Have you ever felt like you have no right to feel so bad about things?

Question

I haven't had anything really bad happen to me but sometimes I'll get so mad at myself for something, or feel so stupid, and then I'll cut myself, sometimes lots of times in a row, and I do that almost every day now. And all the time I hear about people who cut themselves because they were abused as a child, or something else really bad happened, and I feel like I don't have any right to cut myself and it's not fair to people who have really suffered that I do it and like I'm just faking it. And that just makes me hate myself even more and want to hurt myself even more. And I guess I was just wondering if anyone else ever feels guilty for feeling really bad about something that should be no big deal compared to what other people have to deal with.

Answer 1

I have plenty to complian about.

Answer 2

Girl, I will tell you that cutting your wrist is definietly NOT the answer. People always feel as if it their fault something is going wrong, or is not the way it is supposed to be. I am going to tell you that I have a best friend whose name i will not say, and since her mother was three months pregnant, her dad left and denied her. She always blame herself for the things that are happening, but how could it possibly be her fault if her dad never saw her. The only memory of him is a picture! He still has never paid child support! Unbelievable! I always tell her that maybe things were not meant to be. maybe if her father was there he would probably abuse her, and I would rather her be fatherless than being able to say she was abused by her dad. I am going to tell you that you will probably feel stupid or something at one point in yourlife. Don't feel bad about anything and always keep your head held high and don't let what people say about you get to you. Let it go in one ear and out the other, and just go with the flo of life. If you want help, pray. God WILL show you the way if you are really confident in yourself and feel as you are going to succeed. Don't talk yourself down, and be very confident in the things you do. Dont hate yourself. Be and STAY optimistic. Be who you think God wants YOU to be. NOT your friends or anyone else!

Answer 3

For no reason should anyone cut themselves, so even the people who self-abuse don't have a reason that is ever good enough.Don't compare yourself to those people who have been through more because all you need to be focused on is getting to a doctor to find out why you feel bad enough to hurt yourself and set goals to get past this.I knew a girl who did that for years and now is fine because she got help and you can too.Its not your fault that you have a chemical imbalance that makes you feel the way you do....The good news is there is help out there and new medications that can help you.I hope this helps you.I know that I suggest you see a doctor.Good luck with this.

Answer 4

Cutting yourself is dangerous, and a sign that you want control when you feel like you have none.

That is one possible explanation.

As for people who really suffered, don't let that make you feel guilty. You are also suffering. Just because you don't live in a third world country doesn't mean you aren't suffering.

However, compulsive cutting yourself is a sign of wanting control usually. You cut yourself when you're mad at yourself, and you feel like you deserve it.

You don't need to do it. You don't deserve it. Think about what happens to make you mad. Are they stupid mistakes? Or are they things that other people think are bad? In either case, don't be so down on yourself.

You need to talk to a therapist about this. Don't just assume you deserve it. Yes, it's bad to cut yourself, but just because you do it, doesn't mean you deserve to do it more! You don't deserve suffering like that, and don't worry about anyone else suffering unless you are trying to help them. Otherwise, all you can do is worry about yourself.

Answer 5

like u i cut myself and everyday when do it make me feel batter but u will find in time no matter how many times u cut no matter how deep u go noting will help i have cut some many times that i have no were 2 cut any more and no matter how deep i go it is not naff pain is the only thing i know but it dose not work any more here is a # 1800-273talk if u need it call r if need 2 talk u can e-mail me

Answer 6

Sadness is a personal thing; there's no real comparison from one person's experience to another. What makes you sad is real to you. But having said that, sometimes keeping in mind that maybe you don't have it so bad is a good way to get you out of those kind of depressive moods. Often self-injury is a way of getting yourself to feel things that you couldn't deal with otherwise. I hope that you can get help and overcome the habit of hurting yourself. Life is too short to spend it hurting.

Answer 7

well, cutting yourself is only a physical way to deal with the emotional pain that you are feeling inside. it is not good to do this to yourself. it doesn't matter what happened to cause the pain inside of you. it doesn't matter whether you have been through a little or a lot, you feel this way and you don't have to. please, go talk to your doctor so that you can get help for yourself. you don't have to feel this way anymore. there are solutions to your pain. it will take a while, but with patience and help from a professional, you can learn how to deal with whatever is causing your pain... and feel a lot better without cutting yourself.

Answer 8

well i think you need to go see a mental heath professional one its not "normal" by any means to cut yourself .and you need so help more than you can get on the net please seek help before one day you cut yourself and go to deep or hit a major artery and bleed to death and being a "cutter" isn't just caused by having a bad child hood or whatever its caused by a chemical in balance in the Brain that makes a person feel the need to hurt themselves to deal with the stress of life or other emotional problems but seek help

Answer 9

Self injury leaves scars that future employers will see. Stop while you're young enough for your skin to heal and scars hopefully fade to almost unnoticeable....

We all feel guilty from time to time. Try facing what is really upsetting you and then you will be much happier and hopefully don't cut anymore.

Answer 10

You need to seek out help. It is not normal to cut yourself, have such contempt for self or feeling guilty.

I suggest you talk to a counselor about why this is happening. See your doctor to get a complete physical to make sure you don't have some sort of inbalance physically too.

You don't need to suffer. Get help for yourself.

Answer 11

We are all entitled to have a pity party every once in a while, but I seriously hope you have someone to talk to about what's bothering you at the moment instead of this website like maybe a counselor or clergy! Peace!