It is 3-years of dating with my boyfriend, We now live together, Comparing to original passion on sex, we all feel plain about love making. Lack of emotion, do that like eat bread,drink water, breath air. Though we are still in 24, especially for me, sometimes I feel scared about that, feel that penis penetrate too deep in my body! if thoght it hurt me! I am sales of sex toys, but still hesitate in using that toys,for what?, I think I am too shy to do it!
What if a women get her orgasm through vibes?
What do you think about me?
I am confused!!!
2006-10-27 21:19:40 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If penetrative sex hurts you, you are either too nervous or tense about it...
Beleive it or not, sometime I find the foreplay more amusing and relaxing than the sex...
Try a few hours of foreplay (this isn't some kinda golfing term for you inconsiderate lovers out there) and try and great a mood and atmosphere of relaxation.
2006-10-27 21:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to know how to help. You need to talk to your boyfriend. Different positions may be better that some you are using now. In some positions the penis can penetrate very deeply, and if it is the time of the month when the cervix is low, then it can hurt.
Try sex toys if you want too, but not if you don't. So what if a woman gets an orgasm through vibes? I don't think most blokes would mind.
Take your time and explore different things. Sex shouldnt be boring or 'plain' at your age!
Yahumokay, that's not a very kind answer is it..... this girl may not have English as her first language!
2006-10-27 22:15:19 · answer #2 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not any good at sex; but I have read a lot on it. It seems that the surface of the vagina are where all the cells that are sensitive to pleasure are. So in theory it is possible to reach orgasm by stimulation, virbration of the outside... there are no such cells inside the vagina I have heard. I have also heard that the mind is the organ mostly responsible for sexual pleasure. Although the "mind" is an abstraction of something. It sounds like you are frustrated and bored by your sex life. I always think that if I am a girl I will be screwing all the guys I could, you know. I am pretty sure that your equipment is not your problem but your what... attitude towards sex. I have read a lot of books on women's sexual problems and they all pretty much agree that it is difficult being a woman. To me that seems well... funny because you have the best equipment to enjoy sex with. Maybe you need a little more confidence in it?
If you say that you are confused that sounds like you are leaning towards women. But, you would know if you were attracted to women hmm... because you would be attracted to women. Or maybe you just lack imagination when it come to sex -- I find that hard to believe, however. I can't see that I have helped at all. I wish you good luck with your adventure and talk to your boy friend.
2006-10-27 22:39:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The initial experience of sex with a new partner i s more to do with lust, from experience the first three months u are at it like rabbits, its great , long , adventurous sex 2 sometime 3 times a day, then.
The honeymoon period is over, you settle into the routine of life, you get to know each better and u fall into the comfort zone. Yes he might want to use sex toys (vibes) etc, she might want to experiment with toys, but she will be scared that her partner will call her slapper/tart for using them, he might think you enjoy the vibe more than him penetrating you, you probally will have more orgasms using a vibe, this will make him feel insecure etc.
If i was you i would try and spice your sex life up with your partner by using toys and by remembering how good sex was when you first met each other, lets face it u are still the same people when u first met, just get on with it and enjoy.
Ragarding penetration, what are you scared off, his he to big for you?
PS the grass is not better on the other side, here to the honeymoon period ends.
2006-10-27 22:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by portergr 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! You married your first love. Biggest mistake most people can make is to marry the only "proper" relationship they have ever had. Because it is their first love they worry about hurting other people's feelings etc then end up putting the life the really want on hold thinking this is what normal people do. And for most their first love is just someone they "settled" with to thrill their teenage kicks. (note I said MOST not all) Just going to put your relationship aside for a sec. I can shed some light about traveling. It is possible to travel at your age, but it is by far glamourous. I knew someone who had traveled most of the world by the time he was 23 . . . but he was living in hostels, living out of his backpack, and had to get low paying jobs (cleaning, waiting, call centres) everywhere in order to "survive" . . . and the most his relationships ever came to were one-night stands and fwb. So if you want to travel on a budget then this is as glamourous as it is going to get. Again your relationship aside for now - To travel and have a good lifestyle doing it then it takes a lot of work and savings before that can happen. As for your husband then I would personally say just get out. You're not happy. I can tell just by reading what you have written that there is no love there. You just want to give up. You were too young and naive when you got engaged and didn't have the gall to say "no" and to be honest he sounds like a decent guy do you not think he deserves to be with someone who really will love him? Staying in a one sided relationship is probably one of the most callous things you can do to a person. But if you want to TRY and make your marriage work then go to marriage counseling. Should you guys get a house together and you still really want to travel then why don't you look into getting on the airlines? I know people who have worked as Air Stewardesses (myself and my aunt included) and if they have a flight, say, from England XYZ Airport to Rhodes and there is no flights coming back that day, then the stewards basically stay over until the next flight going back to England XYZ Airport . . . and you could be waiting for a few days. Though you will need to work for this, a lot of air stewardesses have degrees and associates degrees, and the ability to be able to speak a different language helps too. Plus you have to fit all the physical requirements too. The latter might not be what you want to do but unless you want to live out of you backpack in hostels, and want a house and a relationship at the same time then beggars can't really be choosers.
2016-05-22 02:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way is to start thinking positively about ur sex life .
U don`t need toys to vibe u,,,,,,,,and beside u need some natural juices don`t u? jst don`t exclude the fella in ur plan.
2006-10-27 21:26:07 · answer #6 · answered by Dickson L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to stick to natural ways. Don't go for toys.
2006-10-27 21:25:41 · answer #7 · answered by B i n g o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to go back to school if you are 24 and you write like that, no offense.
2006-10-27 21:23:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your confused! what about us? Proper question next time pls, instead of trying to flog us sex toys
2006-10-27 22:05:28 · answer #9 · answered by Robakai 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have 4 vibes wnd we use them together and watch porn get some karme sutra books they'll halp
2006-10-27 21:24:28 · answer #10 · answered by omissy2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋