My bud and I have a true "brokeback moutain" relationship. Its very special and we have a strong bond. We both have two different backgrounds. I'm like Jack and he Ennis emotionally. He's an asipring artist, and I am into business. Were in our 20's and he chose to move to Europe. He asked me if I want to go, I said sure I want to be close to him, but things changed when I got accepted for a masters program at a business school in the US. I decided to stay and finish up. Now I feel like 2 years of school seems to be a long time, I hurt everynight thinking about losing him. It was a choice of my future or the "rare, weird" feelings we both have for each other. So my question to you is, did I pick the right path here? Was I right to choose my future over my heart?
JESUS TALK NOT APPRECIATED.......
2006-10-27 13:14:04 · 11 answers · asked by Dustin m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course you're going through a time of missing him, and it's going hurt, after all, a relationship that was very important to you is no longer immediately available. But the fact that you're hurting now doesn't mean you didn't make the right choice. In fact, you made the perfect choice for you. What you need to do now is live with it for a while. Two years may seem forever, but let's be honest, it's not. During your separation you can re-evaluate your friendship and where you want it to go as well as exploring other friendships. And you really didn't choose your future over your heart. One is not mutually exclusive of the other. You need to pursue your education while you pursue other interests as well. Two years will teach you so much, and it may teach you that you two should be together. This separation is a wonderful opportunity for growth..but that growth may be together or apart, and whichever way it goes, you will have learned a lot.
*****Uh-oh, to anyone who sincerely answered this schmuck, go to his profile, and read the answer he wrote to the question that begins, "I'm not letting you OFF..." This is one loser, u been had**********
2006-10-27 13:24:33 · answer #1 · answered by Caper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess i wil answer the question with a question: Do you feel you made the best choice? If your realationship is really meant to be and as wonderful as you say than, you going to school for two years will be fine. He will be there for you. Besides getting education under your belt will help you get a better income and help support you and him if your relationship goes further. There is always time for love, and i am sure he will be there! Good luck sweetie, i know how you feel about not sure what path to take.
2006-10-27 13:24:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 20yrs of age ...I feel you made a decent life choice. Some kind of career path, a foundation is important to seek those early years, now, when you have the energy and desire and passion for that! Our first loves are special, innocent, memorable but not necessarily everlasting. The relationship was convenient and lovely for the ability to be in it and not focused elsewhere. Maintain your goals, hon and your relationship if possible through letters and calls. Decide to be friends...maybe you'll meet again someday.
2006-10-27 13:20:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't follow your heart and you will suffer untill you do. The heart wants what the heart wants and nothing can change that... Go to him, you can have a degree anywhere... Why can't you is what you should really be asking yourself. It's very good to want to have a better life and have certain things for yourself but not at the cost of your own heart... you'll never find the happieness that way. you have to realize that you can have whatever you want anywhere.... All you have to do is believe in that in yourself.....
2006-10-27 13:27:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things always have a way of working themselves out. You need to do what is best for your future. I dont think that you have "weird" feelings. Your human. People get so caught up in rules and bounderies and its the same people that are judging you that are very unhappy in their own lives. I would do what you need to do now to get your self stable and to find your place in this life. I also dont think you would want to resent him if things didnt work out for some reason or even if they do in the long run, you dont want to think about what you could have should have or would have done if it werent for "him".
2006-10-27 13:18:21 · answer #5 · answered by *sweet sugar* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you made the right decision. But if you really care for him you should try keep contact with him as friends or lovers. But definetly stay in school and finish the last two years. If he really carews for you he will wait for you to finish up school(I mean that in an emotional way) I don't mean for him to physically stay here in the U.S.
Hope this helped
2006-10-27 13:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by ♫poison ♥s will never change♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were. I always think it best to choose career over love. But there's no reason why you two can't stay in touch. If your bond is as strong as you say it is, you can make it work.
2006-10-27 16:08:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were right to go with the decision you made, if it is meant to be it will happen and then you will have your school finished, great job opportunities and the one you love.
2006-10-27 13:18:23 · answer #8 · answered by MICHAEL&CHRIS F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for being able to put it out there. well I would have chose my heart first befor my future.
2006-10-27 13:16:34 · answer #9 · answered by cc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OOOOH I could crush a grape dear!!!
Sounds a bit too camp to me pal!!!!
Who's the "shunter and who's the "grunter" thats what we all want to know???
2006-10-27 13:20:04 · answer #10 · answered by HIMSELF 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋