after 4yrs coz my man wont stop googling at porn every single second spare he gets he looks at it, im ok with porn in reasonable doses but this is WAY outta control. he even admits it himself but hez hooked. its starting to affect my self image and im turning off him coz of it,. HELP!!! (until a week ago we had a great sex life but now im hurt and angry)
2006-10-27 18:02:44 · 10 answers · asked by genieejj 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl, I feel you, and I am sorry. When I first got married, I went through the same thing. The only problem is, I have NO tolerance for porn, because of some stuff that happened to me when I was a kid. Anyway, my hubby was so busy whacking off, that we could never have sex. I felt fat, ugly and unwanted all the time. I told him to NEVER bring the **** in the house. One night, I walked in on him, dick in hand. I threw a fit, and to make a long story short we were picked up by the cops for disturbing the peace, or something. So now not only was my marriage a wreck, but I was no better than white trash, sitting in a cop zoo.
We were forced to go to counselling, and somehow it made everything better. The therapist told him that he had an addiction. not to the porn, but to the orgasm. He gave him some help with dealing with it, and he hasn't done it since.
I sat him down and told him how it made me feel, in clear detail, very calmly. When I was finished I stated that if I ever saw it in the house again, I would walk. I wouldn't even say anything to him. I would just go.
He hasn't done it since. And I am thankful, because I really don't want to go. But, if a man is gonna treat me like that, I don't want to stay, either.
PS: that jackass that said 'fight fire with fire' doesn't know what the hell he is talking about. It doesn't help anyone for you to watch porn to 'teach him sometjhing'. I know, cause I tried it.
2006-10-27 18:10:10 · answer #1 · answered by C.B. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any man who's hooked on porn isn't worth much attention. Sooner or later that's all he wants. But tell him and if he doesn't listen then he may not care enough to stop. Always realize that life is long and full of men who want more than sex though it may seem unreal.
2006-10-28 01:07:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if that's a deal breaker for you then tell him, and if he cannot stop (which he most likely will not be able to), then let him know that you will have to break up with him. Keep your word or be a victim of an unhealthy relationship. If you love him, then you will give him this chance to change, but if you don't love him, then you should just break up with him and tell him why if you feel the need to.
2006-10-28 01:06:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a shrink fast if your allowing your self image to be ruined by a man watching porn lol i think the problem may lie deeper
2006-10-28 01:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by Amy M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He can go to a counselor to help with his obsession to porn. If he's not willing to go for help, then it is in your best interest to leave him alone.
2006-10-28 01:08:23 · answer #5 · answered by Big mama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he is not prepared to help himself there is nothing you can do --- he has to want to please you not only with sex but emotionally and intellectually -- if all he is after is virtual sex there is more at work here ---- a deep discussion about what you both what is needed
2006-10-28 01:08:05 · answer #6 · answered by trader1867 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
jus get it over with i mean do u really want some one staring at other girls making out naked with each other or do u want someone paying attencion to you or only you just move on ull feel much better knowing your man isnt staring at girls online while you are asleep???
2006-10-28 01:06:00 · answer #7 · answered by wheneva_u_need_me 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well you should watch porn with him. you should show him that you could watch male porn. Trust me on this one. Fight fire with fire. Try it
2006-10-28 01:07:00 · answer #8 · answered by crazy fingers 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Eh.. Why don't you try and find some aspect of it that you like and join in it with him?
2006-10-28 01:05:07 · answer #9 · answered by Makai 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
get even
and then see
i'll bet he turn it off
2006-10-28 01:04:59 · answer #10 · answered by samatha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋