So, here goes the story ...
We dated for like 6 yrs, he left overseas and not planning to go back to US. I don't plan to go to his place either ... so when he left months ago, we promised we'd work things out and hoped for the best. Months passed by, things didn't work out as we wanted it but he's still in denial. When I broke up with him (which was a couple months ago), he cried and cried and told me how much he loved me. I almost felt sorry for him, but ... I toughed it up and said that it was over. He kept calling me and asked me to take him back because we had so much past together. I told him present and future are more important, and I think I am doing the right thing. How come I feel like a cold ***** though? Any advices for me so that I won't feel so guilty? ... I may be trapped to feel pity and end up taking him back ... which I think it's a big No NO ...
Advices pleasE?
2006-10-27 20:10:52 · 10 answers · asked by Nicegal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stand by your decision! If you take him back, knowing it is the wrong thing for you, then you will be miserable...plus you will likely end the relationship again which will hurt the guy all over again. It's tough to end it after so long...but you both have to get on with your lives
2006-10-27 20:15:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is touching and feel so sorry for the guy to start over again six years dating is not a joke. My lady from your explaination havent seen any genuine reason why u dumped the guy, i feel the reasons you have given us is so trivial that both of you can work out the situation. Did you know that to regret what you might have accomplished is the most painful part of life? my advice to you is that please think twice and taking him back.
Athough the present and the future is important and what is past is past hence passing phase, they say we live in the present when the past is over and this is when we can appreciate the past we lived through. Please feel pity for him and rescind your descision.
Otherwise, you will live a sad person and remember him all the days of your life.
Its good to luv and let go but not too good enough to hurt. think over it!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-27 20:39:17 · answer #2 · answered by DM FORMULAR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i also had the same experienced before.. i also feel guilty at the time i broke up with my ex... but then i have to stand with my decision.. and now, i can say that i had overcome it and i'm happy. just keep in mind that you did the right thing. keeping the relationship just for the sake of how long you were together is really stupid. in relationship you must have love and respect. stop thinking that its your fault..think that you just save yourself, and also him, from a possible miserable relationship you could had by then..
2006-10-27 20:45:13 · answer #3 · answered by pamz~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to be together, how is it even possible to take him back? Long distance relationships are temporary, while someone's away at school or in the military, but they can't last forever like he's staying in Europe and you're in USA. Ask him how that's supposed to work, then hopefully he'll get over it.
2006-10-27 20:15:16 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are making a very big mistake you wont realize it now but in future you will feel more guilty of your self,take him back he loves you a lot and im sure his the mr riht for you.
2006-10-27 20:18:45 · answer #5 · answered by Imran s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you have a realiton ship still you still love him and u know it bt it's just not where you can see it so get back togeather you where ment to be youu see he loves you and we all know you love him back but you are thinking h might find another girl or he will get bored of you so you wanted to end it before things got bad even though iyt won things will bne ok if you need to talk just email me at lil_hotti_ angel@yahoo.com god bless you to as a wonderful couple you'll be
2006-10-27 20:19:03 · answer #6 · answered by jessica k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guilt is an emotion that you-yourself-own. only you can change the necessity of feeling guilty.
2006-10-27 20:12:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply dump another bf.....therefore this kind of felling is gone...and if not..... dump another.....then there will be no feelings at all.
2006-10-27 20:19:09 · answer #8 · answered by Maximus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
date me
2006-10-27 20:12:06 · answer #9 · answered by koshtip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No What you want more just NO.
2006-10-27 20:14:12 · answer #10 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋