hi everyone ive been with my fiance for 5 years now we just recently got engadged. were both high school sweethearts n i love her alot never cheated on her or broke her heart. a few weeks ago she started acting strange n when i asked her what was wrong she said she felt tied down and was worried that she may fall in love with someone else as she doesnt love me as much as i love her. i dont know what 2 do she had doughts b 4 we got engadged but i didnt expect her 2 still be in dought about our future together. ive always said she is my ideal girl n she has always said im not anything like her ideal man she always said she love me cause i love her. its all so confuseing i dnt know what 2 do n e more i dnt know how to react im am as my nick says lost so if n e one can help i would appreciate it alot ..take care everyone byeee
2006-10-27 17:26:50 · 7 answers · asked by lost 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she is having doubts after 5 years of being your girlfriend, why would you want to marry her? She is telling you that you are not the one for her, and this will only lead to her most likely having adulterous affairs if were to marry. You deserve someone who loves you for who you are. Go out find that person. some day she will regret her decision, and you will always know you gave her 5 long years to have you forever. Do not wait another minute, you've already wasted 5 precious years you could have given to some lady that could have loved you THE WAY YOU SAY YOU love her. You deserve that and nothing less. Life is too precious to spend on TRYING to make someone feel about you the way you feel about. She has had her chance~ give her waht she wants and that is obviously not you.
2006-10-27 17:42:32 · answer #1 · answered by SKayeMesqTX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her now! If not, she will treat you badly or end up cheating on you after you are married. Your marriage will be unhappy and probably end up in divorce. I know it may seem hard now, because you think she is your ideal, but maybe you're just saying that because you haven't met you're truly ideal girl. No one deserves to be in relationship where the other person is just settling for them. Wait and see! If you drop her now, and work your way through getting over her, you will one day meet your truly ideal girl. Someone who has the characteristics you want or maybe one who has some you weren't expecting and who truly loves you with their whole heart as much as you love them. I can't imagine being with someone who doesn't love me with the same love that I would love them. No One that ever has doubts should ever get married and it sounds from your posting like both of you do.
2006-10-28 00:37:10 · answer #2 · answered by ss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds she's having a symptom of being in a relationship with the same person for too long. you tied her down means that she wants to go out and find another guy as one of her life experience. she's falling in love with someone else, it means that she doesn't love you anymore. breaking up is hard, especially you've been with her for 5 years and got engaged. stop being in denial, she doesn't love you. there's nothing else you could do except letting her go. if you need a moral support, message me. good luck.
2006-10-28 00:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by Tartlettes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you need to break it off.Break off and still be friends.You date others and she date others. The separation may just show both of you if you are truly in love or just great friends..
As friends both of you might find you had something special and come back to each other again.
2006-10-28 00:34:49 · answer #4 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow..she doesnt seem like a good person at all..she shouldnt have gotten engaged with you if she had doubts in the first place..jeez..you need to let her go..then she will realize what she gave up ..and i hope you realize that you dont want her anymore and the tables turn..you seem like a good guy and i dont think she deserves you
2006-10-28 00:36:35 · answer #5 · answered by CINDY R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as much as it might hurt to take this news. dont force her to love you, because its not going to hold a relationship together. If you really want her, help her SEE for HERSELF that you are the only one out there for her that will offer her total unconditional love.
2006-10-28 00:33:22 · answer #6 · answered by Dead Birds Don't Poop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to face the fact that she is having serious doubts and wants some space to figure things out and possibly date other people.
2006-10-28 00:29:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋