If i need to talk to my bf he says not between 12-7am cos he's sleeping which is cool. but he calls me 24/7.
He wants me to go to him. to live for good. if i ask him to come here for a vacation he says he'd love to, but he cant.
he thinks i'm cheating if i'm on the phone after 10pm.
he says i dont open up to him when he doesn't give me time to tell him something and says it's my fault that we cant share.
i'd just like to have some fun, to be happy with him.
2006-10-27 14:23:34 · 7 answers · asked by maria h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Mm, this does not sound like a healthy relationship. You guys really need to talk. It sounds like your guy is a exhibiting typical Machismo tendencies. What does this mean for you? He expects you to take a submissive role to him an do what he say when he says it. It may or may not be too apparent now but, if you stay with him you'll see it more. He's expecting you to do thing he doesn't plan on doing himself. I don't think this will ever be a relationship where it will just be "fun".
2006-10-27 14:32:10 · answer #1 · answered by SexyVixen255 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's most definitely a double standard - one I would NOT put up with. A good relationship is 50/50, not 70/30 (which is what yours sounds like). Sounds like he has some control issues just by all the warning signs he's given you.
1) the phone restriction
2) you have to come to him, but he won't come to you (you sacrifice, not him)
3) distrust (usually the one cheating is the one that accuses first)
4) lack of respect
I would kick him to the curb & find someone willing to give 100% of being in 50/50 relationship, cuz it sounds like what you have totally sucks!!!
2006-10-27 21:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by redjana2003 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that your better off without him because in a relationship things need to be equal if they are not there will always be a problem you both have to be open and honest with each other if he can't respect the same rules he puts in place for you then he will never be considered a equal to you and in a relationship this is a MUST
2006-10-27 21:32:43 · answer #3 · answered by i love my dog 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems your bf is kind of self-centered. Make a stand, lady, if you wish your relationship to last. Give him some punishment every once in a while, and explain to him why you're doing it. For example, turn off your phone after 10 p.m., if he complains, explain to him that you need your private rest time, just like he does.
2006-10-27 21:33:28 · answer #4 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems he don't care about you. He wants you to give, but he don't want to give. A relationship is give and take. He seems to be making no effort to make you happy. He only wants what he wants and not what you want. He don't deserve you. A relationship should be 50/50. You shouldn't have to be the one who always has to go to see him. You should take turns. Dump him.
2006-10-27 21:35:42 · answer #5 · answered by boonslilsis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say dump him. He's selfish and doesn't care about your own needs while he makes it VERY clear to you what his needs are and gets upset if you don't meet them. You deserve better:)
2006-10-27 21:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by sweet kisses 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are the girl on the side to me.
2006-10-27 21:32:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋