I was talking to this girl and her mood changed and I asked what was wrong and she told me nothing. So when she was leaving she said " and if you really want to know im just a little bit sad nothing to worry about but bye" I mean she was cold most of the night while we talked she acted like she wanted nothing to do with me. So what was her deal?
2006-10-27 18:34:24 · 12 answers · asked by slaphappy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Women today, and I mean today, are a bit on the egocentric side. Reaction formation to yesteryear when all were concerned with what the guy needed.
Don't take it personally. If you see her again tell her, subtly, that you'd appreciate more open communication in order to get to know and understand her better.
2006-10-27 18:37:53 · answer #1 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some women haven't learned that guys need to be told what is wrong? In your case, maybe she is a moody person or sad about something she keeps private as she indicated. If so, it sounds like she isn't ready for anything new yet. Or maybe she didn't want company to begin with and she doesn't have the social skills yet to have let you know she didn't want company in a way so that you wouldn't feel personally rejected. Or maybe she's just plain rude?
Then again, maybe it was something you said that didn't sit well with her & she didn't want to tell you what it was 'cuz she wanted to avoid unpleasantness & didn't expect to see you again.
2006-10-28 01:45:13 · answer #2 · answered by Judith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahaha man I feel bad for guys when us girls act like that....lol.. But truthfully guys don't have to be mind readers.. They have to understand the girl...Woman express themselves alot through communication.. Guys don't... middle issue is.... ASK HER, if you feel somethings not quite right.. don't just stay silent...just out of the blue, ask her " Everything okay ?" and if she plays dumb like we do and says "No" and THATS IT... theres something wrong!
If she was to say " No, nothing wrong and smile or do something , like a funny face (kinda like why is he asking me ), then nothings wrong....
But when there is something wrong and she's playing stupid by saying nothings wrong.. you just say " No i THINK somethings wrong, I know you and you don't act like this when nothings wrong".
And persist.... she'll tell you eventually, then in the end, you'll get ALOT more back, cause you talked to her and "read her mind ".. What every girl wants...
Good luck
2006-10-28 03:27:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore it. If she gets upset tell her she said nothing's wrong and remind her to act like an adult. If she can't verbalize her problems then they aren't big enough to deal with.
She is pushing you to see how far you will go. Stand up and be a man. Don't go after everything she says.
2006-10-28 01:37:44 · answer #4 · answered by GG Alan Alda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was her deal? what was your deal? you noticed she was unhappy but ignored that. maybe if you had said, hey, what's wrong, you seem sad. is there something i can do? she wouldn't have gotten an attitude. obviously you aren't that in to the girl so maybe you should let her keep walking away from you. find someone you will want to notice and talk to. this chick sounds like miss right now, not ms. right for you. let her go, find someone you will really care about.
2006-10-28 01:38:21 · answer #5 · answered by spicey_1_2_know 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
women don't think they're mind readers, they just want the guys to put themselves in the women's shoes and see their point of view. if she gives you a cold shoulder for something you're unaware of...leave it alone and she'll come to you about what's wrong sooner or later...
2006-10-28 01:38:07 · answer #6 · answered by xoxcpxox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they want to find a magical guy who can read their mind, because it would be so cool if they did!
But they don't realize life is so short they're prolly better off being open so both she and her potential men can make better choices about whom they want!
2006-10-28 01:37:52 · answer #7 · answered by A Box of Signs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we want you to be mindreaders because it means SO MUCH MORE when you know exactly how we feel without us telling you. this is why we're complicated. to offset this dilemma, just be extremely SWEET - then any girl can't get mad at you for long
2006-10-28 01:38:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think she was playing with your feelings. Simply to make you rage.
2006-10-28 01:39:38 · answer #9 · answered by Charles B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she had something else on her mind that was blocking out whatever she was doing with you
2006-10-28 01:37:06 · answer #10 · answered by wants anwers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋