Alright it wasnt so much as flirting she said" I'll be the best gf you'll ever have" And gf found out and now shes all moddy and saying "oh go for it she will be the best gf you ever had" I keep on telling her shes the only one I want then she says "don't start with that crap" So I told her sorry and from then on thru out the night her mood changed and I asked was she ok and she told me fine and when she left to go to bed, she told me she was a bit sad and it was nothing to worry about bye. What was her deal? And what did I do wrong? What should I do?
2006-10-27 19:08:21 · 16 answers · asked by slaphappy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most likely, This is what is going on. Your girlfriend just lost her best friend (want a tramp by the way, good going on passing that up) She's upset, she is looking for a reason to be upset w/you about it (don't ask why!) and she also sounds a bit insecure, the fact that you didn't tell her is reason enough right now for her to justify being upset w/you. She might feel a little torn (twisted but true) and more then likely she's asking herself what she did to cause this problem. This what I recommend you do. Stop apologizing first of all, it only makes her feel like you really did do something wrong. Get some flowers (or something small that you know she'd like) Go see her, and say something along these lines, 'Honey, I know your upset & honestly you have every right to be. What your friend did was stupid, mean & cruel! And I really don't think that she is much of a friend. I'm sorry that if by not telling you, you ended up being hurt worse by this, I was just trying to do what I thought was best & keep you protected, obviously it didn't' work. I am not interested in (insert name here) nor will I ever be interested in her. You are the one I'm with. If you want to talk later then I'm more then willing to listen or if you just need a shoulder to cry on let me know, but stop accusing me of wanting her or of doing something w/her or telling me to do something w/her.' End conversation give her the flowers & walk away unless she wants talk. She might not like parts but in the end it will be better for her. And how would you feel if your best friend tried to hook up w/your girl? It's not a very comforting thought so try to be understanding.
2006-10-27 19:24:11 · answer #1 · answered by Little Nell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww! That's sad. I can understand how your girlfriend feels, because I've been in that situation for, except it wasn't a best friend. You did nothing wrong, but when things like this occurs, Us girls are hurt and feel like you will have a change of heart since you know that someone else is perhaps into you. Reassure her that you love her and only her and would never even think about getting with her best friend or anyone else for that matter. Do something romantic for her, Maybe write her a love letter or send her a card or give her a phone call when she least expects it, look into her eyes and tell her you love her caress her face as you're telling her. I'm sure she'll get over it and things will be okay. She probably just needs some time to think. Besides, I'm sure she's more mad at her best friend than you. I wish you both the best! Hope everything works out the way it should.
2006-10-28 02:29:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there you go if you had of been honest in the First place
then it would not have been such a big thing. Now your in hot water. The best thing you can do is go and tell her you were wrong, and you should of told her the truth in the First place
that you don't blame her for being mad. Because you have given this a great deal of thought and if the same thing happened to you
you would what her to be honest with you instead of finding out from someone else.
Then if you are lucky she just may forgive you
Have a great day and i hope it all works out. remember Jesus
love you
2006-10-28 02:20:49 · answer #3 · answered by jan d 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, friend's like that who needs enamies? What a mean friend to do that to your girlfriend. Your girlfriend is probably just really hurt right now. Wouldn't you be? She is probably wondering what really happened, who is telling the truth, and your the one that is there the most so she is probably just taking it out on you. Did you do something to encurage that behavior? Because, why would her friend say that for no reason? Maybe you were giving off the wrong idea to the friend, or maybe not. Just try to not encourage the friend to flirt with you. And just try to show your girlfriend how much you love her and want her. Wich it sounds like you are. But just keep it up and if you guy's really love each other you will get through it.
2006-10-28 02:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her friend went after you? Well, you didn't go for it so your girl friend is lucky in that, but she just lost a friend and I am sure she feels pretty sad about it.
Don't take the defencive, it's not about you. You are just getting the brunt of the storm. She could be hurting pretty badly knowing that her friend betrayed her like that. I mean, how would YOU feel if one of yor friends hit on her? It wouldn't be her fault but I'll bet you wouldn't consider any guy who went after your lady a friend anymore, now would you? And wouldn't you feel sad about that?
Think about this for a while and think about what you would want her to do or say to help you if the tables were turned.
Tell her that you love her (only if you do) and that you are sorry that's she's been hurt. Tell her how glad you are to have her in your life and that you are there for her whenever she needs you. Let her know that you understand how upset she must be at this girl who hit on you. Wouldn't you want that from her if you were hurting?
2006-10-28 02:23:18 · answer #5 · answered by Moon_Lacey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help being a guy - okay. Guys are oblivious to such attempts at flirting and as long as you didn't take her up on her offer or flirt back - your girl shouldn't be upset. It sounds like there is rivalry in her friendship with the other girl and she's probably feeling a bit insecure about herself. Most girlfriends - well one is prettier or smarter than the other - one of them will often feel a bit insecure. But, she just has to understand that although it was a very emotional event for her- to you it was like you hardly noticed it happened except for that she's harping on you about it. She has to understand that guys are different from girls and if there is anyone for her to be mad at - it's her girlfriend here. You can't help being a nice guy about things. Your girl wouldn't like you very much if you weren't a nice guy right? At least it shows that she does care about you - I mean if it doesn't bother your girl to see someone trying to flirt with you then - how much does she really care about you then?
2006-10-28 02:14:46 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong. If your girl should be mad at anyone it should be that 2bit friend of her. You did nothing to lead this girl along or to provoke the incident. Your gf is having some serious jealously issues. You have said everything that you should have, even more. You just gotta wait this one out. If she wants to be mad at you for something you DIDN'T do then maybe it's time to find that 'best gf you've ever had'.
2006-10-28 02:12:58 · answer #7 · answered by hockpa04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's propably just mad more at her friend for saying it, and needed to find out what your response was, some of the anger she has inside has come out and because you were there - some rubbed off on you. You didn't do anything wrong, you said all the right things. She just needs time to either cool off or confront her friend, and as long as you continue to show her your love, she won't have any issues with you.
2006-10-28 02:13:47 · answer #8 · answered by ang_172 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what you do........"(her name goes here) You better stop that ish right now!!!!, You think I would go with her?!!! You must be kidding me you better not be mad when i come back cuz this ish is stupid, If your still mad at me when i come back that means you dont trust me and then ill BE MAD!!!, cuz a relationship is built on trust we need trust!!!" go back to the couch grab your beer and relax ill say half a minute later she will come running to you saying " im sorry its just that i get so jelous some time but please forgive me" tell her dont ever think like that ever again then have make up sex ... then you call her best friend and hook up with her haha j/k.
2006-10-28 02:17:33 · answer #9 · answered by EsYoDaddy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When a girl says nothings wrong, everything is wrong. Just look into her eyes and say your true feelings about her and if that girl says something to you again tell her to stop you already have a wonderful girlfriend. girls shouldnt get mad over something like this unless you pursue it with the other girl. good luck
2006-10-28 02:18:53 · answer #10 · answered by The_Truth_Finder 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋