i love my ex boyfriend tom but when me and him are around his friends he hurts me but when were not he treats me like if he wants to have a strong future with me what shoudl i do?
2006-10-27 13:30:26 · 10 answers · asked by pinkblonde14 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get a new best friend. People who hurt you in public will at some point hurt you worse in private. Anyone who hurts you whether it's physical, or emotional is not your friend. They have emotional problems and will take it out on you. Don't tolerate this kind of behaviour and stay away from anyone you treats you like this. These are signs of an abuser. Most people recognize it when it's too late. Don't be one of them. Get away from him now.
2006-10-27 13:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by Lynn K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming you're a girl and Tom isn't, right? Well if Tom needs to use his muscles on you when in front of his pals, you don't need to reinforce this dumb "macho" stuff. Take some self-defense classes and defend against anybody - anywhere - anytime from hurting you; it just isn't healthy for any of you.
And besides, if he's that physical in front of people, he's already got your unspoken permission to escalate to something more hurtful when you're alone.
You're worth being treated right and don't you ever forget it.
2006-10-27 20:38:45 · answer #2 · answered by Moe J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
step back and take an objective look at your situation.
Now imagine that you are your best friend, what advice would you give her? Then take that advice and run with it, you are ultimately your own best friend, only YOU know what is best for you.
I wish you the best of luck. We should never have friends who willingly and knowingly hurt us either mentally, emotionally or physically, in "good" fun or not.
2006-10-27 21:09:02 · answer #3 · answered by Plain_Common_Sense 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step away from the situation. I have a question for you? Do you like when he hurts you? If so, there's your answer. If not and you want to be treated like a queen, look for a King. He doesn't value you because you don't value yourself. LOVE YOURSELF FIRST! Good Luck and get counseling for your abuse.
2006-10-27 20:36:17 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh...guys like that suck dont they. I have a friend in that same relationship and he does the same thing, and honey its not worth it no girl should be treated like that. and you know what it turns out that he was cheating on her...dont let any man make you think you deserve to be hit. get out of it sweetie!
2006-10-27 20:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by hermiasdeath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is showing off for his friends. Tell him to grow up and act like a man.
2006-10-27 20:33:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, so he's one of those "macho men", hit him back..he just wants to show his friends that he's in control...
2006-10-27 20:32:10 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Maria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from his friends!
2006-10-27 20:34:50 · answer #8 · answered by marciacarter@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him Goodbye for the last and final time.
You do not need him in your life.
2006-10-27 20:33:39 · answer #9 · answered by Lore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants to prove something to his friends. move on.
2006-10-27 21:09:40 · answer #10 · answered by jessie w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋