take my children to events if they are in her care? My children attend boy an girl scouts and the meetings sometimes fall on nights that they are in her care. Would it be too pushy to ask her to take them to the meetings at 6:30 pm - 7:45pm. I leave work to pick my children up from her at 7:30pm. The sitter lives around the block from where the meetings are held, and she will still have my two year old in her possesion. My sitter is also about 66 yrs old and she admitted to driving the kids to the park and letting the kids play while she watches (and reads her books) from the car. I worry b/c my older kids might be ok, but my two yr old needs direct supervision. Also b/c of her age she dosen't help the kids w homework (she claims she isn't that smart) and when i get home it is usually too late to do homework and my kids school is strict about hm work so I end up doing the work so my kids won't get in trouble.
2006-10-27 15:37:50 · 16 answers · asked by nene 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I appreciate your problem but I have 1 question - when do you spend time with your kids? I am wondering because it doesn't even sound like their time away from you is very quality. Maybe you should scrap the grandma and check with colleges for students who could be more energetic and helpful for your family. Or a nanny. She would play with the kids, run errends, even take them to scout meetings. By the way, if your kids don't have time to do the most basic of homework, why are they in scouts???? I know it's a valuable experience but so is a Mother and a quality education.
2006-10-27 15:42:05 · answer #1 · answered by heymissmichelle 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I first started reading- I thought that it would be fine for your sitter to take your kids. When I was a nanny I would take the kids everywhere and didn't think anything of it. Then I read that your sitter is sitting in her car reading while your kids are at the park. I don't let my kids more than 2 feet away from me and other peoples kids more then 1 foot away from me- so this worries me. I also think that she should be helping with the homework. What are you paying in her to do?
I would get a new sitter. Include in her salary and job description-take kids on outtings and after school activities (will pay for gas), and to help children with homework.
Your childrens wellfare is more important than the feelings of your current sitter.
2006-10-27 22:53:06 · answer #2 · answered by kelliemag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a sitter and should just sit. If she agrees to walk you kids to their meetings it would be fine, but it is not what she signed on to do. As for taking the kids to the park, wonderful, she can watch the two year old just fine, but not by reading her book. As for their homework, she probably can't help with the homework, schoolwork has changed a lot in the last 50 years since she was in school. Maybe you need to consider an after school program for the older kids and just leave the two year old with her.
2006-10-27 22:44:57 · answer #3 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your sitter is a wonderful person to love your children like a grandparent BUT this is not the person that you need giving daily care to your children. First thing to do is to check with your school to see if they have an after school program that will help with home work and offer enrichment programs. They will not learn anything if you are doing their work, you can't be there to take there tests for them!!! Maybe a friend or another member of your family can take them to practices and scouts when needed. A 2year old does need constant supervision, especially when at a public place. A child can be snatched in a heart beat if no one is looking up from her book at the time. I know how hard it is to be a working mom (I work in a afterschool program and feel guilty because I am not spening that time with my 5 year old) but it can be done with good help from familiy and friends
2006-10-27 22:47:29 · answer #4 · answered by terilynn1979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a more responsible babysitter. Your kids will never learn if you do their homework. It is not good. Allow them to pass or fail on their own so they can be prepared for the real world. I don't think you should continue to allow her to take them to the park if she isn't watching them. You know a petophile could grab that kid and by the time she noticed the kid was gone it would be too late. There are rapist, murderers and everything out there. These days drugs are everywhere. What if the baby picks up drugs and eats them. No body would know why the baby dies until the autopsy. You are dangerously risking your kids lives.
2006-10-27 22:47:00 · answer #5 · answered by Just Bein' Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG. Why are you leaving your children with this woman? And you are doing their homework for them?
Please take a good look at the situation you have put your children in. If you sitter isn't smart enough to help kids with homework is she smart enough to be raising them all day and night? Maybe it's time to start raising these kids yourself.
2006-10-27 22:43:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid to get what you want. If your sitter isn't providing what you need..get a new sitter. It has nothing to do with her and everything to do with your kids and your needs. There are plenty of options out there. Don't teach your kids that if they don't do homework then you'll "save" them...you have to think about this in the long run.
Seriously...you need a new sitter.
2006-10-27 22:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by surat108 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have a more serious problem than whether to ask her to take the kids to scout meetings. you need a better sitter. and will probably have to pay more. Doing your kids' homework for them is a recipe for disaster. in so many ways.
2006-10-27 22:46:29 · answer #8 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need a new sitter. You have to do what is best for the kids. They need someone that is going to spend time with them and help them. That's what she is getting paid for.
2006-10-27 22:48:15 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica_Bessica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i babysit a lot and i don't really mind if the parents ask me to take their kids to their activites if its during the time i'm with them. i think the problem is her age though, not to say a 66 year old woman is not capable, it just seems like it may be better for your kids if they have someone who can keep up w/ them a little more.
2006-10-27 22:43:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋