How can I get over depression on my own (no time for psych)?

Question

So here's the deal, I am depressed. Feel suicidal every now and again. Married/2 Kids under 4. Hate the way I live. Want to feel better. I just do not know how. Husband uncooperative. Does not want to hear about how I feel. Atleast I think that. Feel Neglected/Abandoned . I don't Drink and I want to start. Need guidance.

Answer 1

You're not alone. If you don't have the time for a psych then go see your physician. Although yoga and exercise might help, they may not and you should have a backup plan.

Two children under four makes me wonder if post partum depression might be a culprit. According to my my doctor PPD can sometimes last for well over a year. I don't know how old your youngest is, but I would think about talking to your doctor about the possibility. I suggest getting a checkup including getting your hormone levels checked.

If you are open to the idea I'm sure if your doctor thinks it's what's best for you she would prescribe you something to try to get you over this hump. But if you do decide to go the medication route you can't start drinking as it could have adverse effects.

Do you have any family or friends you could turn to? You need a support system. Try to make a lunch date so you can leave the house without kids in tow and relax for a couple of hours. I think sometimes moms forget to take care of themselves when they have young children.

I wish you the best of luck

Answer 2

God, don't start drinking unless you really want to feel suicidal. Extra exercising will increase the endorphins in the brain which brings on a natural high. That's why there are so many dummies out there into extreme sports. Try rappelling or bungee jumping or something else that might orphan your children. But really exercise might do it for you with the added bonus of becoming healthier etc etc.

Answer 3

Drinking will only create another problem. I think that is about the worst thing you could do for the sake of yourself and your children. If you don't want to talk to a psychologist or psychiatrist, talk to your pastor, rabbi or priest, and vent to your friends and family. If the marriage is a problem, you also have the option of asking your husband to go to marriage counseling with you. If none of that works, I can only suggest you make time to go into counseling yourself.. It certainly is better than living a life with constant depression. And surely you can spare one hour a week to go to counseling for the sake of your health and well being. Any people I have ever known who turned to the bottle to solve their problems wound up in jail or hanging from a rope..Good luck to you and take care of yourself.

Answer 4

Hi, I'm 18 years old and I hope you read this! My father used to drink more often than he does now and I could tell it was because he felt unhappy and dissatisfied with how his life was going. This image my father portrayed really affected me and hurt me in many ways. Thankfully I was able to look past it and recognize that I wasn't the problem. PLEASE DON'T DRINK it only makes those around you feel guilty and hurt not to mention yourself!! Drinking is for people who plan to fail!! You seem like you want to succeed and I knmow this because you asked for help by writing this question! I know I'm only 18 and my words probably don't mean much to you but one more thing you MUST REMEMBER please DO NOT EVER try to relive your life through your childrens and don't punish them for your past!! Your children are young and no matter what "stage" they are at in their life, they will always be looking up to you! Don't ever forget that you are a role model for your children everyday from the minute you wake up until you close your eyes at night. Now, find something a physical activity preferably that you would like to try... something new and on the edge for you! Maybe yoga or even taking a hike in the woods or gardening! Something out of the house and away from your "normal" daily life. Here you will meet new people and grow! Allow time for yourself to prosper! Be proud of who you are and remember there is always someone out there who is worse off than yourself! Be thankful! If you are on a tight financal budget well tell your husband that a divorce or therapy is a lot more expensive than a small activity you would benefit from and your entire family would in the end too! Really find something NEW and TRY it! Be adventerous and be thankful! Here is a quote/saying that might help. I made it up when I was 16yrs. old and I have it posted on my wall next to my vanity to read everyday!
Choices.... we decide... to make.... life.... Beautiful!!!

Good Luck to you and feel free to contact me anytime at: [e-mail] if you want to talk!

Answer 5

I have gone in and out of depression myself for 5 years. The only answer is to stay strong. I turned to drugs and alcohol and I wound up in jail. I also managed to loose all my friends because of substance abuse. That is not the answer. YOU have to dig down deep and find the strength to carry on. If you need to tell someone (husband) how you feel try writing it down. You may not believe, but there is a God of some kind, and it gave you the gift of life. It wants you to be happy and live for a better tomorrow. (I know that last part sounded pretty nerdy, but its true.)

You need to find a release or an escape that is not self-destructive. Some of exercise or physical activity. Try skateboarding, it worked for me.

Answer 6

You should take up yoga. Get a tape if you can't go to a class.
Have to save yourself, hubby & kids can't do it.
Yoga will save you from these problems if you do it.

Answer 7

See your doctor. Tell him/her all of this.
You DO have time for this because it matters. YOU matter.
Depression is an actual chemical disorder. Meds can help.
See your doctor.