We were college schoolmates, I really like her that time but she never really knew me and i knew she's married and got 1 kid. She's 4 years older than me and by the time I graduated, I saw her again in the same company where i'm working. We became close and eventually fell in love with each other. We're so much in love that we even think of things we shouldn't be thinking like planning a house, having kids, etc. To think that she's MARRIED!?! We even went out of town together. I broke up with her. For reasons of morality and all that sh*t. But I'm in so much pain. And I know she is too. We both knew its hard for both of us but we never really talked about it after we broke up. She is the love of my life and I am the love of her life too. Just the wrong place and time. Now we're treating each other like nothing happened. I can hardly tell we are friends. What should I do? or what would do if you know your meant for each other but just no right?
2006-10-27 19:52:44 · 8 answers · asked by RyE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's really hard, trust me - been in same situation, but in my case I was the one who said NO to everything. He doesn't understand why I can't hurt my husbands feelings and am ready to hurt his feelings. But my point of view is - it's "our" fault not my husbands so "we" deserve to be hurt not him. I know my husband loves me and I love him - it's just different feeling. I haven't even been close with this "other" - because I think that everything is too wrong and I can not live with that. I had beautiful family for 6 years, I loved my husband like women loves man but then it has just dissapeared and only thing that is left between us now is the thing that we started with - friendship. I told the same thing to this "other" - I wish this happened 6 years earlier but it didn't and now everything is so wrong that it can never become right so it's better left behind, time will pass and everything will be fine and I wish you with all my heart to be happy ... with somebody else!
I think you are doing the right thing. If after you left her she still decides to break her family without you knowing it, that means that there is really nothing left to save from it and than you will have clear concious to be with her. Just try to live "right" because when life comes to end that will be the only thing you will think about. Love is - when you put away everything and just do what is right for her/him even if she/he doesn't understand you in that moment.
I hope I did the right thing.
I hope you did the right thing.
I think you are really wonderful person - there are not many left like you now-days, so I wish you to have wonderful life. I just want you to know that You helped me too with your question!
P.S. Read Jack London's "Little Ladie of Big House"... you will understand a lot about life and love from this book trust me!
2006-10-27 20:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brother, I know your pain. I will tell you what many told me, but I didn't listen. I know the kind of woman you are talking about, she has a hold on you, its a lure that cuts right through you.
Ultimately, I had to make a grown man decision on my own... and move on. But, before, I did that....I took my shot, made my pitch. I told my love... I wanted to make things right with her and that we should be together. Leave that freak that treated her like sh*t and come be where you will be treated right. I made my stand. She could not make up her mind, and that was my answer. It was tough, but eventually I was at peace.
2006-10-28 03:07:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard stuff indeed. Giving up the love of his life is often madness. But sometimes the conditions are not met, it might be wise to give up. Are you sure you are not making a fixation because you could not have her during college time ? If I were you I would talk to a psychologist about it. Might help you to see more clearly in you about the reality of your love.
2006-10-28 02:57:24 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she feels the same way about you, the only thing for her to do is to divorce her husband. Once she is free the two of you may finally get together. I am pleased that you understood the morality part of this issue. She has to be the one to make the move. She has to leave her family for you.
2006-10-28 02:56:01 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry pal,u`ll have to grow to the pain of forgetting her.......never be the person to ruin marriages cos u know they say marriages are made in heaven.........I`m sure there will be someone who would capture your heart.....
2006-10-28 02:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have the right love at the wrong time.
be prudent.
don't involve yourself in those things
that would complicate your peaceful life.
know the consequences of your actions.
2006-10-28 02:59:35 · answer #6 · answered by math 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is don't break her house and you hook to her,this is not right and it is a sin to do that.Don't feel bad brother.
2006-10-28 02:58:45 · answer #7 · answered by Imran s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its just not right .
2006-10-28 03:04:02 · answer #8 · answered by tia c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋