what do you do? the things he did could have been fixed if he would have compromised and acted like he care. it would have been so simple. he made it very hard and i had to let him go. i still love him very much. but in reality i know we cant be and im confused. he would do things and get mad at me for reacting. then he would be ok with us breaking up. he still calls sometime bt i cant never go back. its hard not to talk to someone you love. but it hurts when he says he loves me and at the same time he is doing nothing to make this work. it would seem to me that he is thinking i was the reason for the breakup and that i gave up. but that is not the case. should i just stop this or try and give him some space but at the same time i dont trust him as far as other women. so i really need some advice. he is nice one day and cold the next. i never know what to do or expect.
2006-10-27 17:33:25 · 10 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well it is ether that you do not know him well enough of that he doesn't know the meaning of love cause if you really love some one you don't blame that person for the reason of your life you blame your self and do your best to get back to the person that you love as I see it you are not sure if you really love him but you think that you do in his case he says that he loves you but he doesn't even know the mining of love from the begining so my advice has to be that it may hurt not to be with some one that you think you love but any ways I must say that you better talk to him just as a friend and well try to forget that you love him cause if you really think about it you do not really love him it is just that you are confused that you do noting more than that believe me I exactly know what you mean.. Peace
2006-10-27 17:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by abeshawiwe!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that.
1) Not clear on who left who, it makes a difference in feelings. However, once trust is lost it's a very long brutal road to regain it.
2) Overall, just remember the bad things not the good things. Also, "Closure" is what you need now.
3) About Closure: Once you leave a relationship for whatever reason, everything about you in that relationship must go with you.
You can not be friends, talk, spend time together, etc.. To do so will only prolong your pain.
4) You know what that feeling of loss feels like. Hopefully you have experienced the healing process and how the negative emotions begin to fade with time... If not, trust me they do.. However, If you take a step towards the X, it's not one step back for the negative emotions.. Oh No!!!; it's all the way back to the beginning!!! Don't know why this is but it is.
5) Learned this by experience. Eventually it had nothing to do with the X, rather it was about starting at the beginning again... Nope, sorry, not gonna do that...
- just give it time and move on when you're ready.
2006-10-28 00:43:31 · answer #2 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you learn that things are not your fault than you call me. Your gonna learn that Males make it seem like you are in the wrong when they are really the ones in the wrong. The ones that do not want to get away they are man enough to say I am sorry and mean it. Love does not hurt so let go.
2006-10-28 00:41:26 · answer #3 · answered by Still_21_nheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel loving someone sometime hurts alot. I think you need to move on. It would be hard, but I think you could do it.
You could also talk to him about how you feel too.
2006-10-28 00:48:25 · answer #4 · answered by just a radom girl in this earth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. I'm telling you if he really loved you he'll realize when he is away from you what he has ruined. You've done nothing wrong honey. Keep your chin up, it will get better once you get over him. Good luck.
2006-10-28 00:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by babyboy9car 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you don't put your expectatives too high.
If you the same process you will receive the same results.
You let the other person do something that hurt you, don't do it to yourself.Be aware of that!
2006-10-28 00:37:41 · answer #6 · answered by Gabrio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is using u as simple as that
hes good when he need s u
hes bad when ho does not
u r a sweet grl u need to take care of yur self n find sum 1 who really cares
2006-10-28 00:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by Angad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of telling us this you should tell him what you just said. If you are still thinking about it and he is too then obviously there are still feelings between you that you should talk about. good luck
2006-10-28 00:38:40 · answer #8 · answered by The_Truth_Finder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a real man. He's a control freak and blaming you for his own inability to manage his emotions. move on.
2006-10-28 00:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has issues and you don't trust him- enough is enough- move on- D
2006-10-28 00:38:12 · answer #10 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋