What should you do when other people yell at YOUR kids. I feel they have no right!!?

Question

I was at my friends sons birthday party and had my 7 yr old son with me. I knew that my cousins husband would be there, and he and I do not get along at all. but it had been about 2 years since we've spoke so i thought we could just ignore each other and it would be fine. the night was going good until i heard this man screaming at a child in the other room. screaming isnt even the word. it was a total loss of control! I thought at first that he was yelling at his own kids for he yells at them like this all the time and it breaks my heart. Then my son came to me crying and scared to death. You could see the fear and shock in his eyes. My son was the one the man was yelling at. My husband and I do not talk to our children like this. I got my kids and left. then called to the house and told the man that he had no right to talk to my child like that. He basically shunned me and hung up. What would you do in this situation? He didnt touch my son. but he did scare him. I am so mad!!!!

Answer 1

if my kid was a guest in anothers house,that person most certainly has the right to correct my kid but,,within limits.
but,,with it being your kid,,the possibility that you are overstating what took place is proably good.
and if you are so mad why did you leave and call?why not go ask what's up?you sound like "one of mothers"that i glad i didn't have

Answer 2

Do not expose your poor kid to that ignorant jack a** again! He had no right ot do that to your son, if he had a problem with something your son had said or done he should have come to get you or your husband, not deep six his temper on YOUR SON. Now you have another problem on your hands, because now can almost bet those that have louder voices normally ( such as coaches etc) are going to scare the living crap out of him. Also can call HIS wife and let her know that although you do not want to cause problems, you will not attend functions where he will be if he is going to keep acting in this manner and will not let the parents discipline their own children. And HECK YES you have every right to be totally and utterly pissed to all get out!

Answer 3

I have to say you have so much more restraint than I would. I really don't know what the law works, maybe you could call the police, he might of not touched him, but he did verbally abuse him. Surly something could be done. My now 5 year-old daughter's teacher, yelled at my child and another one, it wasn't a scream kind, but a very hateful tone. Almost like she was speaking to another adult, needless to say, many of us parents went to the lady in charge(private school) and 3 days later she was gone. I can't imagine how you felt, just let your son know that this man has some problems and that nothing he could of done deserved the response that he was given. I hope it all works out for you!!! Again very good restraint.

Answer 4

I don't feel like anyone has the right to yell at your kids either.I've fell into the same situation before.Except it was a lady that yell at my child.And I told her to her face that it wasn't her place to yell or threaten my kid.ANd she should never threaten me infront of my kids.Except she was my landlord and of course I moved out after that.Your child is your child not his so he should back off.My advice is to NOT let your children or you get near this man again.He oviously has some anger issues.I just lost what I thought was a good friend over him having anger problems.I will not stand for out of control people.And neither should you.

Answer 5

some how you never explained what your kid was doing.please do not cover up for a child's inappropriate behavior.no one has the right to scream at any body,child or not.if your kid was behaving appropriately you would not have left without confronting the culprit.by whisking the kid out of there you showed him you will protect him but by not standing up when the yelling occur ed you missed a chance to show him you would defend him.

Answer 6

well you already did the right thing and talk to them about the bad behavior. and as you said, he just took it for granted. but it's not your problem. the guy clearly has a a very big psychological problem.

what to do? don't go to any gathering anymore that includes him. you just risk another encounter like that if you still do. just explain to the other relatives why you don't want to go. you have to protect the welfare of your son. your life would still go on if you don't attend those parties.

personally, i'd make sure that he realizes his right place. what i will do? it's not nice to put in print.

Answer 7

if that was the only person ever to do such a thing i would just ignore it,if not you may want to consider why are people yelling at your child and teach your child what ever he is doing wrong

Answer 8

you have every right too be furious. too feel better i would go and confront this person face too face or write him a letter and tell him this will never happen again or else. hes a chicken **** or he would have never just hung up on you that was his easy way out. dont let him have it his way. confront the man. cause no one has the right too talk too any child like that. and especially yours.

Answer 9

WHHHAAATTT???? that man who has no any relation to your son just yelled at your son??? he's maybe lunatic!!! if i were you, really i would get mad. that's your son, not his, so he heas no right to yell at your son. if your son has done something that pissed him, he should not yell, he shouls tell your son gently. oh, just leave him that way. time will come that his son would be yelled at also by other people because of what he's done to your son.

Answer 10

THIS MAN HAS NO RIGHT!
BUT REALY THERES NOTHING U CAN DO!!
HE DIDNT LAY A HAND ON UR SON SO I DONT THINK U CAN DO N E THING FOR IT!
JUST WATCH UR SON WHEN YALL GO PLACES PPL R SO WEIRD THESE DAYS!