sometimes, i'm so tired of everything, that i just yell....and i lose my patience and become so immature. How can i hold it together and be patient? Do i run out of the room and scream in a pillow? count to 10?... anybody know a surefire way to help!?
2006-10-27 17:57:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Call a friend and have them pray for you - it's amazing how it not only changes how I feel, but alot of times - changes the people and the circumstances. It's my only hope some days.
2006-10-27 18:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if the kids are crying you need a break. I have been the same way these last few weeks, as I have a 7 year old, a 15 month old, and a 3 week old. I'm losing my sanity. But if they have to cry for two minutes while I go into the bathroom and calm down then they will just have to cry. I understand completely. You may want to get a better support system around you with lots of friends who understand. That's the only way I survive is I call my mom, sister, and best friend every day and I have a few mother's yahoo groups that I belong to where I can vent my whole crappy day and my feelings and no one judges. Even when I said I wanted to drown myself in the bathtub as a joke no one said anything rude back- only sympathetic. Good luck.
2006-10-27 18:41:23 · answer #2 · answered by momofthreemiracles 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all welcome to parenting 101. I am a mother of three kids they are older now, but when they were younger and I just wanted to yell and scream, I just would take a deep breath and count down from a 100. If that doesn't seem to work then take a minute and walk away from the situation do a few deep breaths stop and think about a different way to deal with it. Maybe you should sit down and get the kids involved in a game or a movie with them. that may settle them and u down so that you can enjoy that Ben and Jerry's spending time with them will help so try it and see how it goes
2006-10-27 18:01:21 · answer #3 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you do lose your temper and yell. Try not to feel too guilty about it, though I know that's not possible. If you were really out of line in doing it there is nothing wrong with apologizing to your kids and telling them you were wrong and are sorry. To avoid the yelling, well usually I try to do something really silly. That half of second of I can yell and send him to his room or I can fix this. Just a joke or a silly face or anything, if you can get the kids to smile you will soon follow. The thing that really gets under my skin is whining. So I've taken to imitating him when he starts to whine. It's so immature but he starts giggling, then I'm laughing and we move on without either of us being upset.
2006-10-27 18:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by theresacra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hon, this is so common. WE all come through it. How? One day at a time.
It is time for you to realize that you can't take care of those you love unless you learn to take care of yourself. Even if you take a ten minute walk when your husband comes home, it will be worth it.
Learn to do prevenitive things to prevent the stress and exhaustion. Examine what leads up to these stressful times. `Then figure out ways to avoid those times, figure out ways to divert the kids. When things are building up to a roar....change what you are doing....maybe get them in the bath tub or get them interested in something else. Diversion works good as kids.
Never let yourself or the kids get too tired, too hungrey or too lonely.
You need to set up a list of bad behavior and the consquences of that behavior. NOting you can't be consistat with.
For instance if your kids no longer take naps but you need a break. Have a daily rest time for them. Set a timer and tell the kids that you expect them to lay down in their beds and look at books ofl isten to music. Then you either run around and get things done...or you go to your bed and lay down and put your feet up.
Prevention is the best thing.
2006-10-27 18:13:06 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stop, go in the bathroom, lock the door and take a few minutes to get yourself back under control. Use those forgotten techniques taught in Lamaze class, deep breaths, slow down. If your kids keep seeing you get this way, they tend to turn it into a game of who can piss off mom the fastest first. Don't let them get to you. The bathroom is the best way I have seen and found to give you that brief, yes they still scream and cry at the door, moment to get your wits back.
2006-10-27 19:03:28 · answer #6 · answered by Bunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give Your Kids Up For Adoption...I Don't Have Any Kids And I Feel Great...No Worries At All...Having Kids Is Way Over-rated...
2006-10-27 18:01:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Let your kids eat ice cream with you! MMMM ben & jerrys sounds great right now
2006-10-27 17:59:54 · answer #8 · answered by alkdjf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋