This guy and I, we used to like each other quite a lot. But then just suddenly, he stopped talking to me. He ignored me completely, flirted with other girls, started treating them like goddesses and me like trash, etc. I didn't understand, but I didn't really have the courage to ask him what was wrong, either. I wondered if he really did stop liking me, or if it was all just my imagination. I found out through some of the gossiping of my classmates that he stopped liking me, and likes another girl instead. It really hurt, because I still like him very much.
I've gotten advice (from searching on the internet) to consult my family and friends, but I can't. All my "friends" ditched me, and I don't want to make my parents worry; they think I'm living a perfect life, and they have enough stress as it is.
What should I do? Should I try to "win him back", or just let everything be?
2006-10-27 21:18:25 · 6 answers · asked by Renshi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everyone's going to tell you to just let it go, but no one will ever tell you exactly HOW you can go about doing that. It's hard. I've been in this situation. It hurts a lot, and more than that, it's just confusing. The best advice I can offer up is to give into your emotions for a couple of days. Cry, get angry, be hurt.. feel the heartbreak. Don't avoid it or pretend it didn't happen. Let it consume you for a few days, and then just slowly try to get yourself back. Do the things you always loved to do before he came along. Listen to great music, find friends who will be friends long after you split from a guy. Just be you, and in time... it'll get easier... I promise. :)
Don't try and win him back, he's gone for a reason. And maybe he just wasn't good enough to be the guy for you at this moment in time.
If it's meant to be, it'll happen again someday.
2006-10-27 21:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by Honey J. Valentine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me share this with you. There is a difference between loving someone and being in love. Schematics, huh? I love my sister, and my ex, but I'm not IN love with them. Make no excuses for him. Here's why. What people feel, based on thier situation is real. Even if it flies against normal behaviour. Now, that can change! It doesn't make what WAS felt any less real. Wierd. Now if he is sayiny that ya'll are not in love anymore, theres a reason. Its always about the science and science sez facts are the truth. Cause and effect. If this is the effect, you should be wondering what was the cause. Now I am going to caution you on something. You claim your identity is connected to him. What you need is some character development. Being co-dependent upon somone for finding your own self worth and value is not healthy. As seen here. You are set up for a huge let down by being so vested in someone else. You will feel nolstagic, and sad, but you will live. If he's baiting you with this scene for dramatic effect, not cool. His feelings should have nothing to do with being unemployed. After 7 years, you've seen the best and worst of people. Think anout it like this. His loss. Heres a princess totally mooning over her man, and hes gonna walk? You don't have to understand his idea on this, and probably won't get the truth anyway.... Add back to this thread next year, and tell us how much better off you are!
2016-03-28 09:53:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortuntely this happens all too often and letting him be is sadly the best solution. This is happening to me right now. I was building a life with a man for three years and all of a sudden bam, he no longer wanted to be with me, gave me all kinds of excuses when I asked him, (which only left me feeling worse), and now treats me as if I am setting him back from other opportunities, like you I am being treated like crap and very scornfully. I was not prepared for the blow and it has been hard, to try NOT to win his heart back. Seriously, let him be, I think the more it is forced, the more he'll pull away. If he truly wants you, he will not treat you that way. It is hard, I know to not obsess over it but you have to try, get out and find new activities and let it go. The hardest thing to get over is rejection, however dwelling on it will not make him come back to you if he does not want it. I feel your pain and I am sorry you are feeling isolated from your friends. That is hard too because in times like this we all need someone who will be our cheerleader, our ally and confidante, but know for sure that you are not alone in your pain.
2006-10-27 21:31:11 · answer #3 · answered by Mzme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your young... You must move on... As you grow up, you learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. you will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. you'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. you'll fight with your best friend. you'll blame a new love for things an old one did. you'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love. so take too many pictures, laugh too much, dance every second you can and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.
Now start feelin better.
2006-10-27 21:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by thaheartoflife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is now an EX boyfriend, so back away. You don't ever want to "make" someone like you. That just isn't the natural flow of things. Move on and you will find another boyfriend. I know it hurts, but you need to get on with YOUR life.
2006-10-27 21:27:19 · answer #5 · answered by Bikerbutt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like s a dogg should be neutered and not let out after dark..
2006-10-27 21:30:37 · answer #6 · answered by Mudd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋