For women in their twenties...?
I am curious to see how your thoughts process works when getting involved with a man. What things are more important early on and what things do not become important until things get more serious. What are deal breakers for you (other than the obvious he is married, etc) and what types of things on a first impression will really turn you off...I know its complex, but I am confident in todays woman to give some thoughtful answers!!! Thanks!
2006-10-27 17:42:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i just want him to be himself all of the time no matter what
2006-10-27 17:47:25 · answer #1 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most important listen to us ask us questions about our-self that way we know you are interested in what we're talking about .If we know we are important to you and we can trust you with our hearts well there isn't anything we wouldn't do for you. We will stand by your side forever. But do us wrong and by that I mean cheat on us and we will make you pay the price maybe not then but in time we will make you pay for hurting us that's something you can count on.We cannot understand why a man cheats when he has everything at home. Sure we understand how you can get tired of the same face day in and day out because we get tired looking at your face to but that doesn't give you or me the right to go out and cheat knowing full well that if caught you're wife will leave you,but you do it any way. I don't know if this is what you wanted to hear but it's how 99.9%of all women feel. bottom line just Love us and respected us and we will be your lover and friend forever.
2006-10-28 01:21:03 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Below are the first few things that come to mind. However, it's a tough question, b/c I suspect that what is a deal breaker for one guy may not be for another. A lot depends on the guy. To try to answer your questions:
1. early on: attractiveness, cleanliness, and a sense of humor. 2. deal breakers: the guy not paying for the first few dates (i don't mind paying sometimes, but early on the guy should take the lead); a guy being rude to 3rd parties while you are out; guy getting too frisky too fast; not wanting to spend weekend time with you
3. real turnoffs: bad hygiene, condescending, critical
2006-10-28 00:48:44 · answer #3 · answered by ca belle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i like a man that isn't domineering but has the confidence and the power to take control of any situation without ever having to lose his cool. he will take control on knowing exactly where to take you to make you feel beautiful and safe because you can trust that he will take the very best care of you when you are with him... MUST HAVE THAT PASSIONATE CONNECTION OR FORGET IT.. MUST FIND PASSION.. anyhow, in the long run girls eventually start looking of having a family or career so at that point they want the solid family provider that is true and loving and would not only make an awesome husband but and even better father..
2006-10-28 01:02:39 · answer #4 · answered by the alpha princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am 32 but have been on enough first dates to know what i like and didnt like. at the restaurant, if he's rude to the waitress or leaves a bad tip, NOT GOOD. go back to his house, if the house is a pigsty, dirty dishes everywhere, toilet in bathroom is unflushed due to pure laziness, NOT GOOD. things that roped me in were confidence, employed, not living with parents, is he respectful towards women, kind to animals, and wearing excellent cologne....oh and of course the deal breaker, can he make me laugh? cause i have an awesome sense of humor
2006-10-28 00:52:08 · answer #5 · answered by Boop 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being Your Self. It is really important that u dont act like something ur not. Stay Real. Dont change your ways, some guys act all nice and stuff when they first meet someone and once they get to know that person better they change their ways. Dont do it. Big no no.
2006-10-28 00:53:55 · answer #6 · answered by adayatatime 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An immediate turn off is too much pride,its just so annoyin to hear a guy be so full of himself he forgets bout d girl in question.
...For me my major attraction to my boyfrnd was dat we were frnds first and I just felt comfortable,I could talk bout anything n everything.
So I'll say sum1 who is real and free, funny,goal oriented and focused wiv humour too.
Turn offs: Self pride, no future goals, not a xtian....and no sensitivity.
2006-10-28 00:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by Tinnie Cutie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ah yes, this is a complicated answer. But i think first and formost is personality. is the guy a respectful gentlemanish guy, can i trust him? Then i look for interest, like is he funny, do we have stuff to talk about, is there a connection, chemistry. and then i look for interest. does he want me as much as i want him? what are his intentions. of course there are more things that are taken in account, but these are off the top of my head and very important to me.
2006-10-28 00:45:36 · answer #8 · answered by Dead Birds Don't Poop 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question will vary with each person.
So my question to you is what are your looking for? This may be something you would want to ask of someone you are involved with. You can't use this information unless you are involved with the person giving the answer.
2006-10-28 01:03:22 · answer #9 · answered by Big mama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not twenty but here is my answer:
honesty, comittment, love, caring, humor, sensilbility, serious when it counts, compassion, later on: dependence, trust, attention
deal breakers: true dishonesty, shame, cheaters, liars, and bullies
turn offs: long hair (sorry to other girls' boys), sagging pants, hyper drive talking (you know what i mean) gross habits, bad table manners, giving yourself airs, really, really bad b.o, really awful men your mom would slap silly (guys who you would die before ever dating)
2006-10-28 00:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me.. is being nice and charming at first...trying to show that he likes me...
And honesty is a must....
and we have to have chemistry...if that's in then the relationshipp might get serious.... and then it goes form there...
2006-10-28 00:47:43 · answer #11 · answered by Cutie77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋