She my friend's husband cheated on her a few years back with a homewrecker named lindsey. She dosen't know about it. She knows about the affair but i recently found out the girls name and that was it. I think she shouldn't name her baby that for that reason and that cause it is not really a pretty name after all. Should i tell her? or what?
2006-10-27 14:16:28 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Would you really name your kid after someone that your husband/wife cheated with really? come on i would say the answer would be NO.....I would want someone to tell me if that was happening to me. And i am sorry i just don't like or care for that name
2006-10-27 14:28:30 · update #1
OMG YES, do it now...sure it brings up sad/angry feelings, and AS IF he's letting it happen! Just think about it...a few years down the road she finds out the sl*ts name, could you imagine having your daughter named after the whore YUCK!
I'd would want to know in that situation FOR SURE!
P.S. I had to come back, some people are so stupid and uncaring, I'm married with 2 children. If I new about the affair (which she does) and was about to name my child after the c*nt I would hope that my friend would tell me, I would talk to the hubby, tell him to do it or you will!!
2006-10-27 14:25:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 4⤋
Mandy, I think the asked the question, meant the if the child is named Lindsey, and the wife finds out about the affair, she will resent the name she gave her child. Was the name suggested by the husband, that alone would open up a whole lot of issues. I doubt the asker was implying that the child would grow up to become a home-wrecker.
Tell your friend that Lindsey is a sweet name, but what about.... and suggest different names. If you're going to be the God-Mother, you may be able to have more input in this.
Do NOT tell her about her husbands affair! Or even suggest what the name of the woman is! Then this becomes more about you, and not your friend.
2006-10-27 14:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by sassy 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Speaking from a pregnant woman's point of view - if you're telling her because you don't like the name, then don't bother. You have NO say whatsoever in what your friend names her child. If you absolutely know that she has no way of finding out the woman's name, then don't say anything to her. It's her decision and hurting her just to get her to not name her kid Lindsey is not right.
2006-10-27 14:25:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's her child - you can tell her that you know the woman's name is Lindsey, but she might get angry that you didn't tell her this earlier.
I might also consider telling her husband that if he doesn't nix the name Lindsey, you'll be forced to tell his wife, which will bring up old wounds and probably make his life even more miserable.
What you personally think of the name - that you just don't like it - is a big so what. It's not your child, and it's none of your business - if she wants to name her child that, it's completely up to her. And if one of my friends ever told me they didn't think my daughter's name was pretty I'd probably never speak to them again. Not because I'd be mad they didn't like the name, but because they were so petty that they actually thought what I named my child required a commentary on what they thought of it.
2006-10-27 14:35:18 · answer #4 · answered by tagi_65 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-28 06:51:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, this isn't really about the name, it's about what an insensative jerk her husband is being!
If it were me I'd tell the husband that you know the name of the woman he cheated with and that you don't think your friend would appreciate her daughter being named after the woman who slept with her husband. It's possible that he's completely dense and just doesn't see the problem. He might need a reminder. I'd tell him he needs to veto the name or your going to talk to your friend about it.
I know that I'd want to know if I were in her situation.
2006-10-27 16:24:55 · answer #6 · answered by Minion26 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Okay, so everyone either attacks you and tells you to mind your own business or to do it.
Regardless of the name, it was "hers"...would you really want your friend to keep something like that from you?? And if she did tell you, you'd realize its not to try and hurt you, its to save you the embrassment of her husband knowing that their child is named after the woman he HAD sex with. A child is a special time in a couples life...and whether the name is charlotte or anne or lindsay, its the memory of the affair that will linger over their marriage whether she knows it or not. Her husband should be the one to say something, his wife might love the name and sure she might never know, but he does...that makes it a bit sick in my opinion.
Good luck!!
2006-10-27 18:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by mdm2532 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
as hard as it may seem for you, you can't argue with the fact that Lindsey is just a name, when all's said and done.
You can't tar everyone with the same brush (in this case - not everyone called Lindsey is going to be a homewrecker, and it most certainly doesn't mean that this child will grow into one). Anyway, you haven't said when Baby is due.....who knows - Mummy might change her mind before then!!
2006-10-27 14:20:12 · answer #8 · answered by Mandy 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Yes you need to tell her not to use the name but I would make up something else for the reason. Maybe you could tell her that you once knew a really mean and ugly girl named Lindsey.
2006-10-27 14:19:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
Can you speak to her husband about this instead?
Was it his idea to name the child Lindsey? I've heard of that happening - men cheating on wives and naming the child the other womans name... its quite sad in my opinion.
If you can't speak to him about it... then, yes... I would tell her. It will be hard bringing up such a sensitive subject, but I am sure the wife would like to know and not find out later in life when the child is grown. (Then again... if she never knows her name, then it will never matter).
2006-10-27 14:19:05 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 6⤊ 2⤋