I am going through a really bad break up. We were together a year and a half and lived together. I am in the military and currently deployed. I am so redicilously sad, I still call him, most of the time he doesn't want to listen, or he's out at bars...while i'm patheically sobbing on the floor because i can't believe it fell apart. He's obviously having a good time not thinking about me, How can I stop calling daily? I'm deployed, I don't have friends or family near by, I'm so lost and depressed, can any1 help?
2006-10-27 20:02:32 · 12 answers · asked by Kbailey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, I want to say, Thank you there's not a lot of people that can do what you are doing out there in the desert.... Please be encouraged...You can't worry about what he's doing or it will drive you crazy.... I'm sure it's hard for you to focus on your job in this type of mind frame..... The pressure of being deployed is a stress all in itself, and you don't need the extra drama... Let him do him... Trust it sounds like he's having fun, but nothing good comes to anybody that hurts someone that doesn't deserve it.. He will get what he has coming to him in due time....Just stay encouraged and handle your business.....
My husband is deployed also and I would never think of hurting him...If anything happens to my husband God forbid, but I wouldn't be able to live with myself...Your ex is a selfish man and you deserve so much better than that.....
Remember; Fool me once shame on you...Fool me twice shame on me.......
Good luck
2006-10-29 16:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by The'Truth 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To start with make it transparent to him that you don't desire to look him ever yet again. You can block his volume out of your cell mobilephone. It is mainly satisfactory must you don't answer or answer to any of his texts or calls..E mails and so on. Should no longer have any touch with him, although he attempts to touch you..Don't answer it'll most effective encourage him. This must turn out amazing, but when it does not and he will get weird on you, maintain a written file of all nuisence calls, letters, e mails...Or any circumstances he suggests up at your residing or paintings or in any other case. Log the time, the date. Then which you'll take it to the police, or seek a few authorized help and get a restraining order. No one has a right to annoy you, but it surely definitely's of nice importance you don't touch him in any respect and inspire any further of his attention. Quality of well fortune S x
2016-09-01 03:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, someone CAN help! YOU! If you don't have any friends, then get out there and meet some! You'll forget all about calling this guy just as soon as you meet the next one! Go other places than where you know you'll see him, and it will be much, much easier on you. Out of sight, out of mind. Pretend you feel differently until you actually do...practice! I'm serious! Did you know the phrase: "Eat your words" is actually true? We actually eat our words, we are all like sponges that absorb whatever we suck up from the world around us...our thoughts, the things we see, how we visualize the world is how it becomes. you will only feel worse about yourself if you look at this in a bad way. Think of this as an opportunity to do all the things you couldn't do when you were with this guy, and have an adventure in living your life! Explore! Not just in dating, but in everything you do. When those threatening, depressive thoughts creep in- slam that door quick, baby! Stimulate yourself instead! Only let in what makes you feel GOOD and you will! Alot faster than you can imagine! So, imagine it! ... and develop your self image, and remember that you are in charge of you! Go for it! I hope this helps, it will save you from yourself if you let it! Believe,...believe,..believe!!!!!
2006-10-27 20:22:27 · answer #3 · answered by Demonex 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're galivanting all over the bloody place with the military, and leaving the guy worrying what the hell you're up to + if you're safe + putting yourself in a position where the guy in the relationship can't bail you out if you get in trouble (and guys kinda like to think of ourselves as being a potential superhero to their girls), what do you expect will happen, but to break up? (especially if his friends are making fun of him for not getting any nookie for months at a time... and guys do tend to do things like that when they're together with no chicks around to hear them, and start saying things among each other their mothers wouldn't be proud of)
If you can't handle it, you shouldn't be in the military...... try asking for some compassionate leave or something while you get yourself together.
2006-10-27 20:42:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The military has councelors available to you. You NEED to speak to one soon. Don't call him. He doesn't love you. He doesn't care and you need to make yourself believe that. What I did when I went through a similar thing was to write him a long letter that wasn't whiney or pleading just a matter of fact letter of everything I went through because of him. I did not do this until months after he dumped me but I felt good doing it. I sent it too! I gave all the pain he caused me back to him in the letter, I told him I did not want it and he was welcome to have it all and washed my hands of it.
But right now, you need to worry about YOU. No one else is going to do that. Men suck, break ups suck. Life is difficult but we go on and someday, when you are confident in yourself you may meet someone great. I know, I know, everyone has told you that right? But I said you MAY meet not you will meet. Becuase, you don't know, you may just meet jerk after jerk, after jerk. It can happen, there are tons of them out there. BUT! You have to talk to a councelor and learn to accept yourself as you are. No man can make you whole. Only YOU can do that.
You need to talk to someone, soon!
It does get better with time. It's just like a death. The pain may not be totally gone and memories will give you a twinge of pain but you will move beyond this loser. You have to see him as that. A loser. And get some real help.
It'll be alright, OKay?
2006-10-27 20:27:30 · answer #5 · answered by Moon_Lacey 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're in the military you have to be pretty tough ! Stop and think about staying safe and not about a guy who is not even taking or interested in your calls. Get out there and meet new people whereever you are . Things will always get better !
2006-10-27 20:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by blondee329 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're overseas, think about the phone bill and that should sober you up a little bit. Bury yourself in your work. I know it's not what you want to do 24/7, but this may help cure the problem.
2006-10-27 21:26:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well ,its never a good break up . your in the military,that can be a good thing . stop the daily calling . -if he wants to talk -let him do the calling . you can use this time for your self . get in the best shape ever , work out . walk .i do 4 miles a day /and walking is really good for your mind . start eating right . if it don't work out ,for you and the ex. you will be one pretty girl . the officers will be standing in line ,some times we have to put our self's first .
2006-10-27 20:21:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
JUST STOP. seriously. JUST STOP. just do it. nothing will ever improve if you keep calling. then work on not thinking about him, and meeting other people. the more you go back to him, the worse it will be. the more you ignore him, the better it will be. find some good friends and forget him. you don't have a choice anyway cuz he obviously doesn't care for you. (guess what? same s hit happened to me so i know what i'm talkin' about)
2006-10-27 20:04:53 · answer #9 · answered by painfullyaverage 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Try to make the best of your situation. Look toward the future! Your relationship may have ended but your life is still to be lived! Don't call him anymore. So he is out drinking-don't worry about it! Just focus on your self!
2006-10-27 20:08:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋