i m at home for vacation n due to loads of work due on my head as my parents r workin, has reduced my contact wit my b/f n he has left me instead of understandin my situation.. wat am i to do? how to make him understand? or how to cope up wit this sorrow?
2006-10-27 19:43:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree you should not be with a person who does not understand you.
If you are going through a break up right now, creating a new and joyful life may sound impossible. Whether you believe it or not, you can make your break up a positive experience in your life. Acceptance is the first step.
Getting Past the Drama
Acceptance comes when we step out of denial and judgment and are willing to see the present exactly as it exists in this moment. This means being able to see the story of your breakup for what it is, without any drama or story line. Our drama serves as a defense mechanism designed to protect us from the pain of our past. But, living in the story of your breakup and the drama of circumstances comes with a huge emotional price. It costs peace of mind and prevents us from living in the present.
Learning to Separate Fact from Fiction
An important aspect of healing is learning how to separate the facts from the story. Fact is an unbiased observation of the events of our lives. Fiction is the story we create out of our unresolved emotions from the past. It is rarely based on the facts. Here are some examples that can help you to differentiate between fact and fiction:
Healing Action Steps:
Ready to take the first step toward recreating your life -- and making it better than ever?
1. Create a quiet environment free from distractions. Take out a pen and a pad of paper, and begin writing your breakup story, complete with all the drama and emotion you feel about the events that transpired. Use language that expresses your deepest, darkest feelings. This is not a time to censor yourself, to be kind or to take responsibility for your actions. Give yourself permission to bring forth whatever needs to be said concerning yourself, your partner and your breakup.
2. Make a list of the facts about your breakup, without any story, drama or judgment.
3. Go back and read your list. As you revisit each detail, ask yourself, "Is this fact or fiction?"
You will soon realize its time to move on with life, get some good sensible friends who understand you and your responsibilities, dont worry there are lots of nice people.
Good Luck.r
2006-10-27 20:54:16 · answer #1 · answered by Rahul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of trying to make your bf understand i'll suggest you to give him some space rather. If he has to understand he has to be kept alone. it is not that he doesn't understand the only thing is that he doesn't want to undersand coz he loves you a lot and myself being a a guy keeping myself in his shoes i'm answering this question. give him space for just a few days he'll definately get back to you only one thing is required from your end make sure atleast you are calling him and enquiring about him once in a day...... thats it. if he has to come he'll else you have to decide coz i believe the love which is true will never leave you alone irrespective of he being with you or at a distance................
2006-10-28 10:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by sahilmallick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THATZ THE IRONY OF LIFE.....ISN'T IT.....
I DONT KNOW HOW OLD UR...BUT I GUESS UR IN UR TEENS OR BELOW 24......N @ THIS TIME OF LIFE.....GUYS TEND TO FOCUS ON LOOKS RATHER THAN KNOWIN SOMEONE IN DEPTH....
ITZ ONE OF THOSE PROBLEM THAT BOTH GIRLS N BOYS FACE.....I MEAN THOSE WHO R LOOKIN FOR HONEST RELATIONSHIPS.....ONE FEELS EVERYTHIN IS GOIN WELL N ALL OF A SUDDEN U GET A SHOCK THAT IT HAS ALL COME TO AN UBRUPT END....MOMENTS AGO IT WAS ALL PERFECT N THE NEXT SECOND IT'Z ALL OVER.......
I FEEL IF UR LOOKIN FOR A GUD HONEST N LONG LASTING RELATION.....TAKE UR TIME......DON JUMP INTO A RELATION....THESE DAYZ MOST OF THE GUYS R LIKE JUMPIN KANGAROOS.....THEY WILL KEEP JUMPIN FROM ONE PLACE TO OTHER IN NO TIME......N THEY WILL NOT GIVE A DAMN.....NO MATTER HOW GUD A PERSON YOU ARE....
NICE GUYS DO EXIST.....IT'S JUS THAT IN THIS MATERIALISTIC WORLD THEY R HIDDEN UNDERNEATH THIS CREAMY LAYER.....
IF U LIKE SOMEONE.....JUS FIND OUT HOW HE IS....IS HE REALLY NICE OR HE IS JUS BEING NICE TO U SO THAT HE CAN BE WITH U....GATHER AS MUCH INFO AS POSSIBLE BEFORE U JUMP INTO A RELATION.....
N NEVER EVER FEEL SORRY FOR URSELF COZ THE GUY WHO DITCHED U WAS NEVER MEANT TO BE THE RIGHT GUY FOR U.....BE HAPPY THAT U FOUND OUT HIS REAL FACE......
WISHING U ALL THE LUCK FOR UR FUTURE.....I HOPE U FIND A MORE UNDERSTANDING PARTNER THAN THIS LOSER
2006-10-27 20:22:29 · answer #3 · answered by vijay 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the guy doesn't really loves you, no matter how hard you try, it's just ain't going to make your relationship with him works. Just your b/f about your situation. If he really loves you, he will try his best to fix things out. Move on if the guy is not able to accept for what you are. There a lot of great guys out for you if your bf don't really appreaciated you. Why waste your chance for a better guy when you have the options to choose?
2006-10-27 19:51:22 · answer #4 · answered by CM C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you worry. He has left you. It is better now than later when you would be more involved with him. He was not meant to be with you He has passed some time with you and you should be happy you will find some one else who will not say bye so quickly
2006-10-27 22:36:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your mind off it.
Spend time with you family and relax, read a nice mystery novel or something.
Stop thinking of that b/f
2006-10-27 20:23:42 · answer #6 · answered by sheetal501 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey what you did was not an mistake if he were you then ?
you will left him NO then so there is nothing like that he don't understand you actually he was in search of an issue to ditch you so just kick his *** if you can or ...... just kick his ***
ha ha joking .. try to convey meseg or take help of your common friend who can solve this so ... ....
2006-10-27 19:57:28 · answer #7 · answered by sidhu04u 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont care for him..look for a man who understands u better...have nice time and enjoy life instead of bothering about people who dont care u
2006-10-27 19:47:50 · answer #8 · answered by maninsearch 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just meet him all alone and try to make him understanding your problem and difficulties you are facing.try to spent some time for him from your busy schedule.try to talk with him on phone.
2006-10-27 20:03:05 · answer #9 · answered by kp91082 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u just state him clearly about the time u can spend with him if he really luves u he wuld understand this situation.
2006-10-27 19:48:55 · answer #10 · answered by spicyyy g 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋