....that i'm one of her really good freinds. We don't hang out much outside of school but we are good friends from school. Should i try to win her heart or just be paitient and wait, or even become best friends and maybe let things happen after that. It really hurts not being able to be her boyfriend. Is it possible for a girl to be in love with her boyfriend and with me at the same time?
2006-10-27 14:44:27 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you really want to be with someone who is in love with you and someone else at the same time?
And if you can get her away from him, you'll always be suspicious that she could be led away from you by some other guy.
If she seems happy with her boyfriend, then you would be extremely selfish to try to get her away from him. If you love her, then you CARE about her well being, even if it means that you may have to wait to see if she becomes available and pursue her then. Until then, I'd suggest you be her friend and support her, give her an opportunity to get to know you better. If she does break up with him, she'll be in a much better position to consider you as her boyfriend if she's come to know what a good guy you are. But if you're trying to pull her away from her boyfriend or break them up, how good a guy are you? You're not going to be able to show her what a good person you are if you're acting so selfishly.
Good luck.
2006-10-27 14:49:28 · answer #1 · answered by lily 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to go about this is to wait. Let her know that you are attracted to her (with little hints) a touch on the shoulder or a nice compliment here and there. And just see what happens. There seems to be a little attraction between the both of you. More from you but you do have a chance if you play your cards just right.
2006-10-27 14:51:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
buddy,
if shes in love with another guy, the best thing you can do is hang on the sidelines. let her live her life the way she wants to, and when she and her man crash and burn, which they might, you'll be there to help her mend herself. dont push, or youll push yourself right out of her friendship circle, let alone heart. i know it hurts, but itll hurt more to not be able to see her at school. or even more when her boyfriend beats you up because you scared her and she makes you sound like a creep. just relax. you never know. maybe a new girl will stroll in through those doors and either still HIS heart, or maybe even YOURS. or maybe there is a girl even closer to home, and you dont even see her. maybe she feels the same way you do about this other girl. look around, there are plenty of available girls that want your love. maybe this current love will see you with another girl and get jealous. but hey, as a warning, if she does, as soon as you dump this girl and go to her, she probably wont want you anymore, because its about the chase, not the catch, to her. use caution. lemme know if i can help any further!
ally
desdemonathedevil@yahoo.com
2006-10-27 14:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by need 2 get a grip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue being friends if it does not upset you to see her with someone else but go on with your life and spend time with other friends and stay open to finding someone else to be your girlfriend as this person is already involved with someone. If they break up, then she is available and you can ask her out or tell her how you feel. If she knows how you feel and only wants to be friends then you have to accept that and go on with your life. I am sure you are a great guy and there are lots of girls out there that would find you attractive. Good luck to you in the future. I hope this helps.
2006-10-27 14:49:14 · answer #4 · answered by Libragal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a girl so this is coming from a girls perspective. in all my good relationships i have been friends with the guys first.the guy i am with now (we are engaged) were friends from school and i was with somebody when we first met but we hung out a couple of times outside of school and were inseperable during school. i was always thinking about him but didn't realize that i truley cared for him until he went to prom with my best friend and she hurt him. what i'm trying to say is if ya'll have enough in common to where you know you love her try being her friend and always be there for her when she needs a friend but don't cross the line wait until ya'll are close friends and tell her when you feel the time is right. like my guy told me that he loved me after a concert one night about two weeks after me and my boyfriend broke up it's all about timing thats all i can tell ya good luck
2006-10-27 15:02:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give up. I have had it happen to me before. It will never happen. Once you are in that "Friend Zone" you can never leave. Just stop talking/hanging out with her and maybe in a few years you will cross her path and she will be attracted to you in a different way.
2006-10-27 14:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by HawkDog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is possible, that is happening to me right now..But jst be her friend HER BEST FRIEND! I mean.....maybe yall arn't dating because something wouldv happened between yall...and yall wouldn't be friends anymore[[Eveything happens for a reason!]] and ket her know how you feel.... and maybe she'll relize that your better and goo for you.!
I REALLY doo hope it works out....
But if she doesn't like you in that way then at least you still have her as a friend insted of nothing!
2006-10-27 15:34:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait for things to end with her and her b/f. If you pursue her while she is in a relationship whats to stop the next guy who likes her to pull her away from you?!
same thing with why do girls get into a relationship with someone who is already in one and then when the guy cheats on her, she asks herself why?
think about it...
2006-10-27 14:46:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its possible but unfortunately not a good scenario. let her know you wish you were hers. give her time to digest this. if she breaks it off with the guy because of what you said and comes to you then all is perfect. if not...then look elsewhere.
2006-10-27 14:47:30 · answer #9 · answered by igot_terminal_uniqueness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, leave her alone! Find your own girlfriend...What would that say about her if she actually did mess with you while still with other guy; obviously she can't be trusted if that were to happen!
2006-10-27 14:48:49 · answer #10 · answered by mrsross 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋