I'm obsessed w/my therapist. not in a stockerish psychotic way though. He's been my therapist for over 10 yrs and he is just such an amazing person. He has really affected my life and has been my mentor. I love him. Not in a sexual way but in a more fatherly way. Has anyone ever felt this way about their therapist? Is this abnormal?
2006-10-27 15:36:28 · 11 answers · asked by chill'n 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
it almost always happens, everyone falls in love with the person helping them with their most inner thoughts. Dont worry about it, but if it becomes an issue or is uncomfortable, you may want to consider another DR..
2006-10-27 15:43:10 · answer #1 · answered by bud88cynthia 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I've never had this kind of connection with a shrink myself but the problem is even if it isn't a romantic love it's still a emotional connection that he may not necessarily share and it could cause major problems if you stop seeing him. A lot of people go through this, especially if they've been seeing a shrink for many years and get along with them. You mainly need to be aware of how you might handle the situation if you do lose contact because it will probably be very difficult and it's better to work that out now than suddenly have to deal with it out of the blue.
2006-10-27 18:30:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I had a therapist for two years that I felt was my mother. I even called her Mom and she and I were very close. I do not think it is abnormal to feel so close to the therapist-hence, transference. But, I think it is abnormal if you and the therapist begin to act out the relationship. I was really devastated-to the point of trying suicide-when my mother/therapist decided we should not be "acting out" those roles ---we terminated therapy. 2 years later I am still sick from it. I thought I had finally found the mother I never had. I loved her deeply.
2006-10-27 15:47:10 · answer #3 · answered by catzrme 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not abnormal in the least bit. Your therapist is your sounding board. When you have a problem, he helps you. He's become, in a sense, your father. The reason you love him in a fatherly way is because when you were a child, it was your father's job to save you/listen to your problems. When you grow up, you lose that. Your therapist has just been a really good replacement.
2006-10-27 15:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
What you are describing is commonly known in psychology as transference. Ideally your therapist should be helping you to work through this transference and get to a level where you see him not as a parent or person with authority, but rather an equal human being.
2006-10-27 18:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by spiritualjourneyseeker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask for hypnosis and lets get this fired up You will enjoy the ride and he will reveal all his secrets as time goes on Play to his fantasies You know him like a book.
2006-10-27 16:24:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ten years in therapy? Sounds like he is not very effective. Maybe he is fostering dependence in you and that is very unethical. Shouldn't he be moving you toward independece from therapy? I have never been infatuated with a therapist as you describe.
2006-10-27 15:38:53 · answer #7 · answered by Trip S 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
This is normal. I am sure he is aware of it. Many people develop deep crushes on their therapists. Part of the process
2006-10-27 15:46:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think this is normal. of course you love your therapist! your therapist listens to you, and really "hears" you in a way that no one else can..its normal to feel a "bond" with your therapist, i feel a bond with mine too. its only abnormal when you develop feelings of romantic-love. but its really normal to feel close to your therapist, especially one that you've had for so long..
2006-10-27 16:57:32 · answer #9 · answered by Queen of Halloween 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are abnormal, shrinks are weird, you know why they are called shrinks don't you???
2006-10-27 15:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋