i have a birth defect (my right arm and hand are prety messed up and i only have four fingers on that hand) and i am having the hardest time finding a girl who would have me even though i have this defect. i need help and i need answers. how do girls feel about birth defects in guys and how can i find one who will like me regardless?
2006-10-27 13:53:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
some girls can be shallow, or just simply uncomfortable with it. you'll know u have found the right girl when it doesnt matter, and she can look past those things, and love you for YOU. nobody is perfect
2006-10-27 13:55:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A girl who is even worth the time won't have a problem with it. Some people get stuck on outward appearances and others can look past that and see what's on the inside. Have a little faith that the right girl will come along and accept and love you for who you are, not for what you look like. Good luck and I wish you the best!
2006-10-27 20:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by angels_sign_ily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself, and you will definetly find some1 who won't care about ur birth defects. the right girl will come, don't worry. most girl actually feel sorry, which is not good. u don't want someone who feels sorry for u, but look for girls who would understand u and not feel sorry for u or anything like that. well, good luck to u, hope that u find the girl that u r looking for.
2006-10-27 21:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most Women would say that is not a problem as long as you are a great person, bla, bla,bla.
But they would think twice before going on the date with someone like yourself.
To be honest with no disrespect to you , I would not.
I would not go out with a short guy eather because I am 5'9. I would not be comfortable.
Am I shallow? Too honest? Maybe both... But that is me.
There are better people out there. You just have to be lucky to find them in our society.
Good luck to you.
2006-10-27 21:05:10 · answer #4 · answered by tanyasiv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing that you're probably still pretty young. In a few years, that kind of thing isn't going to matter anymore to the girls you know. In a few years, many of the girls who are your own age will have wised up. It's just a matter of time. Hell, it might only be three weeks from now!
You're fine. Anyone who doesn't apreciate you for who you are does not know what he or she is missing. That's their problem, not yours.
2006-10-27 20:59:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am not in the market for a husband and potential f ather for my children, but if I was, I have to admit I would be wanting to know a whole lot about the guy's genetic inheritance to know what there might be that could get passed on to those children. I am sorry for your particular challenge, but you can perhaps understand why a woman would probably want to give her future children every possible advantage in their life, and do her best to side-step anything that might go against that.
2006-10-27 20:59:45 · answer #6 · answered by sharmel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't feel that birth defects are such horrible things. My boyfriend has a birth-defect.... He's relationship retarded. As long as YOU are a good person, who cares what you look like.
2006-10-27 20:57:34 · answer #7 · answered by Ria L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll find a sweet understanding girl that will accept you for who you are. Until then if a girl insn't accepting then she isn't the one your meant to be with. So don't worry about it, you'll find her someday.
2006-10-27 20:57:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
eventually you will find the one who can see you for more than you physical self, just do not give up hope
2006-10-27 20:56:26 · answer #9 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww im sorry to hear that.......well alot of gurls juz go for looks....but most go for wuts inside..so if your nice enough and sweet enough ....youll get a lady! dont worry!!
2006-10-27 20:56:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋