Coming to terms with such a tragic loss?

Question

With the sad news of the two children in Corfu, I was wondering as a parent how do you come to terms with such a tragic loss ??

Answer 1

It is the most awful thing in the world...I am praying for the poor mother.

Answer 2

You never come to terms with losing a child. Both my sister and me lost boys tragically when they were young in two separate incidents.The devastation is absolutely unbearable and the pain is indescribable. Coping is down to the individual,I spent three years in the bottom of a bottle.My sister was stronger than me,she had to carry on because she had another child to look after.My heart goes out to the family of those children and anyone who loses a loved one.

Answer 3

You never come to terms with the loss of a child, but you so learn to cope, to be able to think of happier times. It is every parents nightmare to have to bury their children

Answer 4

I could not imagine losing one of my children, whenever they go away with their dad I worry so much that something will happen to them when I am not there, it would be my worse nightmare.

I feel so sorry for the mother of the two children who died and cant imagine how she will ever come to terms with what has happened, I dont think I could.

Answer 5

I don't think a parent can ever come to terms with losing their children.... and if you speak to someone who has a lost a child, then they will tell you that some part of them died too.

Answer 6

Don't worry about it. Everyone has to lose something in their life. So, try to stop thinking about it and move on. Try to divert your brain to something else. Talk and have conversation with your parents and relatives about the sadness and the problem you had to accept it. The thing is that you are so habituated and very familiar with your grandmother. You must try to forget and remove it and it will be all fine.

Answer 7

i do not know how that poor mother, and father, are ever going to come to terms with this. As a parent, i feel so so sorry for them, i would not be able to cope, it is a tragedy, an appalling tragedy, god knows how they will get through this, those poor children.

Answer 8

At some point in our lives, we all experience grief. It might be from the breakup of a marriage or the death of a beloved child or friend. Regardless of the cause, grief is a normal and natural response to loss and/or change.Everyone reacts to loss differently and while we may share some feelings and thoughts, there is no right or wrong way to experience this. Grieving is a process, one with no set time frame for "progress" or "success". think of it as a journey that is long and difficult, with bumpy spots and smooth ones, hills and valleys. Sometimes we need to travel alone, other times we need friends and family to help us through. But I don't think the journey ends. Rather there may be points where we stop to rest, to recoup and gather our thoughts, but I don't think we ever come to a complete stop.Sometimes we want to confront God and demand an explanation, an apology, ask Him why He took someone who meant so very much to our heart's.Im sure you've serached for some redeeming value in their deaths,Some reason for it, some great revelation that will explain it all.make some sense,some purpose in all of this.and Im also sure you havent found it yet....I know this is harder on you and your family then it is on any of us, and for that I am so very sorry,Your not some super mom who has just bounced back and that's okay sweetheart.the difficult life they had here is over,I'm sad for those of you who they had to leave behind,It's my personal belief that the dead have down time. Call it 'the big sleep', call it 'asleep in Jesus', call it what you will. But I believe that upon death, the spirit removes to some other place. Perhaps it spends time recovering from the world's grievances, perhaps it is not at all aware of the former life, death, loved ones, etc., perhaps it isn't aware of anything. But I believe that when Jesus returns to our world, and yes, I do believe He will, the dead in Christ will rise first to be with Him, then the living in Christ shall be with Him. It's my opinion that at that point in time,You will finally see your precious children again...don't give up in yourself or in God.Go ahead and cry. It's okay Don't fight your feelings. Guilt can be a normal part of grief.Please tell your friends and family how they can be supportive.I don't know how you feel, but I care about you and that you are hurting.Each day may seem like a burden,sometimes it will be hard to face.I offer you my sincerest condolences on the loss of your children.although there are no words to ease your grief at this difficult time I do hope that my words will offer you some kind of comfort.Understanding the nature of grief can help us better cope with loss. Grief is a natural, healthy process that enables us to recover from terrible emotional wounds.Jesus is our best role model for combining faith and grief, as revealed in John 11:1-45. When He saw Mary and Martha in anguish over the death of their brother Lazarus, He wept and groaned. Although Jesus knew He was about to raise Lazarus from the dead, He still allowed Himself to feel – and express – the depths of human sorrow.We can take comfort in knowing that Jesus has experienced all of our pain, including loss, rejection, betrayal, and dying. As our Savior and Redeemer, He took all our sins to the cross and forgives us when we ask. As our Good Shepherd, He leads us safely through “the valley of the shadow of death” (Psalm 23:4b). Remember, a shadow indicates that there is a light on the other side! Im sure your saying Don’t they understand that I’d rather have my children with me.Don’t they know I remember the pain my children might have suffered before they died? Can’t they understand that my mind is so numb I can’t even think of what needs to be done? Of course these wonderful,concerned, well-meaning true honest people on this site don't know unless of course they have been through this...They can only guess how the newly bereaved feel,I haven’t personally known (thank God) the disbelief, the shock, the anger of losing a child. Instead of bringing relief, those words just seem to add to the hurt and the grief. There are no words that will make it all right that someone we loved has died. But there are words that can soothe the hurt, ease the loneliness and add to the healing.You need to express your anger, your frustration. I know it must be hard for you to believe that God is a loving God who will support you through this horrible tragedy.With all this being said please know that I am still thinking of you and your family...May God be with you all.. * this is what I would say to the mother if I could.... best wishes

Answer 9

I don't think if that had happened to me i could ever be happy again. I heard the head teacher of the two children speaking on the radio. Poor little poppets RIP.

Answer 10

I agree with queenie I lost my son to a car wreck last month
and a part of me died as well my spouse and I just live day to day
and never forget the lil one that we lost,