We have been dating for 2 mths & from the beginning I told him I was looking for a relationship. Well about a month into it he said he just wanted to be friend w/ benefits. I told him I wasn't interested. But yet he wouldn't stop contacting me. He still wanted to hang out & and everything. Well I left town for 2 wks before I left he gave me a baf full of goodies for my airplane trip. I thought that was really thoughtful and sweet. I mean that shows that he cares for me. Right? So why is it he says all he wants is the friends with benefits which we haven't had sex but he knows i'm not interested in that. What is he wanting??? Is he waiting for me to change his mind? Or could he actually want something more with me? I'm 26 he is 31
2006-10-27 15:24:13 · 18 answers · asked by browneyegirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I mean is he waiting for me to change my mind?
2006-10-27 15:25:37 · update #1
I do want the relationship with him. But he just wants FWB
2006-10-27 15:31:53 · update #2
The only one with your answer honey is him!
Ask him all of these questions and when he gives you his answers accept them, whether you want to or not.
If he claims love or other needs be cautious and don't give yourself to him sexually stick to your standards until you know that the answer of love is truly love, and not just him wanting to win his prize!
2006-10-27 15:32:56 · answer #1 · answered by Crampy Grampy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had started off being just friends with benefits with a guy I was seeing and about 3 months later he asked if we could become exclusive and then shortly after that he said that he wanted it to be official and that he wanted the relationship be just about me and him, sometimes its not a bad thing, just because he is calling it friends with benefits does not mean that he is sleeping with a whole bunch of other women or even anyone at all, sometimes guys are just funny about titles right off the top and need time to warm up, so if you like this guy and you are down for getting some action then sure be friends with benefits if you are able to handle it, it may develop into something more.
2006-10-27 17:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by Thandie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep your standards. You want a relationship, not friends w/benefits. You can be pleasant to him, respond to his calls and emails, and you can see if he will respond to you in the way you want. Do NOT give in to the fwb situation. You can also put some kind of a time limit on this, if you want...say six weeks to two months, and if he still has the fwb attitude, then cut your losses and move on.
2006-10-27 15:28:41 · answer #3 · answered by ragged 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the usual guy thing. You haven't given in to what he wants, so he'll pursue you until you do, then it'll be bye-bye when he finds someone else who catches his eye. He's way too old to be playing these kind of games, and you need to move on and find someone who is looking for the same thing you are. Stay with him and you'll end up getting hurt in the end.
2006-10-27 15:33:18 · answer #4 · answered by letsgetagripalready 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to lure you in with chocolates. Plus he might have something and not telling you what it is. Just remember guys will do anythang for a little of "jungle feva". He's just going to keep trying to get you in bed until something new comes along. He is using the tier method slowly wearing you down step by step until he gets what he wants. If he cannot respect your descion kick him to the curb. There are five billion other men waitin in line for you, this is one less you gotta deal with.
2006-10-27 15:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by christain gurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He means exactly what he said. He wants to be friends with benefits. When someone lays it out to you straight like that, why do people question his intentions. There is no question about it-he wants bootie and no strings attached.
If you don't want that kind of relationship and you don't want to get hurt, my advice would be for you to leave him alone and move on.
2006-10-27 15:31:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 01:08:49 · answer #7 · answered by grumney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously he is opting for the friends minus the benefits. Ride it till he make a move either way. Never have too many friends.
2006-10-27 15:30:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say but it seems the challenge is what he is after. to have a woman when the woman knows he does not want a relationship is first prize for the man. basically, "i got her and she knows that i don't want anything to do with her".
2006-10-27 15:34:02 · answer #9 · answered by james e 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he does not want to have commitment, then he just want to have sex with you and acting thoughtful and loving is just a way of getting you change your mind, the guy is one horny dude.. be careful if you don't want to have arelationship with him because if you are not you will soon be! he is counting on it!
2006-10-27 15:29:11 · answer #10 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋