I told my bf that we really need to clean up his house. We r living together in a big bungalow.
Since im working 9-6 now, i cannot afford to keep up with the housework on a weekend. Besides.. im only a gf.
His sis and bro no longer cares abt this house their mum left them. And there are disputes over this house.
he offered to do the housework tog at first, and hasnt kept his word since.
I admit i am very frustrated and so i got a part timer housekeeper to come and do the job.
He told me off saying that we will b staying for the next few months and movin out soon (BTW he took 3 weeks and hasnt got a property agent yet)
And he said If i dont wanna listen, fine!
And so i got hurt and i told him .."it was nice of me to offer to clean up this house, and i care cause we r the one staying in the house."
before i can finish and stop at "it was nice of me to stay....."
he told me if its nice of me to stay i can move out. WTF!
so i told him i will.and nxt morning he wanna hug me to slp
2006-10-27 22:22:58 · 6 answers · asked by Joan20 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
His problem is that he doesn't see the mess. Some people don't notice disgusting messes, therefore don't see the value of cleaning things the hell up. Be prepared for NO contribution to the housework if u stay with this dude.
2006-10-27 22:26:13 · answer #1 · answered by seaofcolour 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a wife just like that but her good qualities were better than her bad so I learnt to accept her as she was occassionally I would get mad at her and start doing it all myself in the end she would help on those occassions .But I always resented to this day She would cleanup if her friends were cominig over but never for me .I worked 12 to 16 hour days while she did what she wanted but I new she was faithfull just sloppy at housework .
2006-10-27 22:34:43 · answer #2 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its his place. YOU moved in. He doesn't want to be told he HAS to change the way he's been living just because you don't like it messy. He only said he would clean so you would stop bugging him about it. Think about it...YOU care about the way it looks, HE doesn't...but it's HIS place and that's what he's thinking and why he said "move out if you don't like it". Honestly...if you want to clean, go for it, but you can't MAKE him do it in his own family's place.
2006-10-27 22:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by brentneilalexander 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him you were trying to be nice, and unless he wants u to a b!tch its not gonna happen.
U need to tell him he hurt ur feelings
2006-10-27 22:26:50 · answer #4 · answered by ca4btts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa.....maybe you should take what money you make from your job and get the hell outta there!
2006-10-27 22:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by rebelicious_angel228 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend is not careful.
2006-10-27 22:30:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋