Is 24 too young to have a baby?

Question

My husband and I have been married for 4 years. I'm 24 and my husband is 32. We have no children yet but we do want to start a family. We have waited because I wanted to finish college first. I will graduate with my bachelors degree in May.

My husband and I were thinking about starting a family soon. If I got pregnant today I would still graduate college 2 months before the baby was born.

We are having a hard time becasue my family won't butt out. My mom is constantly telling me I am too young and we should wait a few more years before starting a family. She thinks I should be well established in my career first.

I don't know what to do. I don't want to have to hear it from my mom or family if I get pregnant but then again my husband really wants a baby. He wants a baby while he is still in his early 30's. I'm neutral. Honestly what would you do?? Would you wait? Is it going to be harder to start a career if I have a baby?

3 years ago for april fools day I told my mom I was pregnant. She freaked out and said she almost had a heart attack.

Answer 1

I was 21 when gave birth to my first child, I had my house my hubby and was so ready. You've got 4 years of marriage under your belts, and have waited this long...so now you BOTH want to start, so do it! Your Mom is your Mom, but you've got your own family now and want to add a little one to it, what could possibly be so wrong with that. This decision is between you and your husband...I love my Mom but she doesn't decide what me and my husband do with our lives. Its your life, your body...its an amazing experience, I've got 2 now and can't imagine my life without them. My hubby is 34 and I'm 28, he also wanted to have them sooner than later because he wanted to be young enough to "always" be there, to have the energy to play and enjoy them. And as much as children are amazing and all that, as you get older and older you don't want to be taking care of children when you have to wear a diaper yourself lol.

Sit with the man you've chosen to spend YOUR life with, look him in the eyes and imagine the wonderful babies you will make, what an amazing Dad he will be, how much love you will feel from those babies and then get to start line "wink, wink".

Good Luck

Live,Love & Laugh,
Michelle

Answer 2

Is 24 years old too young to have a baby? NO!! now if you said is 16 then yes it would be but you are married and of age. If you want to have a baby then have one. You can't go by what your mom thinks. If she thinks you are too young did she try to stop you from getting married? Did she think you were to young to get married too?

She may just be wanting you to have a career first then have a baby later on so you can experience life first but if you are ready for a baby i would have one.

I am 27 with one child (he is 5) and i would like to have another baby before i turn 30. I think it would just be harder to have a baby in your 30's.

Kudos though on your education!!!

You can always get a nanny or put in your child in daycare when you are working or just take time off for a few years while you are raising your baby.

You can't live your life the way your mother wants you too. You are 24 and married so the only person you should answer to is yourself.

Good luck

Answer 3

Well it will be hard to start a career with a baby but then again you could always not try to start your career until the baby is a few months old so it could also make it easier.

I have 2 kids and im 20 so i don't think 24 is too young.. but it depends on you two if you and your husband wanted to travel anywhere or do anything like that.. do it before you have a baby..

Answer 4

You are a perfect age to have a baby and if you wait too much longer your husband will be an older father. I had my first baby at 26 and now she is 18 and trust me I would certainly not want to be any older dealing with 3 teenagers. And as for your mother she should butt out as you are obviously in a stable relationship and it has nothing to do with your mother when you have a baby. You are being sensible and will have graduated by the time the baby arrives, so if your mum has anything to say stand up to her. Of course if you dont want to have a baby now, then don't as it has to be something that you want to do not something you think you should do.

Answer 5

If you become pregnant now, you'd be 25 when you have your baby. Biologically it's a good and suitable age to bring up your child. However sometimes pregnancy gives you a lot of discomfort and inconvenience which might affect your study. As for your career, child up-bringing will last at least 18 years so it does not matter when you get pregnant, as long as you can find help in taking care of your children while you work.

If your husband wants a child badly, why don't you make sure he understands you want to finish college and start your career, and that you need his help with taking care of the home and baby, otherwise it's really difficult for you two to start a family now.

You're 24 and it's your family, you can decide for yourself. When your mom holds a baby grandchild in her arms, I don't think she'd say it's too early.

Answer 6

I don't think it's to young, as long as it's what you and your husband want. I had my first at 21 and my second at 24. While I did stop working for 4 years after my youngest was born, I did so because it was what I chose to do, and not because I was forced to. As long as you have a trustworthy sitter or daycare center, there's no reason you can't have both a family and a career. Millions of women are happy being both career women and mothers. Sounds like you have a supportive husband who is willing to pitch in with baby as well. I don't think you will have any problem. Good luck!

Answer 7

I dont think your too young but since you are close to graduating. I think it might be better to wait atleast a year maybe a year and a half till after you graduate and that way you will be established in your career and have some money saved up. Also this way your husband will still be fairly young when you get pregnant.

Answer 8

I can only speak from personal experience I am 20 and I'm 32 weeks pregnant so I don't think you're too young at all. Seriously you're an adult and your mother should respect that and let you live your life with your husband because it not a marriage between you, your mother and your husband it's just you and your husband but in the end it all just depends on you and when you feel ready. good luck hope you work things out :-)

Answer 9

You and your husband do what you think is best for your marriage. What you do need to think about is about the stress this will put on you while you are pregnant. Trying to go to school, and believe me sometimes you will not be feeling your best, and it can effect your attendance at school. For some have morning sickness, and some feel really tired towards the last month or so of the pregnancy. You really have to take good care of yourself for the sake of the baby. The stress can cause health problems for the baby or you. You might want to postpone getting pregnant until school is over so you can concentrate on the pregnancy. Good Luck

Answer 10

My hubby and I had our 1st when I was 21, our second at 23 and now I am preg. w. our last at 24. It is up to you & your husband. I finsihed school before my daughter & only worked for a while before we dicided home was where I should be, luckly my husbands income supports us very well & I have that option. Never the less if your career is ery important to you you may want to wait, it will get put on the back burner when baby comes. Even if you don't stay home or cut back your hours your drive for success usually dwindles. Even though I miss my career & still pay on my loans to which I get no income I wouldn't trade having my children young,we can afford it & it is so much fun I take my kids out for runs every morning & go spend hours at the park, It is so rare to see aolder mom playing at the park w/ her kids they are usually sitting on a bench reading. I will go back to work when my youngest reaches 1st grade & carry on from there.