my boyfriend and i broke up tonight and i cant stop crying, im in real bad shape. help?! how to heal a broken heart...
2006-10-27 18:08:30 · 16 answers · asked by Becky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think the worst pain is loosing the person you love. Theres no words that can describe how deeply your hurting right now. Ive been there and I won't lie to you, its going to take awhile for that feeling to go away. Lean on ur friends and family. It took me a really long to to fully get over my first love. I have this saying wounds will heal but the scars will always remain. You'll carry a part of him with you forever, but it will get easier. The pain will lesson and eventually it will just be a memory. When you get past the devastating stage, I found trying not to think about him the best method, I just made myself busy with anything I could and if I started to think about him I would force myself to start thinking of something else. There is light at the end of the tunnel I promise. I really feel for you. I think its the worst emotional pain I have ever been in.
2006-10-27 18:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 17:15:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, I also am trying to deal with one. No matter what people say like, get new boyfriend, move on, be bigger person etc..absolutely nothing will take away that kind of hurt. This has just begun for you and don't try to stop yourself from crying, won't work. I have not listened to the radio in my car for 6 months now because all it takes is a song to jolt your memory. I wish there was a cure or solution cause having to experience the pain of heartbreak I can't think of anything else that could happen to me that could be worse. You are suddenly missing half of you, you're empty and lonely. I can tell you what I have learned and that's I try my hardest to keep my mind busy. I'm not going out or partying, nothing at all like that. You really wouldn't want to intensify your sorrow with alcohol that would be insane. I keep busy around my house doing any and everything. I have the cleanest carpets in town due to me shampooing them twice a week. Open your windows and let in the sunlight everyday. Please remember the only thing that will work is time. Yes its true, time will help the recovery but its tough and it doesn't take much for me to still break down. I never knew I could love too much and would p[ay a price for it and boy is it expensive. Time
2006-10-27 18:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by Octavia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not in a healthy place. You have been abused by the one you love and you have barely any place to go. The best thing for you to do is work on you. Because of your history of abuse, I would see a counselor. This will help you recognize that what you were experiencing was wrong and unacceptable. You need to get out as much as you can and make some friends. A lot of abused women have been very isolated. I am not talking about clubbing either. Take some classes. If you don't have one, get a job. Keep yourself busy. Time will help the broken heart, but getting to know and love yourself will keep it from being broken for the wrong reasons.
2016-03-28 09:49:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the only way to heal a broken heart! Go a head and cry until you feel better! Take up some interest that you enjoy! Read a good book! Do some nice things for yourself! Hope you feel better soon!
2006-10-27 18:13:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard, I am dealing with the same thing after a 14 year relationship. You need to find a distraction. Friends are a great big help. Honestly you have to get your mind off of it, if you sit there and think about it all the time it only makes it worse. Best of luck to you.
2006-10-27 18:12:43 · answer #6 · answered by babyboy9car 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take time to grieve.
List down all the reasons why you break up so that you know it's the right decision and move on. DO it LOGICALLY and OBJECTIVELY.
DONT be involved in another relationship until at least 6 months or more to allow yourself time to be a completely new and whole person again.
Go out, socialize, enjoy yourself, pick up a hobby, go on a holiday and spend time with your family or friends that you know can lift you up and help you forget him.
you CAN do it. :)
2006-10-27 18:13:00 · answer #7 · answered by Ah Lian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you simply have to feel the pain. Then gradually the pain becomes less and less. Sadly, there is no cure for a broken heart except time. You have to accept the situation and move on. My thoughts are with you sweetie.
2006-10-27 18:13:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't cry....Show him that you're IT!!! Move on fast...get a new boyfriend quick... For now...watch funny movies or something...eat might help too...and DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT HIM..
2006-10-27 18:11:48 · answer #9 · answered by Dastfreadsv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do thing that can make you happy at all times. Like music or movie to fill your mind.
2006-10-27 18:12:30 · answer #10 · answered by Cindy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋