he's my brother's friend. {he's 28, but my brother's only 16} i really like him and im pretty sure he likes me. i cant get him off my mind. he's so nice and sweet. the only bad thing is that he's twice my age. but he's in the military, so he's always traveling. and he's also a an athletic director at a highschool nearby so hes far away. idk what to doooooooooooooooooo and please no one call me a stupid teenage slut......i dont need that. i am well aware of the dangers of this situation. and also, i only have two of my close friends {of about 10 or 12 people} that are actually dating someone under the age of 17. {they're all ages 13-15.} its no fairr =\
2006-10-27 13:48:15 · 24 answers · asked by Katy kins 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off I will say that you have this special connection with the 28 year old. You two would be a really good couple if this age thing wasn't in the way and he thinks you are so cute. But you need to stay away. He could get in alot of trouble because he is really tempted by you. You have to be strong and stop anything from happening. If you still think of him when you are 18 then go for it! But right now NO!
2006-10-27 13:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe you when you say you know the dangers and possibly the dangers ARE exactly what you're into. Some girls are "excitement junkies" and often stand out from the crowd. At age 28, no matter how "appealing" you may seem to this guy, he's looking for more trouble than he could handle in the military and he'd end up messing up his whole life. There's a good reason why older men may "seem to like you" and it's purely physical, has nothing to do with a loving long-term relationship either. All it takes is just one poor decision to change a whole lifetime. You're too smart to make a decision like that, aren't you?
2006-10-27 14:03:18 · answer #2 · answered by Moe J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to wonder about this guy. What in heaven's name is a 28 year old guy doing befriending a 16 year old boy. Not that your brother isn't very cool, I'm sure he is. But this guy is almost 30 for God's sake. I'm sure this guy is nice and sweet, but there are a million nice and sweet guys your own age out there (some probably right under your nose you can't see because you keep thinking about grandpa). Enjoy the feeling you get from thinking about this guy, but PLEASE find someone your own age. You will. I promise you will.
2006-10-27 13:55:41 · answer #3 · answered by wineboy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, I've been here too. It's not a teenage thing, but you ahve to realize that with him gone all the time, the age differnce and the fact that you are gonna probably grow apart that it wont work out. If you like your bf stay with him. Its ok to like the 28 year old, but just try to keep some distance, at least untill the situation is more workable. hope it works out
2006-10-27 14:08:01 · answer #4 · answered by C J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child stick to the 15 yr old. Yes, you are a child in a very big hurry to grow up. The 28 yr that touches a 14 yr old girl is a child abuser. No if and's or buts. What he is & he could very well go to jail for it & deserve it for he's old enough to know better. Even if you are not.
2006-10-27 14:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i were you I'll stick with my boyfriend. How do you know he likes u ? does he tell you that or you are just guessing. Trust me he doesn't want you , not because he's nice and sweet and you think he likes you . don't give up on your boyfriend for 28 years old man. Try to spend more time with your boyfriend and I think that will help. Don't do anything stupid that you'll regret after.Good luck and God bless!!!!!!!
2006-10-27 14:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by val88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to call you stupid, but if you are "well aware" of the dangers of this situation, then you need to have some maturity and stay away from it. This situation can and will land him in jail if he pursues it. And it says a lot for his immaturity and makes me question his sexual stability if he is interested in young girls. My advice is to wait until you're an adult before you decide to pursue someone that much older than you. Until then, enjoy the remaining few years of your adolescense.
2006-10-27 13:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by Mary K 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
your jjust a baby for a 28 year old guy if you go and have sex with him he will just get bored with you and dump you like a hot potato your jail baitt and trouble and way too young and you dont know nothing about sex and life yet absolutely nothing i bet you cant even boil water yet let alone compeite against a 28 year old fully grown man who is just about old enough too be your father grow up.
2006-10-27 13:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry... I doubt he would do anything with you anyway. Especially if he is in the military. I don't think he wants to be kicked out of the military for statutory rape and be laughed at by his military friends for bangin' some 14 year old. (at least if he had any brains....... some military guys dont really surprise me...)
2006-10-27 13:53:03 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Shouldn't you be faithful to the boyfriend you already have? If you think you have feelings for this other guy then break up with the guy you are already with. Be honest with yourself and the military dude.
2006-10-27 13:51:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋