Okay heres the situation, i met this girl about two years ago and we have been good friends it seems like i have known her for my whole life, but i made the dumb mistake of setting her up with one of my ex-friends( he dont like me now) and the have been goin out for almost a year off and on and he dont even care about her. hes mean to her and treats her like garbage and i cant stand it. i like her and i just dont know how to tell her. i care alot about her and i think she likes me too or at least she did i don't know anymore... i just hurts so bad to see them together everyday knowing that i let her go. we still talk every now and then but her boyfriend is jealous of me thinking i am going to take her away or something... i just miss her alot and i want her. i want to give her everything and more and treat her like she should be like a real woman not a *****. he buys her things with his mothers money because he doesnt work... i just need some helpful advice plzzz!!!
2006-10-27 17:09:52 · 16 answers · asked by thatonefoolinthe_831 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be honest and sincere with her, but first ask yourself if you really want her as more than a friend or are you just jealous of the time these two spend together?
Even if you just remain friends with her, if you are honest and are telling her how you feel about the other guy and about your feelings then at the very least you will remain friends and she will know that you geuinely care for her.
2006-10-27 17:12:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really do believe that, if you really love her, just do your best, pursue her, without even intervening in their relationship.. dont wish to be a hero, there are realationships that start really worst, but turns out to be the best.
well' if you really love her, it really doesnt matter if youre with her as her bf, you can always be the best person there is living on earth for her.. by treating her the way you want to, keep your communications open, basically, establishing good relationship first with her.. we'll never know if someday somehow, you'll end up with each other--i ur really sincere with your feelings for her, then dont expect something in return-- because that way ur not loving but investing, just love her in the best way that you can, without trying to do ways to win her over her current bf.
and be sure also about your feelings, it would hurt her more if later on, you'll just both realize that you were just sympathetic about the situation, its not a guarrantee that if you'd be her bf, everything would be better or perfect.
love her-- i dont say u stop
just be your best and be really honest about your feelings not to anyone, but yourself.
dont rush.
=)
2006-10-27 17:26:47 · answer #2 · answered by MARIA JANICE 31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll keep this short and sweet in order to prevent you from listening to me ramble on:
I think that you need to tell your friend how you really feel about her. I think that if she truly cares about you then she should have no problem accepting your words of advice. I don't think it's a decision she can make spontaneously, but it's something that the two of you can work out.
If you feel uncomfortable talking to her about it, you can try and ask her how her relationship is going and see how she feels about it before you talk to her about it.
Good luck with your problem.
2006-10-27 17:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi That, Just tell her how you feel,maybe she still has feeling for you.Ask her out on a date and treat her like a lady,and open doors for her.Show her how must you care for her.Let her know you are there for her.You know the so called B.F. will make trouble for you if she go's back to you. Are you willing to fight for her!!! That is the question you need to answer yourself.
Clowmy
2006-10-27 17:28:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly i would try to talk to the girl alone and ask her if she is happy with the new boyfriend if she says yes then look for someone else to take her place in your life she has free will to choose who she wants most and you must accept that .By finding a new girl for youself her memories will fade away with time .
2006-10-27 17:18:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude if her boyfriend is treating her like garage tell her u like her and how you hate her being treated like she is! dude its hard for a 4 a girl to find a REAL man! most boys who just go out for the moment!
they think that we're nothing! GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-10-27 17:19:57 · answer #6 · answered by kaMEron™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to call you when she needs to talk about anything. If she does not call you than buddy I am sorry. People have to learn that there are better relationships then the one that their in getting treated like crap. Unfortunately they learn it on their own.
2006-10-27 17:21:40 · answer #7 · answered by Still_21_nheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what to do. Speak to your friend about how he treats her. Decide if she's worth it. Tell her what you're thinking. Make your decision. Don't be a p*** afterward.
2006-10-27 17:14:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY DIDNT YOU TWO EVER GET TOGETHER? DID U 2 EVER TALK ABOUT IT? IT SOUNDS LIKE THERE HAS ALWAYS BEEN AN ATTRCTION, SO GO FOR IT. IF SHE IS THAT GOOD OF A FRIEND AND IS NOT INTERESTED, SHE WILL LET U DOWN GENTLY. IF SHE FEELS THE SAME....NAME UR FIRST BORN AFTER ME, PLEASE!
2006-10-27 17:12:47 · answer #9 · answered by sammi girls mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her, if she likes you and knows that she might have a better relationship with you then she will probably pick you.
2006-10-27 17:23:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋