: My Doberman was siting on the couch/sofa and my new boyfriend told him to get down (In a rude tone of voice) and my dog growled and than my boyfriend grabbed his collar and than my dog bit him right through his hand. I told him if he asked Nitro(my dog) Nicely ..like I do .....he will do anything you ask. Now my New Boyfriend(going out 9 months) gave me the ultimatum him or Nitro what do you think???? I TOLD HIM WHAT IF HE HAD A SON AND I TOLD HIM TO CHOOSE.......but it fell on deaf ears....Now he wants an answer in 3 Hours...HELP My Dog Nitro is like my son and he is 5yrs old.....how can I get him to get along / Respect my new Boyfriend........OR........Is Nitro jealous?
2006-10-27 12:46:24 · 75 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i think there are definently other alternitives then getting rid of the dog. if you guys break up then you are going to regret getting rif of the dog. my dog is like my kid also. i dont know if you guys live together or not, but if not, when he comes over lock him in the other room, or simply put a muzzel on him, that way he can still hang out with you and not feel punished but still not bite. let you boyfriend know that it was a one time accident. its not something thats recurring. all dogs can get tempers sometimes or snap because they arent feeling well, they feel violated and thats not his "master". dont get rid of your dog! and i think you can work something out to keep both in your lifes. good luck. if u need any help send me an email
2006-10-27 12:50:39 · answer #1 · answered by scion_xb_girly 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
If your boyfriend grabbed me round the neck I would probably bite him too! You have had your dog longer than the boyfriend and he has no rights to ask you to choose between the two of them.If the dog growled at him first he should have heeded the warning then the dog would not have bit him. If he cannot compromise get rid of him, what else will he ask you to give up for him! Comparing the dog to a son is a bit over the top though.
2006-10-28 00:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by Pocket Battleship 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its a very tough choice ... you know your dog very well, and know that he isn't normally a biter, and in most cases they bite when provoked ... like he did growl at him.
You should tell your boyfriend things would be different if you knew the dog wasin the wrong, and be angry at him because e should know how much the dog means to you.
I know when I was very young a family dog bit my friends sister in the face and I got the blame, even though people knew the dog was in pain that day, so would be in a bad mood, he had never bitten before, and never bit again. But she told me the dog should be put to sleep because he was dangerous.
Also dogs are usually very perceptive, although another reason they can dislike someone is because the person they dislike has done something to them, or they remind them of somebody who has done something to them.
Get rid of him ... but just be careful in case he says anything about getting the dog put to sleep ... that could be much worse than giving you the ultimatum, don't ask him either if thats what he eants to do, because it would only give him the idea.
2006-10-27 13:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by Heath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ARE YOU SERIOUS! The dog has bitten your bf.
Your making excuses for the dog. What would you say if your dog had bitten a child some other form of excuse Nitro did not like the way a child spoke to him. Are you really thinking straight or taking something.
The dog is out of control. You are lucky that the dog is still alive and if your bf wants to he has every right to call the authorities. That dog needs to have a muzzle on whenever around people. It is a dog that has bitten someone what part do u not understand? Considering the breed as well do you not know what kind of vicious animal you have. I am with your bf on this one. If you choose the dog he still can have it put down then you lose both of them.
People do not get me wrong I have a dog myself and 2 children. No matter what my dog would never go for a human! We all have to be responsible for our dogs actions.
Think very hard on this one????
2006-10-27 13:23:09 · answer #4 · answered by PRIVATE 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't think the boyfriend is a great catch but on the other hand I have no use for dogs that bite at all. There are lots of dogs around that never bite anyone and when one does, they need to go. You could be up to your ears in lawsuits down the road if you aren't careful. I have been biten, and my children have also been biten by dogs. My daughter almost lost here eyesight from a neighbor dog that climbed into our car and bit here in the face when she was about 8 years old. I have no sympathy for them once they start to bite.
2006-10-27 13:29:27 · answer #5 · answered by oldguy63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has your dog ever bit anyone else? if not, maybe your dog is sensing something about your boyfriend that you are missing. Try to put yourself in your dogs shoes. you are laying on YOUR couch, in YOUR house, and someone told you to get off your couch, in a rude tone of voice, then grabbed you by your collar. You would probably bite to. I would.. Nitro has been a part of your family for five years. he is not going anywhere. You would feel terrible if you got rid of him. if your man is so quick to leave you for keeping your dog, let your man go. Nitro has been loyal to you, and will continue to be so...........
2006-10-27 13:00:59 · answer #6 · answered by matt 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oooh! A 3 hour ultimatum. Yes, thats the kind of person I'd want to partner with for the rest of my life.
No brainer, here. Not the answer, and not the boyfriend. (ex boyfriend, that is.)
By the way, they don't destroy dogs just for biting. Especially if the authorities find out the detail of how the event took place. Your BF does NOT know how to handle dogs. As one person mentioned, the dog was in his own territory.
Of course the dog shouldnt be biting, but he is a dog. An adult human should know better than to forcibly remove a dog who was othewise behaving himself.
Your choice, however. Get rid of a dog who's trainable, or get rid of a boyfriend who will also need some training on how to behave in polite society. How DARE him give you ultimatums!
2006-10-27 12:55:19 · answer #7 · answered by Vince M 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
trust the dog. how long have u been with the bloke for? dogs don't tend to get jelous as they pretty much always feel superior haha, does he (nitro) push between u when you hug or kiss? this wud show jelousy. What is Nitros general attitude to the guy? if he plain just doesn't like him that may not be jelousy but a thought of your in my space and its weird....am sure that nitro will be there for you long after the blokie...
2006-10-27 15:16:12 · answer #8 · answered by swayisonline 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your doberman has been with you alot longer and he thinks the new person is an intruder, he should make friends with the dog first and then get the pecking order established first before taking liberties, by grabbing a dog you don't know very well is a gesture of aggression, anyone that knows dogs should be aware of the pack behaviour, but the owner should be very firm and not allow the dog to be elevated to an equal status with a human by that i mean by allowing it on the sofa you are giving the dog a high position in the pack,give it its own bed on the floor.
2006-10-27 22:29:39 · answer #9 · answered by Amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get me wrong, I love animals, but my moms dog bit my little girl and it wasn't a deep bite but she did nothing about it. It really pissed me off because it was my little girl and her granddaughter and she apologized but did nothing to solve the problem. This sends a bad message to the loved one involved and feelings can be hurt very deeply. I would either change the importance of the relationship with my dog or find a new boyfriend that is at least more important to you than your dog. It almost sounds like you think he deserved to get bit. To complete the story above, three months later my mom's dog bit through her hand and then she had the dog put down. Once she got bit it became a problem, I hope you don't find out the hard way that a biteing dog is a big deal. Good Luck!
2006-10-27 13:23:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
In my opinion any dog that bites for any reason can no longer be trusted. You obviously have a different opinion. I agree that your boyfriend was wrong in grabbing the dog's collar, but your dog was also wrong in biting. The bottom line is that if your boyfriend insists on you choosing between them, you are going to have to make that choice. You might want to consider the possibility that this man is not very respectful of your dog and decide if that is the type of person you want to be with. Think about the type of man you want in your life and consider carefully if your boyfriend is that type of man or not. He obviously does not consider your dog to be part of your family like you do.
2006-10-27 13:06:46 · answer #11 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋