about two months ago my boyfriend of eight month and i broke up.. be cause it was just not working and i felt like i was the only one really working at it, trying to keep it afloat, he has cheated lied and hurt me so many timessss but i still love him alot.. and i'v tried everyhing to move on but nothing or noone seems to compare and going back to him is not an option, i wont be able to handle it
2006-10-27 19:51:39 · 8 answers · asked by swt chik 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have got to stay away from him at all costs. Don't allow yourself to think about him. When thoughts of him come into your mind you must force them out by thinking of something pleasant.
2006-10-27 19:58:31 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time - sometimes years. You will probably never forget if you gave him your heart. But, you can move on. You're a woman - you're strong and you can get through this - it's only temporary pain not for the rest of your life. It's okay to cry alot - it's part of healing. Not all of your friends or family will understand the way that you grieve. We all do this in different ways. I found that little rituals were especially helpful, such as burning letters and throwing away or giving away gifts from him. Take any photos of him and just get rid of them. There are some physical things you can do like that to help you in the grieving and letting go process. It's not going to be easy - but I do guarantee that 5-10 years from now - you'll look back on it and your life will have changed so much for the better.
2006-10-27 19:57:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there, and I know EXACTLY how you feel.... TRUST me when I say, IT WILL pass .... Right now youre just suffering from the comfort feeling, you were with him for so long and he gave you your high moments and crappy moments.But ALWAYS came back with being such a great boyfriend after being a crappy one, to make himself look great.. Right ????
What you need is ANOTHER guy.. even let it be a rebound guy. They WORK WONDERS !!!! I was with my guy for 4 yrs and a rebound bf got me over him QUICK!
If this guy is a dog and you know it. Trash him in your head, think of all the crappy crap he's done, and think of how you would like to be treated and it will make you feel better.
Plus going out and getting some male attention doesn't hurt either ;o)
Anyways, try it.... it may work.. Cause it DID for me :O)
cheers
2006-10-27 20:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this situation is really difficult. after a break-up, it's really hard to see your future clearly. when my boyfriend and i broke up, i swore that i would NEVER get back with him, but then i found myself obsessively thinking about him days and weeks after. i still love him too, but as hard as it is, moving on is just your best bet in this case. he's already hurt you too many times, why settle for a guy who does that?
2006-10-27 19:56:36 · answer #4 · answered by damsel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What??? NO one can cheat or lie like him?? are you a glutton for punishment??? You need help- or you will go get another just like him-- get counseling and find out why you go for this- you are able to handle it- D
2006-10-27 19:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then stay away from him. that is all you have to do. no matter what your feelings tell you. dont be a fool and let your emotions bring you back to him for some more pain. stay strong and wait. this uncomfortable feeling shall pass too sweetie. be gratful he is not bugging you. this would make it harder to get over him.
2006-10-27 19:54:40 · answer #6 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be able to handle doing without him just think of how he has treated you badly!
2006-10-27 19:55:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will be able to handle it. It just takes time. It can take years. I understand your predicament. Give yourself time to heal. Good luck.
2006-10-27 19:54:46 · answer #8 · answered by wildstar_2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋