I have money and live well, enjoying the finer things. When I am dating someone that I really like, I take care of her in that way...dinners, gifts, trips, etc. That is the case now. I have not known her for very long, but I really like her. She does not have money (although she does fine) and I do not spoil her rotten, but I am pampering her just because she does not take anything for granted. She appreciates everything. I fear I went too far though, because now she bought me a very expensive watch as a gift. Of course I love it, and I love that she picked it out and put so much thought into it. I feel it is just too expensive though, and I fear it is my fault, for buying her things like that on several occasions. Anyway, I feel guilty. I feel like I need to talk to her about it or something. Help me out. Women in particular, what you want done if you were her?
2006-10-27 17:24:41 · 12 answers · asked by Tulsa Boy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You would be the fine gentleman you are if you would discuss this with her. You could go with her to retun it and get something within her budget. She must have strong feeling for you. Assure her that you don't have to go for extravagant gifts for a relationship with you.
2006-10-27 17:31:39 · answer #1 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely tell her that you're feeling uncomfortable. She's probably feeling that she needs to keep up with the standard of gifts. You need to tell her that you don't feel that way, and tell her why you buy nice things for her.
You both need to know whether or not your relationship is based on money, and then decide if expensive gifts are such a good idea anymore. Whatever the case, you need to know each other's honest feelings about this.
~Best of Luck!
2006-10-27 17:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by in love w/ life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the watch, thank her profusely for it, but just let her know that you don't expect her to break the bank to make you happy. Make it clear that you would have been just as happy with a cheaper watch, so she doesn't need to spend that much money in the future. Don't give her indication that the fact that it's an expensive gift has made you feel guilty, or you'll come across as ungrateful!!!
2006-10-27 17:28:54 · answer #3 · answered by randiradio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her gently that it is a wonderful gift but much to lavish for you...Tell her that you would prefer something simple and you appreciate the thought she put into purchasing it for you. Personally, I would never buy an expensive gift for my boyfriend because I know that it would make him feel uncomfortable. Now my way of thinking is that if she purchased an expensive gift for you, she will be expecting the same for herself. That is why you need to take action and put an immediate stop to expensive gift buying.
2006-10-27 17:30:40 · answer #4 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can guess what she may be thinking. she probably wants you to know that she values you as you value her, so she bought the expensive watch -- sort of like when a guy takes a woman out a lot, she likes to return the favor and take the guy out to let him know that she appreciates all the times he pays. i would keep the watch, then in a joking manner make a comment about how you love the watch but you want to be the one to pamper her -- that exaqisite gifts are too much for a guy like you, but perfect for a woman like her. You know, something like that. ;-)
2006-10-27 17:42:11 · answer #5 · answered by ca belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to keep it now. You set the tone when you started buying her things. If you give it back, she'll feel like she's a little bit of a paid companion. It's creepy how 2 people who haven't known each other very long are exchanging pricey gifts. Maybe you should rethink your tactics.
2006-10-27 17:30:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in basic terms say it in a effective way! Say "toddler i quite love that you're about me adequate to spend a small fortune, although you want not spend a lot money on the presents - surely i'd favor that you probably did not spend a lot in basic terms so your puzzling earned money might want for use for different such issues as going to the flicks or holidays" tell him with love and kindness and he would understand. also attempt taking him determining to purchase and declaring the more cost-efficient belongings you want and saying "i'd like that for xmas" I do it even in Primark, i do not care how a lot human beings spend that is more effective that they idea about me and comprehend me!! My boyfriend is an same in order that that you comprehend you at the instantaneous are not on my own! He is going out of his thanks to spend a stupid volume of money on issues i'm not (certainly) all that afflicted about and that is unhappy because i'd were happier with a £5 t blouse from Matalan lol,
2016-12-05 07:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know that she really likes you as much as you like her, than you know that the gift was from the heart. if she's really feeling you, she wouldn't just buy you an expensive gift just to impress you. if your relationship isn't try than it seems like she just bought the gift so that she can gain your respect saying 'if he gets me nice things then i have to get him nice things in return.' instead of her just buying the gift because she knows its something you would like.
2006-10-27 17:34:33 · answer #8 · answered by Loves iT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want you to graciously accept my gift, and say nothing more than "thank you" and "I love it!". If she could not afford it, or did not want to do this for you, she wouldn't have. Don't embarrass her by making an issue of it. Continue to treat her well, and see how things develop. Best of luck to both of you
2006-10-27 17:30:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry so much...... she wouldn't have bought it if she didn't want to. I think it is very sweet of you to think of her financial situation but she's a big girl and I'm sure she knows what she's doing.
2006-10-27 17:29:31 · answer #10 · answered by chinadoll31645 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋