we have an opportunity to try it tonight, and we are all for it. Im just wondering if you think that things will get wierd for me and my girlfriend after tonight. we get along really well, and i dont want to ruin that. But the idea of two woman at once is hard to pass up on. Is it worth a shot. i would appretiate some advise within the next hour.
2006-10-27 13:11:08 · 21 answers · asked by matt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
try it!! i'm a female who has a girl friend and a boyfriend in we get along very well..i promise you try ir you will enjoy it in you will learn from this experience.If your girlfriend down for it then go for it!!it's not cheating if she aproves of the situation.And if your worried about how thing between your girlfriend in you turn out afterwardstrust me this experience will make your relationship strong coming from a person in the same situation.(me,my boyfriend and my girlfriend enjoy each other to the fullest(hey!!!you only live once,go for it .............
2006-10-27 13:22:38 · answer #1 · answered by tina 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are a few key things to consider before making such a life altering decision......
1. How strong/ secure is your relationship?
2. Who has actually driven the idea of another woman in the bed?
3. What are your long term goals for the relationship?
4. Who is the other woman?
If your relatonship is as strong as it needs to be then it may be ok. If it's not then throw the idea away.
If it is your girlfriend that has driven the idea and not you then she will probably be able to cope after. If it was you, she may just be doing this to satisfy you and not herself.
If your long term goal for this relationship is ultimately marriage and family then you need to think long and hard about how you will handle the situation afterward. What if one of you wants to do it again? What if she wanted to try bringing another man into the bed? So many if's......
If the other woman is a friend or someone you know, who is she? Is she your friend/ aquaintance or your girlfriends friend/ aquaintance? How will tonight effect that relationship?
In my opinion if tonight was to go ahead then it would need to be pretty much a stranger. Someone I wouldn't have to see or deal with again if things went wrong.
There would need to be ground rules before things began. Is your girlfriend going to be comfortable for you to penetrate the other girl or just kiss, touch etc...
Make sure that the boundaries are set and that are all parties are aware of them at the beginning. Make a codeword so that if one of you becomes uncomfortable witht the situation you stop.... No matter how far in you are. Without these things the experience is doomed to fail. Without considering all the options things are doomed to fail.
However it could also be a great night!!
If you decide to go ahead Remeber to pace yourself, good luck and happy humping!!!
2006-10-27 13:33:12 · answer #2 · answered by trishyblue 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
as long as you communicate really well and she is totally for it. what exactly are you going to do with an extra girl? share equally, you girl could get jealous but communication is the key, talk things over and have an understanding how she feels before during and after to make sure it won't conflict with anything. it should be all good and fun then
2006-10-27 13:17:15 · answer #3 · answered by smash_mouth_man2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doing a threesome is a big fantasy for many men, but carries risks which you will have to decide whether or not to take. For one of my friends, it turned bad. She had joined her best friend and his girlfriend for a threesome one evening out of curiosity. The other woman ended up getting so jealous that she dumped him halfway through it in anger, on the basis that it was cheating. Now, none of them involved will ever likely talk to each other again. I don't mean to crash your idea, but it is something to seriously think about. I am sure you don't want to hurt your girlfriend.
2006-10-27 13:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless you are a girl too, I would not go for it. What if she finds out she likes girls better then boys and then your relationship is in the toilet. If you are thinking this girl is the one for you and you might want to spend the better part of your life with her, then just keep it between the two of you.
2006-10-27 13:20:24 · answer #5 · answered by marciacarter@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well after tonight you will have the experience...but my guess is by the end of this year you will no longer have this girlfriend.
You need to weigh the decision...a few hours of fun..no girlfriend.
2006-10-27 13:14:32 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless you plan of proposing to this girl then go for it, you only live once. If you think she might be "The One" then I would advise against it. And if you haven't already, go get yourself some Viagra(tm). Have fun.
2006-10-27 13:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by Al 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be careful. it might sound ok now, but at the time she might flip, and afterward feel uncomfortable. i know its hard to pass up but if this girl means a lot to you then it may not be worth the risk. if u dont care what happens then have fun!!!
2006-10-27 13:14:55 · answer #8 · answered by yankeesarethechamps 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Consider this, what if your girlfriend likes the other woman better than you, will that make things weird for you?
2006-10-27 13:15:20 · answer #9 · answered by CoolDad03 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it sounds really great, like a dream, but statisticly there is a 95 percent chance that all will never be the same for you both
2006-10-27 13:15:18 · answer #10 · answered by sidekick 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋