Her kind of music, where she wants to hang out, who she wants to hang out with everything has to be about her. I love her to death and i really dont want to leave but i want her to see that I am important too
2006-10-27 14:23:07 · 24 answers · asked by XXX 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hello brother. I'm dating that chick too.
Earlier I would have said you are going to have to start some fights. Choose them carefully so you have the high road and the upper hand and then have it out. Let her know you are sick of living that way are willing to leave her.
That said. I've had these battles over and over and won them, and very little has changed in the long run.
My girlfriend wants a full time emergency handyman and mechanic, taxi service, zero interest loan officer, and even once just ordered the material so I could take a month off work and remodel her kitchen and bath. But if I ever need any help she gets out the excuse book and only lifts a finger if it is her idea.
Life is too short man. I know the dating game totally sucks but sometimes it's better to not have a girlfriend.
2006-10-27 14:37:32 · answer #1 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't break up with her, just be selfish towards her as well. Then she will start to get irritated and when she does you can have a talk with her and let her know that the way she feels towards you about beeing selfish is how you feel about her as well. Then you both can 'grow' together and work on correcting the problem. Make sure you have a lot of reasons why she is selfish in order to substantiate your claims. Else you'll be on your own.
Good luck!
2006-10-27 14:26:25 · answer #2 · answered by HawkDog 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to put her in her place or else she will continue to be selfish..she knows you love her to death and would do anything in the world for her...that's why she acts that way and your not making the situation any better.....what you need to do is tell her how you feel...tell her that you feel her selfisness is ruining your relationship...and if she can't understand that well then i guess she don't give a damn about your feelings too much....you need to give her something to think about b/c if she really loves you then she would stop those selfish ways...if i were you i would tell her i need space to think some things over...and i bet that a get her to wondering why...then maybe she'll wake up and realize how important you are to her and stop those selfish ways she got...sometimes we have to pull away from those we love in order for them to wake up..good luck!
2006-10-27 14:52:23 · answer #3 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, that's a toughie. I would talk to her, but if you like her that much be sure to not get into an argument. Just tell her how you're feeling and what you want to happen. Oh and use "I" statements so you are not blaming her. Example below.
"I really want to be with you but in our relationship attention should be equal"
I know this sounds lame and I'm not guaranteeing anything. So just try it.
2006-10-27 14:52:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't live without her?
It sounds like you have your blinders on.
Guess what--she's obsessive. She's controlling.
You need to talk to her. Don't just wait to see if she figures out that you're important. You need to tell her what is important to you. If you don't tell her, how is she going to know? She can't read your brain!
And honestly, if she won't give you the respect that you deserve, then you deserve better. Don't stay because you can't live without her. That's total BS. You CAN live without her.
2006-10-27 14:26:02 · answer #5 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could take her with you to some kind of counceling or maybe just even sit her down and talk to her about how you are feeling if this bothers you that much. Just hope that she takes this the right way. Good Luck with what ever you do
2006-10-27 14:25:28 · answer #6 · answered by kendra dowson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start listening to your own music and going to hang out with your friends or doing what you want to do. Invite her to come along but tell her if she isn't going to enjoy herself she should go where she wants to go. Eventually she will come around or it will be over. If she can't accept you for you then you don't need to be with her anyway.
2006-10-27 14:26:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
flow her out of your place...ASAP...then injury up together with her. If she shows up at your place, run out the back door, or bounce out the window. replace your cellular nr and merely thoroughly ignore approximately her for as long because it takes. Dont stay pals. Its your person fault that your in this mess, coz guilt and tears seem to artwork each and every time. guy up and make your no your no. propose what you're saying for a transformation. in case you maintain being guilt tripped into this dating, your going to finally end up married with youngsters you didnt choose for and intensely unhappy. SO in case you dont initiate looking out on your person happiness, your doomed.
2016-11-26 00:06:44 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well show her if possible that she can't live w/o you. If leaving is best for you, for a change do something for you i guess. But whatever you think don't ever think that waiting for her to break up with u is going to work.
2006-10-27 14:27:56 · answer #9 · answered by crazee_gabby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself, why do you love her so much, if there is something about her that you cannot stand? Hmmm...
You cannot change her, but you can stand up for yourself. Otherwise, you are enabling her to keep being selfish around you.
People (including loved ones especially) treat you how you teach/allow them to treat you.
2006-10-27 14:27:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋