ok so i am almost 18 years old, i graduated last year with a high school diploma, i am going active duty and it is pretty hard to leave my family and my wonderful boyfriend. My best friend she has been gone for alittle over a week she is also active and i already miss her. My boyfriend is in the guard, for almost 2 years. he is also thinking about active so does that mean i wont see him that much? but the both of us in the service is awsome i think
2006-10-27 19:35:59 · 15 answers · asked by Schock0 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Dear babygirl: (so cute, I call my wife like that..i guess thats pretty common..anyway i digress)
Im very happy yet sorry for ya, but let me tell you why..
I myself have been on active duty for a few years now and seen all people from all walks of life with one thing in common, divorce, apparently 50% of all marriages in the military are prtty much doomed on the way in right out the bet...but there are good news for ya: Its not necesarely the case, you must be a strong person, and you are young. Now a days the prospect of being away from eachother is a clear and likely possibility so its all in your attitude towards this obstacles, on the other side it makes the times together more valuable, so enjoy them both you and him are exposed to temptation from the first day during training and if you loose your perspective and attitude it is likely you will end up messing around, but remember this is a rule of thumb: relationships you have during training are doomed 100% time has shown this time and again so i would take my odds with who you are with, talk to him about this and all posibilities and save yourselves heart ache by either realizing that you are not strong enough right now to keep it in the pants or ...keep it in the pants.
My opinion is that you are too young to have serious thoghts of marriage or kids ( plz children only complicate things), so keep an open mind, but either way kids in the army specialy the mayority of men, no matter what they tell you!, have absolutely no intention to have anything past the bedroom . it'll serv you to keep that in mind. If you do marry your boyfriend or anybody in the military actve duty, the military have a program called "joint domicile" or buddy program as we used to call it, where the military does their best to put you and your military spouse in the same post or base but remember "military needs are first"....good luck with that and thank you for your service.welcome to the family in the military we are all brothers and sisters , if you keep this in mind you'll be a good additionto the ranks.
2006-10-27 19:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by alephontime 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, it is best to get a year or two on your own, go to college, etc. If you join any branch, you will be under their control. I personally believe that most people that enlist right out of high school have a harder time adapting to military life, but make it through their first time. Most people that I have seen during my military career, that joined in their early twenties, were more stable and were able to adapt to military life much easier than the younger soldiers, especially those that had some college behind them. Some had lived away from home for a while before they enlisted, and learned the real meaning of work, starved some, and learned to appreciate what they had and were more responsible.
2006-10-28 02:52:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Working on my 3rd year in the Army and just finishing up my first tour in Iraq, I can tell you that serving is definitely rewarding. You will be separated from lots of friends and family but you will make new friends and family. I leave this unit in a few months, and it's going to be hard. They are my family. If your boyfriend goes active the chances of you getting stationed together are pretty slim. If you get married, you can do the MACP (Married Army Couples Program) and they will station you together. You have to get married for that though. Best of luck to you both! Just remember, you can do anything that you set your mind and your heart to.
2006-10-28 02:46:03 · answer #3 · answered by Abby 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Army strong
-the military has risks but also many benefits.
It is a new family that believes that protection and prevention will secure EVERYONE'S safety.
-You will NEVER get rich but you will get training and the support and friendship of some of the very finest and honest people you will ever meet.
-You will also change into a more confident and thoughtful person able to assess options and not fear selecting a path or choice as no action produces nothing and all paths or plans can always be modified to achieve success.
Good luck what ever you choose
2006-10-28 03:03:47 · answer #4 · answered by ymicgee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
.My daughter was in the Army for 5 1/2yrs. ....She got out March of last year, and enlisted in the US Coast Guard....her brother is in as well, almost 9yrs now.. .IF you have already enlisted, I wish you nothing but the best, and a safe return. You can't go wrong joing the armed forces, my daughter took college courses through the Army. They provide a computer, and as long as your active duty, they pay for it...So, while your out there protecting all of us, continue your education if you are able, depending where your sent to, and just stay safe. Wait till you see yourself in uniform! Wait till your family does!! Very proud moment! Be safe, and all my best....
2006-10-28 02:54:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is great.
If a person is that brave and has enough convition to stand up for thier country then i have to say i respect that.
I couldn't do it, but i want to sleep at night knowing that there are people out there that will keep me safe without even knowing me.
Keep going, we need people like this.
I don't know if you will see your boyfriend, but if you love each other then you will make it work.
2006-10-28 12:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by JennyPenny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I grew up in the military. If you join, it has to be because it is something you believe in and feel strongly about. Not because your best friend and boyfriend did it. Even if you do join, it doesn't mean you and your boyfriend will be together. You would most likely be stationed at different bases.
2006-10-28 07:03:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Serving is awesome. Just realize that everything is about to change. It becomes your life, especially in the beginning.
Just keep tight with the people you love and remember whats improtant. Walk into it with an open mind and you will be fine. Good luck.
2006-10-28 02:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by Kbailey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i pick the Marine Corps any day over the Army
2006-10-28 15:14:58 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Pizza Man 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh yeah, both of you in the service is awesome. i have a foster sister. her sister is in the navy, her sister's husband is in the navy and their baby gets to see one parent at a time for months on end. oh, yes, it's really cool.
2006-10-28 02:54:45 · answer #10 · answered by cassandra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋