There will never be a day that I cant yell at my eldest daughter, shes just 5 years old and I feel like I'm leaving her behind and neglecting her. I also have a 1 year old and I don't have any problem when it comes to the relationship of the kids. The big sister is actually very protective about her baby sister and loves her so much. It's not just me who gets to scould her but so as my hubby which is not really his biological dad. Is it just because kids at this age are can really be irritating or am I missing something big here. I need intervention. I don't want her to grow up not liking me and his dad at all. I really try my best but it seems like I need to do a lot more
2006-10-27 18:26:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
First. There is no reason on this earth to scream at your children unless you are trying to save them from walking off a cliff or in front of a car! Catch your daughter being good. Let her know that you know she is being good and when she gets on your nerves, yell at yourself for your lack of patience. Always remember to let her know that you are there to protect her. Let her see you setting a good example to the other adults in her life that seem to want to use her as a verbal whipping post. If you catch her being good and positively affirm her all the time, she will behave much better because she knows she can get your attention with good behavior. Sounds like you only pay attention to her when she acts up. Bad move. She will keep acting out to get your attention. And one more thing, remember this. Men will come and men will go, but your children will always be Your children. It is your job not to let everyone else yell at her and undermine your sincere attempts to let her know she is a worthwhile and wonderful child.
2006-10-27 22:43:00 · answer #1 · answered by sherijgriggs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 5 they are trying to test the boundaries and see what you will and wont let them do. She is probably just looking for attention and she is getting it. I can appreciate that it is hard with more than one child in the house but the more you praise her for all the good things she does like look after her sister and help you and your husband around the house both you and your child should be a great deal happier.
Just try to react to her positively. The changes wont happen over night but as long as both you and your husband show her that you love her and respect her she will give you the same in return. Because she may be a child but as adults we dont like it when people dont respect us children feel the same
2006-10-27 21:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by dragonfly_princess_72 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some are irritating and some not= do you favor the 1 yr old?? DOes the 5 yr old remind you of her dad- and that irritates you?? Don't leave her behind- include her and talk to her - get counsel from pastor or clergy- there is a group called MOPS- moms of preschoolers- yours is close enough in age- they may have great advice- D
2006-10-27 18:35:20 · answer #3 · answered by Debby B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"shes just 5 years old " And she is behaving just like a 5year old lighten up. I doubt there is anything that she is doing which is wrothy of yelling at her all of the time. However you're making this all confusing. first you say you have a daughter then you say that your husband is not "his" father...you say that your odlest daughter is very protective of HER little sister then you say his...Please clarify are you talking about your daughter or your husband's son?
2006-10-27 18:33:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have 5 kids and i know its not easy to raise kids first i need to say this i was beaten everyday of my life intell i was 9 years old but decided i would never hit my kids and i don't i sit them down and talk to them or i give them time out your 5 years old all really afraid of you by what you have said she very protective of her 1 year old sister you can change i did i pray all the time and i tell the kids when they up set me but i all ways tell them i love them children are god blessing they are not dog to be yell at my greatest joy is when one of the kid say i love you dad or hug me that is what life is about good luck if you need help email me also that time out is for both of you remember words hurt too be carefull good luck i pray for you
2006-10-27 22:07:04 · answer #5 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I find myself becoming frustrated to later think it wasnt such a big deal.. know what I mean? Choose your battles wisely so she will know when you say NO you mean it. If you spank your child like one person answered on here they will jsut learn to fear you, not respect you.. and thats what you want is a child that respects you. My suggestion is to mean it when you say no and stick with it every time that same wrong is done... try putting the child in time out for 3-5 minutes with absolutely nothing fun in sight...consistency is KEY good luck!!!
2006-10-27 18:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by HH72 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm glad you see there is a problem. it's hard however, to not do something. you have to do something. you need to know what to do.
kids her age are not typically irritating.
read "how to talk so kids will liste and listen so kids will talk". it is a wonderful book about how to effectively discipline kids.
and just shut up. you can make yourself do that, you know. shut up. if you're causing harm, shut up. until you have something nice to say, shut up. you can't hurt her more by shutting up than you do by this verbal abuse.
also - do you get any time to yourself? everyone needs a little break every day.
2006-10-27 19:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no shes going through a stage. trust me been there. its not you its just a 5 year old. when she yells back raise your voice to. have a loud conversation with her, it could be over anything. a normal conversation. and if she ask why are you talking so loud tell her because thats the way she talks to you.
2006-10-28 01:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by bondablegreeneyes2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try putting her in another room or removing yourself from the room for about a minute or 2 to calm down. most 5 year olds are hyper
2006-10-27 18:29:41 · answer #9 · answered by Shadow Kat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
New generation of kid is very inteligent and they want proper care. you must be polite and very patient while dealing with them. Just love your kids and they will love you in return. Nothing to worry about.
2006-10-27 18:35:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋