My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year. I love him more than anyone else I have ever been with, but we have a problem. We will get in fights over little things and it always seems as if in the end it is my fault. A lot of the time I feel that he is wrong, but I can't seem to get my points across to him no matter how hard I try. I only see him once a week usually and we never fight when we are actually together. How should I handle this problem? I hate to fight with him and I really want to fix it.
2006-10-27 17:53:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what are you fighting about? is it the same little things over and over? are you fighting because you are both stressed out? my ex and i were in a long distance relationship, and the only passion we could get out of it was fighting. not healthy, i know. but when we were together it was amazing. next time you start to argue, (or hopefully before the fight ever starts) take a minute to take a breath and step away from the situation. if you're on the phone, call him back in ten minutes and see if whatever issue it was, is even worth going back to. i wish you the best of luck and coolest of tempers.
2006-10-27 18:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend has told me the same thing about our relationship in that she feels that she is always the one to say sorry. I was Little upset when she told me that. I had no clue that she felt that way. I'm my relationship I could see that I was manipulating any situation so that I would be right. I was unaware that I was doing so until she told me. Next time you are in the situation take some time apart, when you both have a clear head tell him how you feel. If he really loves you he will respect your opinion. If not he will continue to manipulate you for the entire relationship. A relationship is about 2 people not one. Your opinion matters and if he dose not see that then he doesn't deserve you!!
2006-10-27 18:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by Michael L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him how u feel and that u love him alot and really dont want to fight. u guys really need to work it all out and explain to each other what u mean cause it can really just be the little things that can rip a relationship apart, and i dont think u and him deserve that if u love as much as u do, so, explain to him how u feel and that u love him and dont want anything bad to happen to u guys. It is not urs or his problem singly. It is the problem u accidentally create.
2006-10-27 18:02:14 · answer #3 · answered by dramahotty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to fight...but you should not always take the blame....you may not see eye to eye all the time but lots of fighting drives a wedge between you two.....try to figure out what is worth arguing over and what really is not...Lots of things are not even worth arguing over.
2006-10-27 17:57:45 · answer #4 · answered by Fee4Lyfe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I't sounds like he is the hard headed one although i would set him down in front of this site and tell the problem as you are and see what others have to say so you both can see who is more wrong or right.
2006-10-27 18:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell ur bf its bothering you. If u guys reall love eachother don't fight! For little things ok! because my brother and his x gf broke up cuz they fought alot even for stupid little things! They just threw there love away! You dont wanna do that!
2006-10-27 17:56:46 · answer #6 · answered by Pinkie R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop arguing. Stop fighting with him. Control your reactions, emotions and temper. A person can't fight by themselves, so if you stop, he has to.
2006-10-27 17:56:42 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is maby stressed perhaps he gets annoyed with you for bringing up issues he doesnt want t o know about
2006-10-27 17:58:43 · answer #8 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to know how you feel --- its a like he is manipulating you so that you feel in the wrong when you are not
2006-10-27 17:56:57 · answer #9 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fix it
2006-10-27 17:55:28 · answer #10 · answered by NA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋