I have a pretty good neighbor a few houses down from me and our kids play well together. Lately this neighbor and I are becomming friends and she calls my house at least once a day. I don't mind the calls sometimes but lately the subjects she brings up are things I really don't want to talk about with her----things you shouldn't just bring up out of the blue. She just blurts out things about how bad it smells during her time of the month and the size her bowel movements are. I didn't think women talked like this but apparently some do. I'm not a goody two-shoes but I am not comfortable talking to her about foul body odor and waste. How do I not hurt her feelings?
2006-10-27 16:21:15 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Just tell her that you don't feel comfortable talking about these subjects. If she's a real "friend," then she will understand. Just remember that you get to choose what you want to hear and what you don't want to hear. It's your life, not hers.
2006-10-27 16:24:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is very gross and ill-mannered for her to have these conversations. I personally have obviously been very fortunate not to ever encounter this sort of talk out of a women. And I would add that a "lady" would never discuss such with anyone other than her physician if they thought it were a problem. I would cut her short and tell her, excuse me, but that is TMI (to much information) Unless she is totally dumb, this should give her a clue to stop the conversation. Good luck to you, sounds as though you have quite the neighbor. God bless
2006-10-27 23:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to her that there are just somethings you don't' feel comfortable knowing or discussing. Maybe there's a reason she's blurting things out? Unfortunately if she has thin skin, she'll be offended no matter how you break it to her. I don't talk about that stuff, not even with my closest friend. No-one needs to know that, except your doctor.
2006-10-28 03:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by arcanehex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably just doesn't have many friends and wants to be better friends with you. Like when you were youngerand you and your g/fs could talk about anything? She probably wants a good friend like that. I would just change the subject when she brings up these subjects.
2006-10-27 23:25:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be honest about your feelings. When she brings up a topic you don't like, either tell her you are uncomfortable, switch topics politely, or simply say that's gross, I dont want to talk about it. She will get the hint eventually. Don't keep this to yourself, cause you are the one who will suffer and she will never realize that she needs to change her habits unless you come out and say something about it. You will being to resent her, and like Nelson Mandela once said, "Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for your enemy to die." Just nip it in the bud.
2006-10-27 23:26:34 · answer #5 · answered by Haveitlookedat 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Next time she brings something like that up, youve got to just tell her that it makes you sick to your stomach...just say.ewww, yuck, dont tell me about that, and kinda laugh, but then if she keeps up, just tell her youre serious. If you tell her more than once, hopefully she'll get the message.
OR, change the subject suddenly. And just start talking ...yourself. Maybe itll get her to quit.
2006-10-28 01:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by ~~ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you aren't comfortable with the issues she brings up. Those things really should be kept to ones self.
2006-10-28 00:36:27 · answer #7 · answered by Maggie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm I have known people like that. Change the subject right away or get up and start doing dishes or something. She'll get the hint that this talk is of no interest to you. Talkers need an audiance. Stop being her audiance when she's being crude.
2006-10-27 23:30:27 · answer #8 · answered by Zoey 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Try to joke around and say you didnt want to hear that!
And if she doesnt get the hint ... talk to her in a nice way and say you dont think its appropriate and you hope she doesnt get offended with you telling her how you feel.
or hope that she finds a new neighbor to talk about these things with hahaha!
2006-10-27 23:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by red_hac 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just let her know you are not comforatble discussing those types of things with her or anyone else for that matter. Just say "OH that was somthing I could have lived without knowing. And kind of laugh it off. if she doesn't get the hint. maybe you can try to avoid her calls?
2006-10-27 23:24:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋