I turned 30 yesterday and I decieded to vist all of my graduating class myspace pages, WOW, it made me feel like such a loser. Many of my friends all have advance degrees, enjoying life , with great careeres. I am a single parent who can bareley afford to buy my self the any clothes, and have gained 60 lbs,over the years and struggling to complete a bachlors degree. I was voted most beautiful and likely to succseed and I don't feel like I have lived up to any of that and I am quite embarrassed of it. I know I should not worry about this kinda stuff bit today it hit me hard today to see people so fashionable, enjoying life and having something to talk about. Is it too late to grow up and out ?
2006-10-27 14:46:34 · 20 answers · asked by nene 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You shouldn't worry to much about what others look like, you should just stop and really think about what's going on in your life, are you happy with your child(ren)?Or would you rather have never gotten pregnant and had a child, cause after pregnancy's some people do have added weight, so you have to honestly reflect on what's truly important in your life. Hope this helped, and good luck in life ^_^.
2006-10-27 14:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by Eru Lawliet 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think first of all, you should appreciate that you have achieved some things e.g going to college and be proud of it! Then, perhaps you should start setting some goals, what you hope to achieve in life. Maybe travel loads, earn a million bucks etc. Then plan the small steps on how you gonna achieve your goal! N dun forget to give yourself a pat on the back when you accpmplish each small step. N a big celebration for the final goal! =) You could also try doing some volunteer work! It can be fun and great for meeting new pple! :) Cheers! Look on the bright side of life! You still have plenty of time to accomplish so much more...
2016-03-19 00:43:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never too late to help your life get better. If you're not in a place where you'd like to be, you can definitely change it. But you shouldn't be defining where you are in comparison to other people. It's not a competition. I suspect many of your high-school friends would envy the fact that you have kids when all they have to come home to is an empty house or apartment at the end of the day. So instead of focusing on what you don't have, look at the great blessings that God has given you, and be happy! You're a wonderful person!
2006-10-27 19:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by drshorty 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I feel left behind too. Just about everybody I know from school are happy with husbands and wives with children. I am stuck in a dead end relationship of three years and all he cares about is video games. I am 26 years old.
2006-10-27 14:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by ladiebugg81 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Here's a shock. Get over it. Quit trying to keep up with everyone else. LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT. Who says all those people are so damn happy anyway? Live for you. Who gives a rat's rosette what the others have done. You are not them. Now, quit your crying and get on with your life.
2006-10-27 16:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by rank_peeler 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Every single day is a new chance to start all over again ... But remember, avoid comparing yourself to others. Other people may seem happy only on the outside. Start by losing weight because it seems this is really bothering you. Your success depends on how you feel about yourself, so you have to start from your inside to your outside. You are a wonderful person and need not to feel ashamed of what you have accomplished. Don't let the "false happiness" of others make you feel less (How would you really know that what is posted on the myspace web pages is true or false anyway?). You don't have to live up to the expectations of others, just live up to your own expectations. I have heard the saying: "Life is not a destination, but rather a journey..." Focus on enjoying the ride ...
I wish you happiness...
2006-10-27 19:34:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am in a similar boat, but I am 39. You are not alone. Just hang in there and never give up! Believe it or not you and I and others like us have things we don't realize yet that others do not.
The woman who wrote Harry Potter was a single mom on welfare.
I look at others and wish I had a nice husband etc. but that does not get me anywhere but down. I just started taken some supplements from the health food store that have made a huge difference in my outlook and attitude. If you want to email me I will tell you what they are.
I also just read the book 1776 for a class I am taking (only working on associates :) ) Anyway it really inspired me. It was unbelievable the odds G. Washington and others faced in 1776, but they persevered against incredible odds (and made allot of mistakes!) and achieved amazing things. It is a great read.
NEVER GIVE UP!!
2006-10-27 15:11:18 · answer #7 · answered by crct2004 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You should feel proud for working on your degree and you have a child that you love and who loves you.
There is plenty of time for traditional "success." You are on your way to having it all - and wake up each day, look in the mirror and tell yourself something positive. Write a gratitude journal. Spend some time exercising or doing sports with your child.
Lives have their cycles, the best is yet to come for you. :)
2006-10-27 16:53:48 · answer #8 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I learned that you can't compare your life to other peoples. It will only make you depressed. You'll get where you want to be as long as you work towards your goals.
2006-10-27 14:58:53 · answer #9 · answered by call_me_t 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are unhappy about where you are in life, only you can change that. It sounds like you want something different out of your life than the path you are currently on seems to be taking you....you can change that if you really want to. Go after it. I will say that I am one of those people that looks back and have achieved a whole different level of success than my old classmates. I look at them and they are all living in the same place where we grew up, with the same people, maybe a couple finished school...but most didnt. I look at them and wonder how they can be happy with that. But that is the thing, you can be happy where you are or you can be happy if you have accomplished alot. Everyone, no matter where they are in life, have both positives and negatives in their life. All that matters is what you want for yourself and your family. Good Luck!
2006-10-27 15:34:36 · answer #10 · answered by azcat 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋