today at lunch, my math teacher gave me a refferal because i asked him if i could go to the bathroom....?

Question

it was like a math tutorial thing and i was in his classroom. and he said that if i go to the bathroom, i can't come back to the room. so i called him racist because he always lets black and mexican people go but not me. and then he gave me a referral... does he have the right to do this? what should i do?

Answer 1

tha's major bullshit.
he has no freakin right to tell u that.
if u need to go to the bathroom, then go to the bathroom.
he ain't goanna pay for your medical expenses when your bladder bursts.
next time he or any teacher says that, say "alright then i won't" and walk out. Your health is ten times more important than your education.
did u tell your parents about it?
they'd have to talk to the teacher and principal about it
just do me a favor,.. health before education, and action before talk--in other words just walk out and say alright then

Answer 2

I'm so sorry to hear of your bad experience in school; especially in your freshman year - it's not a good way to start in a relatively new school. The need to go to the bathroom is a legitimate reason to be excused from the room. Perhaps your teacher has had a number of bad experiences with other students and this has adversely affected his judgement. This is still not a good enough reason to prevent you from relieving yourself when mother nature calls. Each case should be handled individually. I truly understand your embarassment and the humiliation you had to suffer, not to mention soiling your clothes. Incidents like these should not go unreported. I suggest you discuss this with your principal, assistant principal, or counselor; whichever one you feel most comfortable with - this may not be easy. Considering you are a freshman, you may not have developed a close enough relationship with any of them so you may want to ask your parents to intervene and speak with someone of authority at the school. There is a possibility that you are not the only student that has gone through the same experience with this teacher. If this is the case, then there should be an investigation and if found guilty of misconduct, then your teacher's employment should be terminated or suspended - at the very least a serious reprimand with a warning. No school should accept or tolerate this kind of behavior from any of its faculty. Do not let this go because this type of behavior which has been happening for a long time (45 years ago a fellow class-mate encountered the same thing with the same results) is not acceptable today. As for your class-mates, youths lack the understanding and compassion for those who have been wronged. To them, they are looking at every opportunity to make someone appear inferior, when in reality, they are only trying to hide their own insecurity of themselves. It's unfortunate that you were the victim and yet were made to feel like a freak at a carnival show. Yes, their jokes or snide remarks will continue for a brief period of time; but it is because of their ignorance and trying to belong (appear cool), that in their perverted way they try to find social acceptance at the sacrifice of someone else's feelings. This is insensitive and inconsiderate of other people as well as just plain immaturity on their part. They are the ones to feel sorry for because they just don't see how their stupidity is so misguided. Learn from this experience, that people can be mean, unreasonable, thoughtless and inconsiderate (there are good people too). This incident can help you build a stronger character. It's up to you to decide which path to take from here. You can either wallow in your feelings and live in pity and feel sorry for yourself, or, you can raise yourself above all this and feel sorry for those who do not know any better; whether they be young or older adults. Be strong and take command, it will make you a much better person.

Answer 3

Your teacher may have given you a referral because you called him a racist - not because you asked to go to the bathroom.

I am a teacher (6th grade), and sometimes I let kids go when they ask; sometimes I don't. If it's a kid who rarely asks, and if I think it's a sincere, legit request, I'll write a pass. On the other hand, if the student disrupts the class and asks to go every time he or she is in that period, I'll say "No."

Sometimes it's a tough call for a teacher to make. In your case, it would probably depend on all the factors involved, such as how/when you asked, what instructional content was going on at the time, how much class time was left, and so forth.

There may be factors of which you are not aware, as well. For example, one of my students has a bladder problem and needs to use the bathroom frequently. I don't share this with the other students, but I let him go every time he asks. He asks quietly and politely and always returns as quickly as possible.

You may try talking to your teacher about it, but do so in a calm, mature, and respectful manner.

Answer 4

Yes, he has the right to do that, but you also have the right to voice your opinion (freedom of speech). You also have the right to go and report the issue. This teacher may not see that he is doing this and if it is brought to his attention by an authority figure, he may understand and finally realize it. I would either talk to your counselor or even the teacher themselves and ask them why it is wrong to feel this way. Hope this helps and good luck.

Answer 5

You crossed the line when you called him a racist. You deserve the referral; sorry. In fact, I would have you transferred out of my class if you disrespected me like that.

Answer 6

I would get your parents involved if you can. If you really need to go to the bathroom, especially if it is a "girl" situation, I would have walked out of class and gone to the office to report him! If he is racist you never know what he will do next to show it or what he will try to do to put it all back on you. Take it up a notch and get other adults involved. Write everything down and present it to the counselor and your parents.

Answer 7

You were out of line! I think he had the right to give u that referral, U were being evil and disrespectful. I don't think it has anything to do with racism, it had something to do with ur attitude and ur smart a** comments. I won't have let u go to the bathroom either, and ur parents should beat the hell outta u and make u apologize to that man!

Answer 8

See the Principal, with your concern expressed in writing. Do not accuse him of racism, just say that what he said was inconsistent with what other students are allowed to do. Good luck

Answer 9

i'm guessing the reason he didn't let you go is because you were already being a little snot, just like you sound in your question. try to see what you might have been doing to cause him to act this way. instead of blaming it all on him or other people.

Answer 10

he probably did that because you talked back. teachers are all about respect. he didnt have the right to deny you going to the bathroom though, thats just wrong.