how can I get my mother to stop drinking alcohol?

Question

well my parents got a divorce about 4 years ago... and ever since then she has been drinking ALOT! when my parents were together she never drank at all.... so when they broke up she sid she felt "free" and that she wanted to have fun (she left him) but shes gone alittle bit to far... she never has anymoney, she has to borrow money off of me and my sister, not to mention me and my sister are just getting by with the little money we have. although my mom still goes to work she is always drunk after work everyday... she only calls me when shes drunk or when she needs money.. what should I do?

I have tried to talk to her about it and she just says "I work for a living so why cant I have a few beers when I get home?"

Answer 1

I think you and your sister should have a talk with her. Let her knwo how you feel...Trust me I know what your going through! it sucks! you have mixed emotions because you LOVE her when shes sober but once shes drunk its hard to love her. I think you should let her know that she needs help. Good luck :)

Answer 2

I can understand your situation. Your mother has made a great mistake of leaving your father in order to be "free". This kind of freedom can only make her ruin. It seems that at present she has lost all control of her addiction to drinks. First talk to her softly and try to make her understand what damage this excessive drink can bring to her. If necessary take the help of someone nearer to your mother say, her relative or some close friend. All your mother needs at this moment is a stern but sympathetic dealing with this bad habit. Your mother seems to be depressed with the breakup with her husband so she needs some kind words too.

Answer 3

Look I know were you are coming from.My mom was and drinking.Even when I was young from age 8 on up.My point is you can't tell them nothing but that you love her very much and I have to quite given your money out.Next time she ask for money take her and your sister to a meeting.Tell her is is for her own good.What you want to do is call and hospital they will tell you meetings.IF she don't go by herself.Take her to the movies Then you can go.

Answer 4

pray for her until she is ready to stop nothing can stop her if this is her escape from her break up it wont last drinking and drugging are the way some people mask their feelings and think they are evading reality the problems are still there when you wake up or come down from a high you just feel worse than you would have if you had faced your fears sober until she feels in her heart that she needs to stop for her it wont happen go to some al-anon meetings and/or get some books on how to be an al-anon this will help you to cope and how to talk to her please dont give her money this just helps her feed her habit and that wont help her i have been clean and sober for 7+ yrs and i never want to be that way again but sometimes you have to practice tough love i will pray for you and for your mother hang in there and have a good weekend

Answer 5

If your mother has a job than obviously she is resposible, than maybe she is responsible enough to stop drinking. Monitor how much drinking she does, than after a while say " Mom, not to be a burden but I know you have had a long day at work but you have had quite a few drinks. Please, for me slow down a little" If that doesn't work. Talk to some one else that knows your mom, maybe they can help. GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 6

talk to a doctor or minister, maybe you need to do what is called an intervention, this makes her see how you feel and go to treatment or face the consequences. i am an alcoholic and drug councelor and if you keep helping her it is just codependent and keeps her sick. if she had diabetes would you keep giving her money for chocolate? knowing it might kill her? i dont think so you love her so help her get help. divorce is a very enlightning experience and sometimes all that freedom goes to your head and before you know it you become addicted to something. she may or may not realize this but you need to let her know how you feel in a productive way. good luck. [e-mail]

Answer 7

You can't "make" your mom stop drinking alcohol. But you can stop contributing to her self-destruction.
She has a job; don't lend her any money. You may think that she'll die if you don't, but this is not so. She is more likely to die (of alcohol-related causes) if you do. Parents are not supposed to take money from their children.
Was she always dependent and irresponsible? If so, she is acting consistently with her past. If not, she may have developed.a major health or psychiatric problem. She may need to see a professional.

Answer 8

You should spend more time with your mother. Try going out with her, you and your sister. Try some family activity. Perhaps go watch a movie together, cook dinner together. Just keep her busy and hopefully she will kick the habit.

Answer 9

There's not much you can do about it if you've already spoken with her. You and your sister should not lend her money anymore and perhaps sit down with her and tell her she needs to go to alcohol treatment and clean herself up. She's slowly killing herself with each drink- does she know that?

Answer 10

I think you should stop loaning her money. and try and put stuff in her drinks like pepper,salt,orange juice anything that will make it taste nasty.or pore out the beer and put water or apple juice. i hope this is a little help.