My boyfriend tells me that there's no point in argument so he just walks away or hangs up on me why?

Question

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 4 months he went through a rough past and i understand he's nice caring and loving but when it gets to us arguing about something he doesn't want to deal with it or say nothing about it like he makes it seem like nothing happened and i don't know what to do and he says he's not going to go through it again with me and he says he loves me and all and he CARES about me but i dunno im confused because when he hangs up on me or walks away from the argument it makes it seem like HE DOESN'T CARE what should i do i need help ?

Answer 1

Well if he isn't willing to face situations within the relationship and talk about them with you then, basically, he doesn't care. You should put this fish back and try your hook elsewhere. Having a rough past is one thing, but you shouldn't have to suffer his past with him.

Answer 2

Immaturity... whew! Like your boo's gonna help you fix things up when he's walking away from things you argue at. This just proves one thing: Your boyfriend's not mature enough for you. I know it because that's what childish guys do. Immaturity-propelled ego makes them heighten their pride when they shouldn't. And the way he acts - backing out from your arguments and hanging up when arguing on the line - shows how immature but proud he is to and of himself. He wouldn't even take a 'no' for an answer, would he?

I'm telling you, he won't be the right guy for you. And since you and him had only known each other for 4 months now, I don't think you already known him that deep (definitely due to his immaturity). So I suppose you settle things with him once and for all in a different way since he surely won't take a 'no' for an answer. He will surely look for you after that. And by the time he gets to realize his mistakes and lackings, he would no less get a nudge from his very own conscience, urging him to make up and change for the better.

I hope I answered our query. Have a nice day, good luck, and Rock on!

Answer 3

He probably does care, but his way is the easy way. I'm the same way, and I know there are times when my wife wants to punch me in the face when we are in an argument. Some guys just have other ways of showing love that's all. I hate confrontation, but when things are going well, I'm working my n*ts off to make them the best. She cooks dinner, I'm on the dishes. She comes home from a 14 hour day at work, I turn off the playstation. So just try to notice those things more and say thank you when he does them. He'll appreciate you more hopefully, and your relationship with him will get closer. Good luck! Hope I could help.

Answer 4

He doesn't like confrontations.
He wants a girlfriend without the emotional attachment.

Maybe, from now on, you should try giving as good as you get. Hang up on him or walk away.
When he wants to know why you just tell him "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" aka treat people the way you want to be treated.

But honestly, break it off and just be friends. It sounds like you got involved with him before you knew what kind of person he is. You deserve better than you are getting. The longer you stay in the relationship eventually, you will grow to hate him.

Answer 5

You guys connect in very different ways. I have a lover that is very much like you. He tries to get me to talk to him, and when I don't, he is angry. I look at the way that he tries to connect with me as very argumentive, and he sees the way that I don't argue with him as a sign of disrespect or callousness. The thing is, I feel that the best way I can show him respect is to NOT argue with him. He feels the best way to show respect is to talk everything out. It is all in the way that you view stuff. Ever heard of 'the floor'? One person talks at a time. They say everything they need to say, without the other person speaking, sighing, or making faces. At the end, that person get to repeat what the first person said, right back to them. It seems silly, but this simple excersise will calm you both down, and get your points across very effectively. Try it with him, without telling him. You will see. It works. Just listen closely to what he says, and repeat it back as you understood it.

Answer 6

I do not get it. What do you argue about? There is really no point to argue either. Can you talk to him without yelling at him like he is a kid? But if you must argue than, when he calls just tell him that you do not feel like talking unless you can discuss whatever you are arguing about.

Answer 7

9 times out of 10 he is pissed off. So he doesnt want to say something to you that he will regret or that he will say to make you think that he doesnt care anymore. Of course he cares hun, if he didnt he wouldnt be wasting his time. Just take it easy and let it be. He cares, just let him go along with his marry little way for now.

good luck!

Answer 8

apparently like you say your boyfriend has had a rough past we suspect he had a rough child hood, and seen so many knock downe, drageed out, abusive parents, that he probably rew up into childhood and said who ever iam with, i will not hurt them i will try and love them and when it comes too arguibg iam hitting the highways on bitterness resement, and hatreed. he may just be so burnt out or spent from a biterr hatreed, deep seated childhood, its his way of dealing with it, just be thanful he dosent hit you or beat you or dident turn out if he had a very very bitter childhood, you dont need help, let him deal with it in his way, dont push some body like this you may just drive them over the edge of no return. he may have taken aNGREN MANAGEMENT TO.Just try and understand and, listenn too what we have said here okay, and also its his male macho side here its like, we said, just let him deal with his past and his , fragile male ego side. he does care, about you its just his way of trying too deal with you okayy---- it may be something you might have to acept in him.

Answer 9

the best thing for you is to accept he doesnt want to argue,he would prefer to walk away or hang up then get into a blue with you and then probbably your relationship would end accept when he does hang up and dont call him back let him call you if he gets to a stage where it seems he doesnt care then leave him he might not think your relationship is worth saving

Answer 10

He cares, he just doesn't want to spend his time with you arguing. It's obviously something he's not going to change his mind about, so he walks way. He'd rather spend his time with you in harmony. That's a good thing. You should respect him for that.