alright I know I do sound shallow. But I look around and it seems like I am. I have brown hair and green eyes, I'm thirteen and 96 lbs. But no one asks me out...is it because I'm shy or ugly?
2006-10-27 14:29:12 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am 5'3 and have brown hair
2006-10-27 14:35:12 · update #1
oh btw i do care about my appearence... i wash my face, take showers all the time, ect. i wear abercrombie clothes and i have designer purses, and i am nice to everyone. the only reason i am not shy about asking this question is that i don't know you guys...no offense, please.
my mom was really beautiful at my age, and people thought she was elizabeth taylor...they asked for her autograph several times. she always talks about it and sometimes i feel homely.
2006-10-27 14:43:01 · update #2
when i was thirteen, all i knew then was homework n homework...
well ure not ugly dear, ure too young to date...when u age u'll soon discover what is in store for u n work for it n be good always...
2006-10-27 14:32:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Seriously, ugly is more about how you act and dress than how much you weigh and how your face looks. When you have a bad attitude and always talk about how ugly you are people may start to believe you. Also, if/when you don't care about your appearance- un-clean clothes, un-kept hair, body odor, or any of that stuff, you give the impression that you dont care about yourself so, once again people will tend to feel the same way. However, if your only problem is that you have low self esteem...look at yourself in the mirror (i like to do it when my hair is freshly done, and i have on real cute clothes), flash your best smile, and then tell yourself that your beautiful. And if your shy, try branching out and meeting some one new.
2006-10-27 14:39:21 · answer #2 · answered by Lady A 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know the old saying "beauty is in the eye of the beholder?", well I believe this rings true, but when ur as young and as fragile as many people are at age 13 then no-one cares about old sayings, to put it another way, many people dont see what all the fuss over such icons and sex-symbols as "The Ashley Twins" or Lindsey L. is all about. Everyone has their own ideas about what is attractive,. Personally I dont think Im that good looking but I do the best with what Ive got. I always make the effort to be as respectible, clean and well presented as I can be. Smile lots and aim to be a good listener, others just love it when they feel important... if u truely want to be liked then therez always a good book called "How To WIN Friends and Influence People". it worked for me............. good luck precious young soul.
2006-10-27 15:05:09 · answer #3 · answered by genieejj 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you still have a long way ahead of you, and your facial features will change too within those times. Who knows you may grow up more beautiful then? While I honestly do not know how you look like, I believe that when you feel that you are ugly, you become ugly. When you feel good about yourself and love yourself, it will show outwardly through your confidence in yourself. Your shyness is the result of your self esteem. You're still very young, so please let your body take its time to grow and mature you. It doesn't matter when boys don't want to ask you out, because they're too shallow to know the real you. While you may be ugly in someone's eyes, you may also be a beautiful girl in another person's eye. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Remember to always love yourself, and love your body. I wish you lots of luck! ;)
2006-10-27 14:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by Hanna 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I was young I was tall and skinny. Guys passed me by until (are you ready for this?) I was 25. Then, shazam! I've had all the attention I can stand from then until this very day. It wasn't easy being lonely, but it was the very best thing for me in the end because I was able to concentrate on school and get a good degree and travel and have adventures. Most people have a time in their live when they are beautiful and when they are ugly. Whichever it is for you right now, I hope you will enjoy every minute of life, because "ugly" can be very, very cool, and it makes opportunities of its own. In the end, it will be your smile that makes you most beautiful in many people's eyes.
2006-10-27 14:45:27 · answer #5 · answered by shirleykins 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would hope that they don't ask you out because you are thirteen! Honey I couldn't even ask for a date from my parents until I was 16. Then I had to follow rules and be home by a certain time. I can't understand why little girls are wanting to go out at such a young age. My fifteen year old son can only go out in a group. It's OK to go in a mixed group to a movie at the mall or just hang out at the mall for a while. Wait awhile!
2006-10-27 14:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by marciacarter@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Without either seeing you or knowing you in person, you ask a seemingly unanswerable question, but I will give the best answer I can here.
Take one feature on your face, the one you like best, and with just a little makeup, bring that feature out. If it's your eyes (and they sound devine--green eyes, yeah!) apply a bit of coverstick to a finger and dab it on your eyelid so that it's even. Don't get it in your eyes. Now take a dark green eyeliner and draw a line as closely as you can to your eyelashes just enough to make your lashes look longer. Dab on a tiny bit of peach color creamy eyeshadow and blend it over your eyelid not up near your brows. Take a dark brown mascara and separate your lashes. Dust your cheeks with peach color rouge. Now when finished, say to yourself in the mirror several times until you believe it, "WOW, But I'm pretty...By Jove, but I AM PRETTY ! Repeat twice a day. Your lovliness will shine from the inside out. So let it shine!
2006-10-27 14:49:12 · answer #7 · answered by Moe J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when I was very young, I was painfully shy. Barely even talked to someone who talked to me.
My mom was stunning. She looked like Yvonne DeCarlo...not when she was lilly munster, but the real Yvonne.. the beautiful movie actress. And she was a career lady, and dressed so perfectly, and did her hair up, perfect makeup too. I was this little toad of a girl. Covered my face up with my bangs so you couldn't even see my eyes, wore plain clothing, no makeup at all. I talked myself into believing that if I couldn't be as beautiful as she was, I wouldn't even give it a try at all.
Then one day, I just sort of woke up inside. I wasn't any different, but I felt different now. I would never be anorexic thin. I had curves, And I just made up my mind that I was not only unique but I did glow. Every day, I told myself how very much I glowed and shone. And after a while, I really was beautiful because I became beautiful in my eyes. When you can see you are beautiful, you will become beautiful.
And dear, you have a bit of time before you have to worry about being neglected by the opposite sex. Don't worry about the A&F clothing or the designer purse. Read. Learn about life and exciting things. Educate your mind, and the rest of you will fall into place. And I will tell you a tiny secret: if you like jock guys, learn about sports. If you like nerdy types, learn about tech subjects, if you like the quiet types, find out what those guys like and learn about that. But before you approach one, learn lots and lots about the subject they like best first. If you go to them with only a little info about what they like, you will look like a real dork. And you don't want that.
2006-10-27 15:36:05 · answer #8 · answered by the witch 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thirteen is too young to be asked out f.y.i. You're not overweight or anything and you are lucky to have green eyes! The majority of people have brown eyes! Lots of girls are self-conscious or whatever about some flaw no one besides themselves see about their appearance. You are a girl right? You have the rest of your life ahead of you, stop worrying about those kinds of things!
2006-10-27 14:36:56 · answer #9 · answered by Bella Swan 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that I'm ulgy too. I shouldn't really becuz everywhere I go somebodys telling me " who's your parents, Your really pretty." Just becuz you don't get that many guys dosn't mean your not pretty. Nobody is really ulgy in the world. It's just the out look on other people. Give it some time and you will get a guy. I just have thing to say. Not to be mean but you need to gain some wieght. At least hit 115 lbs. Ummmm...... I just have to say on more thing, I wish I had green eye!! Your so lucky!!
2006-10-27 14:39:09 · answer #10 · answered by Dr.DRE 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i know it must be hard cuz it seems like everyone's dating...but don't go crazy over something like tht...its not really worth it...
i'm sure you havn't really been asked out yet isn't because youre "ugly"...[and i'm sure your not actually...you should stop comparing yourself to those you think are"prettier than you" and wht not if thats what your doing....] or much because of your shyness...there are many people out there who are shy yet get asked out...there could be other reasons as well...
the GUYS coudl actually be shy and freaked out about the whoel asking a girl out thing...some are just creeped out about the thought of rejection...
-if youre really interested in a guy....it not weird or anything if YOU actually do the asking..i mean if you don't ask..youll never know if you two were ment for each other;)
2006-10-27 14:41:42 · answer #11 · answered by lil_flirt_57<3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋