympathy for you. It is awful what we can find out about people we love (by looking at their computers)!! I've found out some nasty things myself.
You must follow what you feel deep inside of yourself.
Good luck.
2006-10-27 22:31:29 · answer #7 · answered by seaofcolour 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a pervert. He doesnt respect u, he never ask for your opinion. Tell him u wanna leave him, and see how he react.
2006-10-27 22:48:09 · answer #8 · answered by rainy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋