2006-10-27 15:35:09 · 16 answers · asked by Neetaa 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You will never forget but it will get easier.
Peace be with you.
2006-10-27 15:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be glad you are crying for it really does help and it is very natural. Since the good lord called him home to be with him, know that there was a good reason as you shall discover, we can't always know why these thing happen and we will never get over the fact that they happened, but know this, he would not come back now if he was given the chance because he's so happy being with his creator, no longer must he face the day to day pain in life we the living must endure, one day you'll find your answer for God will not put more on us than we can stand and in the end you'll at least know why and you'll be happy for you son.
2006-10-28 02:06:49 · answer #2 · answered by bprice215 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You won't stop crying, it is something you will have to live with. Hopefully; with time, you will cry less often. There are a few things you should do: talk about him - talk about things you did together, talk about his likes and dislikes, his hobbies and pet peeves, etc. Talk to him, each morning spend just a few minutes talking to him as though he were in the room - tell him your plans for the day, or what the weather is like, etc. You may not be ready for these steps - here is one you should consider immediately - join a grieving group. My mom joined one when my dad died, and it was soooo helpful. Contact a local hospital to get information about them. Your son is also hurting, he's looking down at you, and sees you in misery. I hope the misery subsides..... God Bless You.
2006-10-27 16:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by Memphis qt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your son. He was fairly young to have died. You will never forget him and from time to time you will think of him and cry. This is ok. Cry all you want and need to.
Death is as normal as being born and life. We ALL have to go through it and we ALL have to do it alone. No one can go with us or do it for us.
It is said that "Time heals all". That is far from the truth. The empty spot will always be there especially for a mother.
It is also said that "A person doesn't know what grief is until they lose one of their children.". That is a very true saying.
Life MUST go on and we have to do the best we can to cope with such a loss.
My suggestion to you is: Keep looking forward, do things you want and like to do, things that "he" would want you to do to enjoy life. "He" would never want you to be sad and unhappy. What "he" would want would be for you to go on with your life BUT cling to the memories of "him" and think about him often.
I believe everyone who passes on hopes that they will not be forgotten but remembered for all the good things they done and/or caused. Memories and pictures are wonderful tools to help us get past the hard times.
I hope you learn to cope with your loss, in a positive way, and go on with your life. Good luck!! Pops
2006-10-27 16:04:51 · answer #4 · answered by Pops 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry for you. i don't know if a mom ever stops crying for her lost child/whether they are 2 , 20 40 or 50 when they pass before us. its just not supposed to happen that way, right, we go first, not our kids. it takes time to heal. you should talk to someone, do you have a minister, or trusted family member you can share your feelings with. lots of towns have bereavement groups that meet to support one another, i went to one and made some great friends who were going through the same thing i was going through. my son was a baby when he passed, but i still cry some times, its been 20 years. you really should talk to someone, you need to get through your grief. its so hard . i'll be thinking of you, even though i don't know you, and i will keep you in my prayers. hang in there. bless you.
2006-10-27 15:44:26 · answer #5 · answered by liz c the soul never dies, Dr. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may never stop grieving for your son. My mom passed 3 years ago and I still grieve for her and cry. Its part of the grieving process and its normal. As long as your grief doesn't stop you from functioning on a daily basis just keep living one day at a time. If your grief is so bad that you can not function it might be time to seek professional help.
When my mom passed suddenly and unexpected everyone told me "it gets easier with time". Well I'm still waiting because it's not gotten easier.
2006-10-27 15:39:27 · answer #6 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never. I am sorry.
Very unfortunate. I lost a baby son and I could not imagine losing one after 40 yrs. I have not stopped thinking about him and you can not be expected to ever get over this.
Just be strong and he would want you to keep going on.
I know that no one loves like a mother.
2006-10-27 15:38:08 · answer #7 · answered by AveGirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss., and I can't tell you "oh it will get better with time", and I know just how you feel! No, wrong answer, no-one should ever say such a stupid comment. I can't possibly know how you feel, I hurt all over my whole body when I lost my best friend, my grandmother. I finally prayed that things would get better, and for me not to forget her. So I make myself remember all the good,funny, and sad times too., and I catch myself laughing, and feel like she's laughing with me. Thats how I make it.! You have to make peace with yourself & know that he is in a good place, with out pain or worry!! God Bless You, and I wish you only the best with your memories, he wouldn't want you to be sad forever., ok? Try to remember the best times, and try to move on.
2006-10-27 15:56:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter passed away in 2003 at only 29 yrs of age. I know what you are going through. Place your trust in God and He will lift you up and give you comfort, love, and peace. You will never forget your son and you will still cry at times, but God can and will be there for you if you will allow Him to. My prayers are with you.
2006-10-27 15:45:14 · answer #9 · answered by son-shine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You poor mother..My heart goes out to you. I think when you are ready to let go you will be at peace..Do you go to church? I think that you should go just to let out the sorrow that you feel. My mother always says that time heals all things. She also lost a child my baby brother..She told her self that my baby brother is in a much better place with peace and rest. She is glad that he is with the lord in the heavens above. I do feel your pain and I am so very sorry for your loss...
2006-10-27 15:54:42 · answer #10 · answered by Stunna 25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear that but this is a question that no one can really answer. You loved your son and it is going to be hard.. Remember that he is with you and he could see you, you are not alone... You will get better, but when you are ready... Good luck to you and I pray that you get better soon.. God Bless!!!
2006-10-27 15:39:15 · answer #11 · answered by Vicky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋