Ok this may be long, Sorry. I really like this guy who doesn't go to my school. I know him from a play I did alone with a really good friend of mine. Well me and her liked him at the same time. Later after the play she asked him out because she really thought he liked her. Well I thought he liked me and I never told her anything that happened between me and him (just little flirty things, you know.) Well anyway he turned her down and now its a really akward friendship between them. She didn't know that we flirted, a little, so I really thought that he liked me. I bet your wondering what my question is so her it is. She thinks that I should ask him out by e-mail (since I don't see him.) BUT the issue is I just can't. I am so afraid of ruining a good friendship with him. I don't want it to be akward. I really do want to know if he liked me, but... I am soooo afraid of rejection. I just don't know what to do.
2006-10-27 15:19:08 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh did I metion that I am friends with his sisters and if we ever broke up that would be too akward when I saw them and then I would have to see him too. Just stating.
2006-10-27 15:35:52 · update #1
If I were you, I'd suggest doing a group thing with him. Invite him to come along with some friends and you. Then it doesn't seem like you're zeroing in on him. Then when you guys are all out together, spend some time getting to know him and see if he asks you to do something with him. Play it safe for the first group date. You can email him something like--"my friends and I are having a get-together and I think you'd really enjoy it." or " We are going to see this really neat movie and you're welcome to come with us if you want." You keep your cool distance while still letting him know you like him. I say inch toward the one on one date with him, but do it slowly. If he gets uptight over the group invite, then a relationship was not meant to be. By inviting him in this way, you are doing everything right. So, if it doesn't work out, it's his fault.
2006-10-27 15:28:07 · answer #1 · answered by David 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, never be afraid of rejection. Its better to try and get rejected than to continue wondering forever. Second, don't ask him out yet. Talk to him on IM or email or the phone, go to the movies in a group, (not with other girls he might like), and just be friends, but all the time knowing that you're trying to build this into something more. If its meant to be, it'll happen. If not, then you'll still have your great friend and enjoy figuring it out.
2006-10-27 22:24:02 · answer #2 · answered by hd112596 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
great friendships are the worst thing to lose, but i can tell you from experience that when a great friendship turns into something more, it is absolutely the best thing in the world. my boyfriend was one of my best friends and now that we have a romantic relationship we're even closer, and i love being with him. if you really want a romantic relationship, the only thing to do is just go for it. i know rejection sucks, but if he says no, just play it off cool, as if it were no big deal, even if it was for you. that way he wont be awkward, and it'll give you time to deal with rejection. good luck!
2006-10-27 22:25:01 · answer #3 · answered by disturbed_l22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid of rejection. If you do not ask him out you may miss a great opportunity that you may regret later. The worst that can happen is he'll say no. If he does you can move on to the next guy. He sounds like he is interested in you too, and may be to shy to ask. Remember, nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Best wishes
2006-10-27 22:27:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best thing to do hun is probably just stay friends, i have dated a good friend before and believe me it gets very awkward if u ever break up and u will never be best mates again so unless u plan on marrying him down the track u should just stay friends, boyfriends come along all the time, but genuine friends dont come along all that often. also u should never date a mates x. its in the rule books of a friend. mwah good luck with ur decision
2006-10-27 22:25:36 · answer #5 · answered by amandas_mumma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't try you'll never know. If she's telling you to then do it. That's a great friend you have there! Just before you do, talk to her alone, and make sure it's all right, tell her that you're her friend, and if she really doesn't want u to...then just wait a while. The thing I noticed is that she asked him out, why can't you?
2006-10-27 22:22:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if your seriouse, don't email him trying to get at him or asking him out. instead, try to talk to him ( through email, like just friends) , ask how he's been and what he's been up too. then ask him if wants to hang out sometime. from there you can be friends, see each other and then see if he's really interested rather that ruining a friendship. hope this helps
2006-10-27 22:24:48 · answer #7 · answered by black_metal_mist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing ur friend may be got rejected coz the way she asked him and as u said he was flirting with u alittle then u got bright chances of getting accepted by him so just be polite and friendly before u even ask him out try to be friends with him first . and rest depends how charming and cute u look when u ask him out
ps: plz let me know what happen u got me interested in ur luv triangle mrdeeds_1983@yahoo.com
2006-10-27 22:24:16 · answer #8 · answered by mrdeeds_1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really like him ask him out whats the worst thin that could happen he sais no ther are plent other fisk in the sea if he dose not want to be with you go fishing get it ok that was a stupid joke i try to be funny good luck
2006-10-27 22:24:50 · answer #9 · answered by sk8erhjk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, our biggest fear is fear of the unknown. How to conquer this fear? By facing this fear. That's where you learn wisdom by experiencing things.
That being said, what's more important to you, finding out if he likes you, or remaining good friends with him? If you can answer this question, that is when you will have figured it out.
2006-10-27 22:24:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋