she is my first love and im not quite sure if she has feelings for me. its a very complicated situation, that i desperatly need help with.i havent seen her in a couple of years but we talk almost everyday, and now since im leaving for the army she wants to set up a day for us to meet up, this might be the only chance i have to win her heart, please what do i do?
2006-10-27 21:09:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly there is nothing that you can do besides be yourself. It's obvious that she already likes you, maybe right now isn't the right time to be contemplating starting a new relationship as you are leaving for the army and she is engaged to someone. Has she ever told you that she is not happy? Just do what feels right to you. I can't tell you what to do, I can only give you advice and I hope that I could help in some way. Good Luck and you are a very brave soldier!
2006-10-27 21:15:08 · answer #1 · answered by rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how come u love her and she has a fiance,
she is with someone else and with you in the same time and you are saying that you love her and u are not sure of her feelings, in my opinion she consider you as a friend only don't cross the border if you loved her you wouldn't let her by her self till she gets a fiance,
just talk to her a bout your feelings and that you want to know her feelings too and be open you two in that day to make things clear
and don't cause her problem if she is in love with her fiance wish her the best in her life
good luck
2006-10-27 21:14:55 · answer #2 · answered by Soulmate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dear I hate to tell you this. But you would not want to take her from her fiance. Think about it. Let's say you do, now are you going to be wondering if someone will take her from you, since that is how you got her. If it is meant to be, things will change. Just be you around her and nothing else. Let her see who you really are. Dont go out of your way. Love is something you dont have to look for. It will arrive if it is meant to be.
Good luck with love. :)
2006-10-27 21:19:13 · answer #3 · answered by Ò?à®?á?¦JulieBirdá?¦à®?ϯÒ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything unless you honestly feel in your heart that she thinks she is making a mistake with her fiance. If there is any chance you think telling her would make her change her mind, then you have the option of talking to her about it. If she is happy and you love her you wouldn't want to ruin it or make it complicated for her.
2006-10-27 21:14:33 · answer #4 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all does she know how you feel about her? If she doesn't she may not even know she has the choice between you and her fiance.
Secondly you can't be anything other than yourself. If you try to be someone who you are not, even if it worked and you won her over it wouldn't last. Just be yourself and if she is for you and likes you better than the other guy, she'll choose you.
2006-10-27 21:12:14 · answer #5 · answered by crookmatt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think you're going to ride in on a white horse and scoop up this ENGAGED woman? This ain't t.v. and you might not like the results of this. Here's something to think about...even if you pull this woman away from her fiancee, you're leaving soon so what's to say she won't leave you too? She's not the only woman on this earth, so find your own SINGLE woman.
2006-10-27 21:12:28 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the one that's confusing the situation. You are trying to come between two couples and split them apart, and leaving for the Army is just preying on her sympathy in an attempt to win her over. Then you're splitting for the Army and expect her to be "faithful" ?? Come on man. Get real. Back off and leave those two alone...
2006-10-27 21:17:56 · answer #7 · answered by Bikerbutt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres a technique called matching and mirrorring that may help
You just assume her posture and movements-
If she sips a drink you sip
If she leans back you lean back
very subtle
Get in synch with her breathing
and duplicate the speed and tempo of her speech
Just act like a mirror with about a 1 second delay
Assume her exact posture
Ask her if shes ever been totally in love
as she thinks about it look at her directly
these are powerful techniques I learned at sales seminars and at Anthony Robinns programs
Google matching and mirroring or rapport
I have used this and it works
Dont listen to those who say its not possible !
NOTHINGS impossible
It just is for THEM
That said: nothing ventured nothing gained eh
What have you got to lose to try this?????????
2006-10-27 21:18:10 · answer #8 · answered by fred6636 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't mess with another man's woman. If she had feelings for you she wouldn't be marrying this other guy.
Good luck
2006-10-27 21:13:29 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think she should be seeing you cos she's committed to another and all she is doing is misleading you. sounds harsh i know you care but she is happy, she is the one with someone and your not. you need to find available women.
2006-10-27 21:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋